I need somebody to edit a read only pdf!

[NavyBlue2023]

Please no bashing I feel terrible enough.
My partner and me have been very on and off for the last 4 years of our relationship if you can call it that, sometimes hes gone months at a time and I dont hear anything from him.
3 years ago I slept with somebody else during a 5 month break, I never told him because he would say this is cheating. He has now decided he wants us to get back together properly move home and start again on the condition I do a lie detector test that says I have never slept with anybody else in the 12 years we have been together.
The pdf is read only and cannot be edited without special software. Obviously I dont want him finding out it was a mistake and I fully regret it but I'm not going to pass the test.
Where could I get the pdf edited? I will of course pay for the time of the person doing it.
I know this is really terrible of me but I want nothing more than us to work, no good will come of him finding out.

Do you really want to be with someone you need to lie to?

Do you really think he deserves you?

I promise you, if you end all contact with him and concentrate on enjoying life, you will have a far happier and healthier time than if you altered the pdf

You could have a fabulous future ahead of you. But not with him.

This is very much real not a made up story.
I know hes abusive he has been for the entire relationship in more ways than one. Yes I am trauma bonded to him, it's hard to explain but I just feel like I have to continually prove myself to him.
It will be different this time because he is setting the questions himself.
They are costing me £500 a time and I use a company called lie detector UK, I only did one in may! 😔

So YOU have to pay £500 a test? I've heard it all now.

Seriously, raise your bar and have some dignity. No good will come of this

Please put that £500 into getting yourself some help and support to be able to walk away from this one. He's not worth this!

You'll do this test and, even if you do manage to sort the paperwork out, there'll be something else in a few months that he wants you to pass with the promise that everything will be ok if you do.. he's really not worth this to you and that money is better spent on you and your mental health.

Oh come on, you can’t seriously be planning to pay £500 for one, then pay someone to alter the result? Agree in getting therapy with this money OP and get away from him. Don’t waste anymore money on this

This story gets worse and worse. Please don't go back to him. Who knows what he will dream up next.

They aren't even accurate.

Save the £500, use it to take a weekend away, or get your hair done & have a nice day out.

Leave the horrible man alone.

You don't need to edit pdfs, or take lie detector tests to be with a normal man.

You know you can just ‘open as word doc’, edit, then re-save as a PDF though, right?

Let me guess, you were 16 and he was 32 when you met?

Trauma bonded does not mean bonded for life.

You're making a choice to allow the trauma to bond you

You can make a different choice, tell the c*nt to fuck off and get help to heal the trauma

You do NOT have to choose to allow the trauma to bond you to this dreadful man

He was 18 when we met, first proper relationship for both of us

Oh, just dump the abusive cunt and block him from everything.

He'll accuse you of fucking the guy (or woman) who does the tests (which are bollocks, by the way) for fake results in any case.

Oh, @NavyBlue2023. This is madness. You know it's madness. I know it can feel almost impossible to break out of the kind of prison you find yourself in, but, fuck it, break out of it you must. Imagine the life you could be living when you give up this hell.

You need to leave.
Do not be with someone who needs a lie detector test.
You need to contact women's aid for help perhaps.

Escape into a new life of normality. Please.

1, lie detectors don't work. If they did the courts would just use them instead of the CJS.
2, wtf, leave this idiot and def don't pay yourself.

So let me get this straight. There are companies out there who actually sell these lie detector tests? And for what purpose do they sell them?

OP, if this is real your partner is a cunt and the companies who take this kind of money which enables people to abuse each other are utterly deplorable.

And let’s be realistic here OP, if you can edit a PDF then so can he. So his offering to do one as well is entirely irrelevant.

How many lie detector tests will he make you pay for until he gets the one that gives him the answer he's clearly looking for?

You did a test in May. And you're doing one now at the beginning of August. And this will be at least your third one. I guarantee he'll want another one before Christmas.

How many tests have you done so far, when did you do them and what answers is he looking for?

Spend the £ 500 on therapy to try and disentangle why you think this is in any way a reasonable demand.

I work a lot with PDF software. Increasingly I get contracts that have protections built in - without the password it's impossible to edit them. There are workarounds such as using photoshop to edit or whatever, but the metadata of the file might show changes.

These companies, if they are claiming to be reputable, will ensure that the contents can't be edited with password protections. If they aren't reputable, then anyone with my software would be able to change whatever they want - which defeats the purpose and the dubious integrity of the process.

You know that this is nuts. Deep down you do. You are blinded by panic and manipulation and years of abuse. Arent you exhausted from all his demands? Why not let him leave and give your head some peace, get counselling from Womens Aid and finally put an end to this abusive madness?

Jesus Christ.

Please just leave him

Oh, OP
You are so young. You have your whole life ahead of you.
You have already made a major leap with recognising he is abusive and that you are trauma bonded.

You deserve better. I know this because EVERYONE deserves better. You didn’t deserve whatever happened to you in your life to make you think you don’t deserve to be cherished. You deserve great things, and you are young enough to forge a beautiful life for yourself.

This time isn’t different. He’s just changed the bait.

If this is true, and it's so insane it looks like it's not, I assume you subconsciously slept with someone else to escape. Your subconscious brain was trying to save you from this colossal twat. Let it. Tell him.

Unless he's violent. Then just refuse and fade him out.

This is not a proper relationship