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I need somebody to edit a read only pdf!

131 replies

NavyBlue2023 · 02/08/2023 09:51

Please no bashing I feel terrible enough.
My partner and me have been very on and off for the last 4 years of our relationship if you can call it that, sometimes hes gone months at a time and I dont hear anything from him.
3 years ago I slept with somebody else during a 5 month break, I never told him because he would say this is cheating. He has now decided he wants us to get back together properly move home and start again on the condition I do a lie detector test that says I have never slept with anybody else in the 12 years we have been together.
The pdf is read only and cannot be edited without special software. Obviously I dont want him finding out it was a mistake and I fully regret it but I'm not going to pass the test.
Where could I get the pdf edited? I will of course pay for the time of the person doing it.
I know this is really terrible of me but I want nothing more than us to work, no good will come of him finding out.

OP posts:
BrunoMarzipan · 02/08/2023 11:01

You've already done two! Is he just waiting for a different answer to come up?!

homeforme · 02/08/2023 11:03

Please tell me this isn't real?

Cognitivedisonance · 02/08/2023 11:05

If only Jeremy Kyle was still around! Honestly just dump the Dickhead and fetch yourself an upgrade.

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Tinkerbyebye · 02/08/2023 11:06

Get some self respect

he is NEVER EVER going to trust you or let the past rest. Do a lie detector test! No way what will he ask for next? He will be controlling you all the time

its over, tell him that and find someone else who will respect you

Russooooo · 02/08/2023 11:09

You are in an abusive relationship.

He is an abuser.

Do not do a lie detector test. It is not part of a trusted, respectful adult relationship.

Instead, tell him firmly that you are not interested in a relationship with him, then block and move on.

caerdydd12 · 02/08/2023 11:10

Jesus Christ don't have him back in your life 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Greentree1 · 02/08/2023 11:12

I don't understand, you haven't done the test yet, but know you are going to fail and have to edit the PDF, but you've done two tests before that you passed, why don't you think you can pass this time?

You can get a PDF editor, but it might also be password protected. You could re-write the whole thing, changing the bits you want and save as a PDF. But surely he will get his own copy and the original will still exist in the records of whoever does the test. I would refuse to do another one, two is two too many already, why would he want another? Is he keeping trying until you fail and he can be proved right? How many has he done?

ManchesterLu · 02/08/2023 11:13

You shouldn't cheat.
He shouldn't need a lie detector to believe what you say (although clearly his instincts are right).

Own up.
Let him do what he needs to with the truth, and if that's break up, so be it. if he decides to work on things with you, improve your behaviour.

HolyShitDrJones · 02/08/2023 11:16

You’re never going to be enough for him, because he’s an abusive twat.
You’ve already done 2 lie detector tests (wtf, who does that??) and he’s still insisting on more.
Life is not meant to be this hard. He’s insisting on you jumping through unreasonable hoops to prove yourself - this is a huge red flag. Do yourself the biggest favour and tell him to fuck right off!

HolyShitDrJones · 02/08/2023 11:18

ManchesterLu · 02/08/2023 11:13

You shouldn't cheat.
He shouldn't need a lie detector to believe what you say (although clearly his instincts are right).

Own up.
Let him do what he needs to with the truth, and if that's break up, so be it. if he decides to work on things with you, improve your behaviour.

Improve your behaviour?
You think it’s reasonable that the op is having to do lie detector tests?

Ariela · 02/08/2023 11:20

Why is he asking you to do a lie detector test?

Deflection or what?!

What does he say when you ask how many people he slept with when you were on a break?

GoodChat · 02/08/2023 11:22

Tell him to fuck off, that you did have sex with somebody else and that he doesn't own you.

GoodChat · 02/08/2023 11:22

NavyBlue2023 · 02/08/2023 10:32

Thank you for all your replies. Yes he is adamant he didnt see anybody else and will take a test aswell, dont know what to do I know its unhealthy, just cant make that permanent break

Maybe the truth is the only way to get the permanent break

ohtobeme · 02/08/2023 11:32

You didn't actually cheat because you were not together then ?

You have not felt able to tell him that you saw other people when you were not together ?

If you can't be honest with someone you shouldn't be with them

Neverthebride1 · 02/08/2023 11:34

This is horrendously toxic. If you have children, I feel for them.

Thatboymum · 02/08/2023 11:39

This relationship is not normal by any means. He 100% has “cheated” in that time too lol. If you need to take a lie detector to be in a relationship that’s on and off more than a light you should not be in that relationship. Are you trauma bonded to this man or something because most normal people would not tolerate this and see there own worth

ImNotReallySpartacus · 02/08/2023 11:47

Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who disappears and does not contact you for months on end? Normal relationships, even if they are long distance relationships, don't work like that.

Sherrystrull · 02/08/2023 11:48

You were on a break.

I agree with the pp who says he will keep getting you to do one until you fail. Please don't consider going back to him.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 02/08/2023 11:55

He has now decided he wants us to get back together properly move home and start again on the condition I do a lie detector test that says I have never slept with anybody else in the 12 years we have been together

Operating on the basis that this is actually genuine, all I can say is fuck, I'm glad I'm single with no intention of ever changing that.

ActDottie · 02/08/2023 11:56

This has to be a troll post? If any man asked me to do a lie detector test he’d be straight out the door! This relationship sounds incredibly unhealthy.

kingtamponthefurred · 02/08/2023 13:31

I can't imagine why you want to be with such a control freak but if you can't find the self respect to break away, then just tell him the truth. A relationship based on lies and deceit is not worth having. And you don't need to apologise for sleeping with someone else when you were not a couple.

chezpopbang · 02/08/2023 13:32

Please please please speak to a women's charity and come to the conclusion this is abuse. He picks you up and drops you when he pleases and now he has the audacity to demand a lie detector. It will never work with this man. He will make you move and you will be 6 months down the lie and in the same position in a new location.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 02/08/2023 13:35

OP this has more red flags than a May Day parade. Step away and speak to Woman’s Aid or similar. Ask about the Freedom Programme.

Star81 · 02/08/2023 13:40

Honestly , it’s sounds like he’s been watching too much Jeremy Kyle . People don’t do lie detectors to base a relationship on.

You are 28, do you really want to be in a telationship with someone who disappears and when he’s about makes the relationship all in his terms ?

if your friend told you what you’ve written what would you say to them ?

he sounds controlling. Finish it and move on a be genuinely happy.

Shiloh139 · 02/08/2023 13:43

How much are you paying per lie detector test? Where are you even getting this done?!

Pay for a subscription to Adobe Pro which will enable you to edit PDFs. You can see this as an investment and, going forward, even just create your own PDF content in future and simply pretend you've had a lie detector test. However, you should probably ditch that idea along with your ex. Healthier for your bank balance and for you.