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Genius ideas to let me sleep in hotel room?

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InterferingOutsider · 01/08/2023 22:59

We're on holiday. Had DC together in twin room two doors down from us. DC1 didn't eat supper as felt unwell. DC2 did, then went up before dessert. She's been vomiting ever since - really violent, not much left but can't keep a mouthful of water or dioralyte down. DC1 has now started.

I'm now sat wrapped in my duvet in an office chair, but can't lean my head on anything. There's a boxy thin arm chair which is even more uncomfy and has a lower back. I'm going to have to sleep on the carpeted floor aren't I?

OP posts:
VeggieStraws · 02/08/2023 11:51

stayathomer · 02/08/2023 11:47

I always go for floor over chair (doesn’t help you now). Have to rtft but another who isn’t impressed with your dh. Honestly. Fuck men!!!

Fuck this man. But most men, most human beings wouldn't behave like this. I hope the OP realises how far from normal his actions are.

stayathomer · 02/08/2023 11:56

VeggieStraws
Actually the reason I said it is when children are sick it does mostly come down to the mother. Yes dh will help, and is great at the getting sheets off, helping out but but then he’ll disappear to bed when things look like they’re easing at all. We both work. My friends will all text about how they slept in a chair or on the ground because their children were sick. Again partners helped but then were tired or had work the next day. They all had work too! It’s a really common complaint. The complaint by op’s dh is especially awful though

barbieseyebrows · 02/08/2023 11:57

Is your husband emetophobic?

I say this as someone who has had CBT and been hypnotised twice, I've read all the books and still faint when my children are sick. I actually fainted in the bathroom once with my DS and had to have stitches on my forehead.

I cannot deal with them. My husband has to. However, it breaks my heart that I can't comfort them and I find being incapable is so terribly distressing.

So I will say this - if he's emetophobic, I get it and have compassion for him.

If not, and just lazy? Leave the fucker.

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stayathomer · 02/08/2023 11:58

VeggieStraws
Actually the reason I said it is when children are sick it does mostly come down to the mother. Yes dh will help, and is great at the getting sheets off, helping out but then he’ll disappear to bed when things look like they’re easing at all. We both work. My friends will all text about how they slept in a chair or on the ground because their children were sick. Again partners helped but then were tired or had work the next day. They all had work too! It’s a really common complaint. The complaint by op’s dh is especially awful though

stayathomer · 02/08/2023 11:58

VeggieStraws
Actually the reason I said it is when children are sick it does mostly come down to the mother. Yes dh will help, and is great at the getting sheets off, helping out but but then he’ll disappear to bed when things look like they’re easing at all. We both work. My friends will all text about how they slept in a chair or on the ground because their children were sick. Again partners helped but then were tired or had work the next day. They all had work too! It’s a really common complaint. The complaint by op’s dh is especially awful though

tootallfortheshelf · 02/08/2023 12:03

barbieseyebrows · 02/08/2023 11:57

Is your husband emetophobic?

I say this as someone who has had CBT and been hypnotised twice, I've read all the books and still faint when my children are sick. I actually fainted in the bathroom once with my DS and had to have stitches on my forehead.

I cannot deal with them. My husband has to. However, it breaks my heart that I can't comfort them and I find being incapable is so terribly distressing.

So I will say this - if he's emetophobic, I get it and have compassion for him.

If not, and just lazy? Leave the fucker.

The husband in question is most definitely not heartbroken and distressed that he cannot comfort his sick children, rather he is behaving as if they are not his problem.
Ergo he is a lazy arrogant fucker

VeggieStraws · 02/08/2023 12:05

Him cursing at them and the OP appearing too afraid to go into the room to get spare bedding to make herself comfortable take this way out of the realms of a bloke being a bit crap with sick kids.

IamWaldo · 02/08/2023 12:26

VeggieStraws · 02/08/2023 12:05

Him cursing at them and the OP appearing too afraid to go into the room to get spare bedding to make herself comfortable take this way out of the realms of a bloke being a bit crap with sick kids.

I agree! I’m not sure why the lack of keycard is such an issue when she could have just gone and knocked on DH’s door… so the fact that was never an option even just to pick up the pillow and blanket from her own bed speaks volumes. OP’s refusal to comment any further on DH despite so many comments disparaging him looks like she might be in a pretty big world of denial as to his behaviour and how much she avoids upsetting him. Loads of big red flags here OP - take your time to sit down with your thoughts when this is all over. In the meantime I hope the kids and you are doing OK and the vomiting has ended for all. Has that been me and for whatever reason I wanted to prioritise my DH’s sleep I would have knocked on DH’s door and grabbed my bedding to take to the kids room to sleep on the floor. It’s worrying you didn’t feel you could even do that.

BlossomCloud · 02/08/2023 12:40

IamWaldo · 02/08/2023 12:26

I agree! I’m not sure why the lack of keycard is such an issue when she could have just gone and knocked on DH’s door… so the fact that was never an option even just to pick up the pillow and blanket from her own bed speaks volumes. OP’s refusal to comment any further on DH despite so many comments disparaging him looks like she might be in a pretty big world of denial as to his behaviour and how much she avoids upsetting him. Loads of big red flags here OP - take your time to sit down with your thoughts when this is all over. In the meantime I hope the kids and you are doing OK and the vomiting has ended for all. Has that been me and for whatever reason I wanted to prioritise my DH’s sleep I would have knocked on DH’s door and grabbed my bedding to take to the kids room to sleep on the floor. It’s worrying you didn’t feel you could even do that.

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I agree.

@InterferingOutsider I know this will take time to process. It may take you time to get to a place where you feel able to leave. But this is no way to live.

cocksstrideintheevening · 02/08/2023 13:23

InterferingOutsider · 01/08/2023 23:04

no space for a foldaway bed unfortunately. They've already given me one replacement set of bedding! DH won't look after DC if they're I'll, he's buggered off to bed after cursing them and me for asking him to come and help.
I tried but the cushions won't come off the chair.

You got a special one there op.

ZoeDavoMCR · 02/08/2023 13:42

This thread has much bigger issues than staying up one night with sick children. Why are you so compliant with your husband treating you so badly? Please reflect on this experience and seriously consider why you are tolerating this - it’s not normal, fair or acceptable. I really do feel for you and get the impression you feel trapped as you are a SAHM and more than likely financially reliant on your husband but there really is a way out of this sham relationship you have found yourself stuck in

luckylavender · 02/08/2023 13:45

CheekyHusky · 01/08/2023 23:10

Put DH in the twin room, you + DC in the double

This

Scaryghost · 02/08/2023 14:48

Exfp and myself took it in turns to sleep on the floor with the dog when he was ill, never mind the kids!!

BitOutOfPractice · 02/08/2023 14:51

I hope the dc is ok and you manage to get home op.

and when you’ve unpacked, have a long hard think about your relationship because, from where I’m standing, it sucks.

Massy · 02/08/2023 14:55

I suggest you ask your DH whether he would help in an emergency. Then ask 'what constitutes an emergency?' Given that in the most serious circumstances you would call 999 and leave the professionals to it, I wonder what that would leave!

Mariposista · 02/08/2023 15:25

Ughhhh get home, get a job a dn some financial security and take steps to leave this horrible man!

QueenBitch666 · 02/08/2023 17:47

What kind of low life wank stain neglects his sick children?

MamskiBell · 02/08/2023 19:46

InterferingOutsider · 01/08/2023 23:04

no space for a foldaway bed unfortunately. They've already given me one replacement set of bedding! DH won't look after DC if they're I'll, he's buggered off to bed after cursing them and me for asking him to come and help.
I tried but the cushions won't come off the chair.

Well....ain't he a keeper?

Seriously though, there would be a serious conversation going on once things had settled. That's not on. Not on at all.

MamskiBell · 02/08/2023 19:47

InterferingOutsider · 01/08/2023 22:59

We're on holiday. Had DC together in twin room two doors down from us. DC1 didn't eat supper as felt unwell. DC2 did, then went up before dessert. She's been vomiting ever since - really violent, not much left but can't keep a mouthful of water or dioralyte down. DC1 has now started.

I'm now sat wrapped in my duvet in an office chair, but can't lean my head on anything. There's a boxy thin arm chair which is even more uncomfy and has a lower back. I'm going to have to sleep on the carpeted floor aren't I?

Could you push the 2 beds together and all bunk in together?

TwitTwont · 02/08/2023 23:01

@InterferingOutsider did you make it home?

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InterferingOutsider · 03/08/2023 06:14

@TwitTwont yes thanks. Not a trip I want to repeat! We even got a taxi home from the station rather than wait 40 mins for the connection as even he realised DC2 needed to be home asap. DC1 seems better, DC2 decided she wanted food but still can't keep anything down. Went to bed early and is still asleep, so hope she'll feel better today. "D"H has gone into the office, so we're going to have a recovery day. Don't feel great, hoping it's lack of sleep rather than me going down with it.

OP posts:
Lalalalala555 · 03/08/2023 11:41

SAHM does not mean the other parent is revoked of all childcare responsibilities and a basic level of care and compassion towards their partner.
You are not his slave.

Stop worrying about the sleeping. The solution is to tell him he is a dad, he is your partner.
You deserve a night's sleep as much as he does.
He takes one kid, you take the other.
You both get to sort of sleep.
Its fair.
Plus then each kid gets an adult to care for them.

SAHM or parent is the job whilst the other parnter is out at work. When they get back then it's back to sharing tasks and responsibilities.
The sah person never leaves work and is always on duty. The person who works has the benefit of never having to worry about household tasks or parenting.

Otherwise it's unfair.

I think tbh you should quit SAHM and make some savings for yourself. Tell him your going to split tasks equitably from now on. He is not being a partner, he is being a selfish individual that doesn't care about you or his kids.

Lessonsinbiology · 03/08/2023 14:46

Hopefully you will not be Ill with it too. That is seriously shitty behaviour from your H. How can anyone be so horrible!?

YerArseInParsley · 03/08/2023 17:00

Omg 😲

Sahm means u deal with everything kid related even on holiday, even when both kids are sick and he skips off to bed and refuses to help? How can u let this man touch u? How can u not resent him? U haven't admitted he's a c*nt.

Do not look after him if he gets I'll. What a selfish pig.

MmmmSausageRolls · 03/08/2023 17:20

barbieseyebrows · 02/08/2023 11:57

Is your husband emetophobic?

I say this as someone who has had CBT and been hypnotised twice, I've read all the books and still faint when my children are sick. I actually fainted in the bathroom once with my DS and had to have stitches on my forehead.

I cannot deal with them. My husband has to. However, it breaks my heart that I can't comfort them and I find being incapable is so terribly distressing.

So I will say this - if he's emetophobic, I get it and have compassion for him.

If not, and just lazy? Leave the fucker.

Even if the husband is emetophobic, he can be supportive (taking the child not being sick, arranging extra bedding, checking in on OP, ensuring she has a key to get back into their room etc). Sounds like he's just gone 'not my problem' and fucked off to bed.

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