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Genius ideas to let me sleep in hotel room?

224 replies

InterferingOutsider · 01/08/2023 22:59

We're on holiday. Had DC together in twin room two doors down from us. DC1 didn't eat supper as felt unwell. DC2 did, then went up before dessert. She's been vomiting ever since - really violent, not much left but can't keep a mouthful of water or dioralyte down. DC1 has now started.

I'm now sat wrapped in my duvet in an office chair, but can't lean my head on anything. There's a boxy thin arm chair which is even more uncomfy and has a lower back. I'm going to have to sleep on the carpeted floor aren't I?

OP posts:
BrieAndChilli · 01/08/2023 23:19

I just asked DH what his solution would be if we had 2 kids and outlined the sickness/hotel issue and he looked a bit puzzled and said we would have 1 each in each room with a’doh’ obvious look on his face.
that is what parents do, not leave someone to deal with it alone and let them be uncomfortable.
the only situation I could see it being ok is if 1 person was going to do all the driving so makes sense for them to get some sleep as the others can sleep in the car.

Toddler101 · 01/08/2023 23:19

InterferingOutsider · 01/08/2023 23:14

Oh I hope not, we're supposed to be going home tomorrow. (Train, 4.5 hours, 4 changes 😫)
Both rooms are twin, and I can't get back into our room as there's only one key and it also works the lights.

I can't decide which is the lesser of two evils, hotel carpet floor or squashed into ill DC's bed.... (DC are not toddlers, DC1 is taller than me!)

Ask housekeeping/ reception for a second key card so you can get in to DH and deliver him a child, or to wearing out a puke towel on his head before booting him out to do a shift himself.

LadyFlumpalot · 01/08/2023 23:20

I'm sorry, your DH refused to look after his OWN children, and cursed them for being ill and you for asking for help? What's going to happen if you catch the bug as well?

Re sleeping, if the duvet is big enough, make a sleeping bag on the floor, or ask the hotel to send up more bedding. They'll understand and will be happy to help.

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Toddler101 · 01/08/2023 23:20

*wring out a puke towel, not wearing out 🥴

Turmerictolly · 01/08/2023 23:20

Can he not bring the bedding in from your room at least so you can kip on the floor?

PriamFarrl · 01/08/2023 23:20

He’s locked you out of the room? What a twat.

In all seriousness you can’t take kids this ill on a train. Can you book an extra night?

Mmhmmn · 01/08/2023 23:21

ghislaine · 01/08/2023 23:02

Call housekeeping and ask them to bring up a foldaway bed.

THIS. Their food has made DCs sick. It's least they can do!!

BitOutOfPractice · 01/08/2023 23:23

So he’s locked you out of your room and left you to cope all night with two ill kids while he sleeps like a log alone?

go and wake him up. Deliver one child to him. Don’t even say a word. Just hand them over.

I am utterly appalled by his behaviour and your meek compliance with it.

Hohohoholidays · 01/08/2023 23:26

You can put any card into the lights thing- a rewards card etc would be fine then you can take the key to that room.
Also you can't still be thinking you are going to get on a train tomorrow- you'll need to wait 48 hours after the puking has stopped, it would be incredibly selfish to inflict this bug on the general public

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InterferingOutsider · 01/08/2023 23:27

Do you realise how completely unreasonable that is from your DH?

I was going to suggest he took DC1 but was 10 minutes too late. I'm a sahm so sick DC are my job.

@UnsungShero yes, but he thinks he's being reasonable, and I'm in the middle of dealing with DC so I do feel a bit of resentment tbh. DC2 is also not happy with him.

OP posts:
Leftphalange100 · 01/08/2023 23:29

You are saying that like it's completely normal behaviour from a husband! It's not, he sounds like an absolute balloon

RedHelenB · 01/08/2023 23:29

Do the children need you in the room with them, how old are they?

Quitelikeacatslife · 01/08/2023 23:30

You are on holiday too , go knock on door and get key, you may need your things, and to deliver a child . Stand up to him

thisisasurvivor · 01/08/2023 23:30

InterferingOutsider · 01/08/2023 23:04

no space for a foldaway bed unfortunately. They've already given me one replacement set of bedding! DH won't look after DC if they're I'll, he's buggered off to bed after cursing them and me for asking him to come and help.
I tried but the cushions won't come off the chair.

He's an utter Prik sorry op

Sending good wishes your way xxxx

TyrannasaurusJex · 01/08/2023 23:32

I was going to suggest he took DC1 but was 10 minutes too late. I'm a sahm so sick DC are my job
No no no no no no no!

  1. sahm or not, you are both parents, nothing is solely ine ofnyour jobs when it comes to your children.
  2. YOU'RE ON HOLIDAY! I presume he's not up for work in the morning???
  3. Is he abusive? Because he sounds it.
QuestionableMouse · 01/08/2023 23:32

Can't believe what a useless lazy twat you're married to! Sorry you're saddled with him!

How old are the kids? Can they top and tail in one bed and you take the other?

Gregging · 01/08/2023 23:33

Sounds awful OP.

Practically, does this seem like norovirus? Rapid onset violently being sick… or food poisoning? If noro, do not sleep in their bed. Carpet or no sleep and make sure you follow best hygiene you can and hope for the best.

GameOverBoys · 01/08/2023 23:34

I feel sad that you seem to accept your husband behaviour.

FlamingYam · 01/08/2023 23:35

I understand kids being a SAHMs main "job" in some respects but he gets to sleep peacefully while you sleep in an office chair looking after two vomiting kids? What the fuck! You need to leave. Is he not worried about his family? Wanting to make sure they're ok?

I know this isn't what you asked but you need to Leave that fucking wanker.

Iudncuewbccgrcb · 01/08/2023 23:35

I'm going against the grain and saying keep both children with you.

You won't trust him to look after them properly anyway.

It's amazing how comfy a bath can be with a few pillows and a duvet. Ring housekeeping again for some extras.

BitOutOfPractice · 01/08/2023 23:37

You feel a bit of resentment? A bit? I would be absolutely furious with him. I don’t think I could ever look at him the same again after this. Honestly, I’m furious on your behalf.

Airyfairy99 · 01/08/2023 23:37

Its 1 night ? I work permanent nights without childcare or a husband to help! Can u not cuddle up in single bed or do top to toe ? Hope your dc feels better soon.

Jibo · 01/08/2023 23:38

Go to reception and get another keycard for your room.

How old are the children? If they are old enough to be on their own in a hotel room in the first place, and one is bigger than you, so you actually need to sit with them all night?

Oftenaddled · 01/08/2023 23:38

If kids are old enough to be in the room alone, do they really need you sleeping in there with them?

If they are too young to be alone, reception will probably arrange foldaway bed or extra duvets which you can use for on the floor.

If they are old enough, I'd arrange phone in each room (your and husband's mobiles or hotel phone if straightforward), sugary drinks, check hourly ... would you be sitting in their room with them at home? Would hotel have / phones double as baby monitor?

Good luck.

LoveBluey · 01/08/2023 23:38

Hope the kids are better soon.

But nope being a SAHM is completely irrelevant when it comes to sickness and especially when you're on holiday and he doesn't even have to deal wit his paid employment. That just means you never ever get a day off if you're always left to solo parent.
Weekend and holidays should be completely shared and if anything he should pick up a bit more of the slack so you get some time off.

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