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Genius ideas to let me sleep in hotel room?

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InterferingOutsider · 01/08/2023 22:59

We're on holiday. Had DC together in twin room two doors down from us. DC1 didn't eat supper as felt unwell. DC2 did, then went up before dessert. She's been vomiting ever since - really violent, not much left but can't keep a mouthful of water or dioralyte down. DC1 has now started.

I'm now sat wrapped in my duvet in an office chair, but can't lean my head on anything. There's a boxy thin arm chair which is even more uncomfy and has a lower back. I'm going to have to sleep on the carpeted floor aren't I?

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FarEast · 02/08/2023 00:03

What an appalling father!

Bromptotoo · 02/08/2023 00:03

Like others here I can't believe DH, he is the kids' biological father I assume, can just tuck himself up in your room and leave you with 2*puking kids.

I'm not good with vomit; risk that the smell alone will have me adding mine to the mix. Similar with shit. But if you're a parent you have to do these things.

My own DD, now 30, was only seriously sick after the posseting stage around twice before hitting her teens. Both involved my Mother and poorly kept/poorly cooked sausages while I was there with both kids.

We got by.

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InterferingOutsider · 02/08/2023 00:05

11&13, but eldest has SN, panics when ill. Asleep though. DC2 isn't managing half an hour without violent retching. Came out of nowhere, although DC1 complained about 5 pm he didn't feel well and didn't eat dinner. DC2 seemed fine.

There are no spare key cards. We've stayed here before and usually get two per room, but they're fully booked and waiting on the delivery of a new batch and can only issue 1 per room.

I've just got her back to bed 🤞

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GameOverBoys · 01/08/2023 23:34

I feel sad that you seem to accept your husband behaviour.

It's so sad how It's shrugged off.

Bromptotoo · 02/08/2023 00:07

Whenever we're in hotels with key cards, particularly since they're needed to keep the leccy on, is to insist on two. Not uncommon for one of us to stay out later or go for a an early morning walk while other stays sleeping.

That said, I've never have thought the need to throw a sick child at a reclitrant (uncaring?) partner might have been a reason.

Canisaysomething · 02/08/2023 00:08

Being a SAHM doesn't mean your DH just opts out of being a parent altogether! You're on holiday, it's your holiday too! I have everything crossed he gets a horrid case of the shits and you don't lift a finger to help.

fortnumsfinest · 02/08/2023 00:13

was going to suggest he took DC1 but was 10 minutes too late. I'm a sahm so sick DC are my job

Mumsnet never fails to amaze me.

EscapeRoomToTheSun · 02/08/2023 00:17

Smother your selfish arsehole of a husband and use him as a mattress 👍

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BestZebbie · 02/08/2023 00:20

You get the keycard if you need it - if he is asleep he doesn't need the light on, does he? And I'm sure he has a phone torch should he wake up and need the loo...
If he were to decide to leave the room (which he shouldn't be doing unless he is coming to help you) and then get locked out he can knock on the door of your room for one.

Shutuptrevor · 02/08/2023 00:21

Stay awake finding a shit hot divorce lawyer.

IcedGemsandPartyRings · 02/08/2023 00:27

A credit card will usually keep the leccy on.

NoSquirrels · 02/08/2023 00:36

I'm a sahm so sick DC are my job.

Not when you’re ON HOLIDAY! You’re BOTH on holiday. He’s got not magical Get Out of Parenting Free card on bloody holiday!

Anyway, as you’re clearly in ‘best of a bad job situation’ I’d ask the hotel for a spare foldaway mattress or any extra bedding possible.

And plan on an extra day at the hotel.

Avatartar · 02/08/2023 00:38

In one way I hope you get it too so you can be sure to puke in his lap on the train! What an arsehole. Housekeeping hopefully have a blow up mattress or a camp bed. If they don’t ask them to call your DH’s room to wake him up and ask him to bring a mattress to your room- selfish man - he deserves a sleepless night too!

tootallfortheshelf · 02/08/2023 00:47

Sending you strength OP🙏💙, very tough situation made even worse by the person who's supposed to be on your team
I'd just do whatever seems the least worst way to help you cope with the immediate situation.
Then when things are stable have a good think about whats in your long term best interests.

PrincessFiorimonde · 02/08/2023 00:50

Smother your selfish arsehole of a husband and use him as a mattress 👍

I think @EscapeRoomToTheSun has it here.

Hope you're ok, OP Flowers

OfficerChurlish · 02/08/2023 00:56

There are no spare key cards. We've stayed here before and usually get two per room, but they're fully booked and waiting on the delivery of a new batch and can only issue 1 per room.

The overnight staff at the front desk can have someone escort you up to your room and let you in with a universal key card. Then you get what you need and take the room card when you go back to the children's room.

ejbaxa · 02/08/2023 01:00

your dh is a monster

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 02/08/2023 01:04

InterferingOutsider · 01/08/2023 23:14

Oh I hope not, we're supposed to be going home tomorrow. (Train, 4.5 hours, 4 changes 😫)
Both rooms are twin, and I can't get back into our room as there's only one key and it also works the lights.

I can't decide which is the lesser of two evils, hotel carpet floor or squashed into ill DC's bed.... (DC are not toddlers, DC1 is taller than me!)

Call reception to let you into DH room and put the less-ill child in with him.

Call a divorce lawyer when you get home.

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 02/08/2023 01:07

OfficerChurlish · 02/08/2023 00:56

There are no spare key cards. We've stayed here before and usually get two per room, but they're fully booked and waiting on the delivery of a new batch and can only issue 1 per room.

The overnight staff at the front desk can have someone escort you up to your room and let you in with a universal key card. Then you get what you need and take the room card when you go back to the children's room.

Exactly.

Stop being so defeatist, OP.

What an utter ass he is.

benandholly03 · 02/08/2023 01:09

Im guessing hes the type of father who at the weekend says its his time off and refuses to help?

Think of your children if not yourself. Either you are allowing them to be taught that its childcare is woman's work or your teaching them to be used as door mats.

Spend your night googling how to find your spine- if not for you, for your DC.

benandholly03 · 02/08/2023 01:16

Honestly OP you may as well be a single parent at this point.

I had DD when I was 18 and it was just me and her until 2 years ago. During that period I went to university, worked 2 jobs and found time to spend time with her without a partner or family support because her Dad was a useless piece of shit back then and my family didnt want to know.

Stop coming up with excuses for his shitty behaviour. He has no reason to change because YOU allow him to get away with it.

Its like a tantruming toddler being brought a toy to shut them up- they know youll back down and theyll get their own way so why would he change.

I feel sorry for your DC tbh.

UnicornStarfish · 02/08/2023 01:28

If the DH won't help, by all means sleep on the floor or get into bed with your child BUT when you get home LTB and enjoy all that wonderful free space on your double bed.

DragonDoor · 02/08/2023 01:47

I’m so sorry to read about how horrible your evening has been and how sick your children are. I hope you all manage to get some sleep.

Your husband’s reaction isn’t normal and he sounds completely devoid if empathy.

OP, this comment of yours really sticks out ..

I can't get back into our room as there's only one key and it also works the lights.

People in a caring relationship wouldn’t hesitate to knock on a door if they had forgotten a key, as their partner would get up and let them inside.

But here it sounds as though you didn’t even feel as though you could take the key, as it could be inconvenient to your husband.

You are walking on eggshells around him- get out of the relationship as soon as you can, as it will only get worse. You need to put yourself and your children first

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InterferingOutsider · 02/08/2023 02:02

O.M.G. When will this stop? You can't break a rib from it can you? Or do any damage? Should I try to get DC2 to eat something so she has something to throw up?

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