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Original poster

My cousins are here for two weeks

150 replies

thisisasurvivor · 31/07/2023 09:57

Two weeks is a long time to think a family can tour them around
Cook and clean for them?

Or am I being too mean?

I'm so sick of walking in pee from the husband in the toilet
It's everywhere

I just had to clear all his breakfast food up
With a baby in my arms screaming her head off

Aghhhhhhhjjj

Sorry all just needed to vent

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MaggieFS · 31/07/2023 21:47

Whether drunk or not, argumentative or not, this is totally unacceptable in someone else's home. And I would not have my kids thinking it was ok.

I'd be reading the riot act... you are very welcome as long as you treat my family, my home and me with respect. Drinking that much, arguing, passing out on my sofa, the plates and the state of the toilet are not on. Please don't do it again or you will have to find somewhere else to stay.

Original poster
thisisasurvivor · 31/07/2023 21:48

True

It's utter shit
Pardon the pun

I would never do this in someone's house

The bin
The toilet paper the other night
So many things covered in piss

Fck sake

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runningonberocca · 31/07/2023 21:50

I actually don’t know how you’ve been so tolerant. If I sat in a drunk man’s piss in my own home I would be livid!!!
Even if he did just aim badly why is he not cleaning it up?! What kind of state is his own place in?
If I was his partner I’d be both furious and mortified. Have you had a chance to talk to her about it?

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thisisasurvivor · 31/07/2023 21:51

She's mortified

This was part of why they were fighting
So she sent him downstairs

Don't blame her

(She is actually very lovely and wants to pay for meals and cook for us I do the driving everywhere and took time off from work)

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MaggieFS · 31/07/2023 21:56

Sounds like you'd all have a far better time if he went home? She's mortified, has he actually said anything?

Ylvamoon · 31/07/2023 22:00

Can't you look up some accommodation in the next town (or once about 100 pissing miles away by train??) and suggest a few nights there. So they can enjoy the nightlife?
I mean it must hard being always restricted to daytime activities around the children's schedules!

DismantledKing · 31/07/2023 22:00

You’re fucking ridiculous for putting up with any of this. They’re treating you with utter contempt, and you’re going back for more.

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thisisasurvivor · 31/07/2023 22:02

MaggieFS · 31/07/2023 21:56

Sounds like you'd all have a far better time if he went home? She's mortified, has he actually said anything?

No he doesn't say a thing

Just really shitty to be honest

But I can't ask them to leave I just can't

I live and learn

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Mellowautumnmists · 31/07/2023 22:05

@thisisasurvivor

But I can't ask them to leave I just can't

Why not!?!?!?

Original poster
thisisasurvivor · 31/07/2023 22:05

They are cousins and hotels nearby are 250 per night

I just can't

His wife is mortified

He doesn't give a shit
Poss head

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MaggieFS · 31/07/2023 22:12

They are cousins so it's ok to treat your home like this?

Do her a favour and tell him to do one, it sounds like she's too intimidated. You don't have to be.

Andylion · 31/07/2023 23:15

thisisasurvivor · 31/07/2023 22:05

They are cousins and hotels nearby are 250 per night

I just can't

His wife is mortified

He doesn't give a shit
Poss head

Which one is your cousin?

ThePoetsWife · 01/08/2023 07:13

thisisasurvivor · 31/07/2023 22:05

They are cousins and hotels nearby are 250 per night

I just can't

His wife is mortified

He doesn't give a shit
Poss head

Then stop moaning 🙄

RampantIvy · 01/08/2023 07:21

If they are married to each other how are they both cousins to you? Or is it a cousin marriage?

I'm sorry but you really need to be more direct about the bathroom situation. And never have them to stay again.

RedHelenB · 01/08/2023 07:47

CharliesAngles · 31/07/2023 10:35

@Hoppinggreen

I know, I’m a fecking mug. I asked them about the the toilet and they blamed the child saying and I quote “she is famous for not flushing!”.

Re the air hockey table holes - apparently they were already there…

Yeah… No.

So don't have them to stay again.

coodawoodashooda · 01/08/2023 07:52

Keykaty · 31/07/2023 10:45

Two nights is the maximum here. We are close enough to the airport/trains so the deal is they can stay over and be on their way pronto. This is understood now, but it took a while to get the rule in place!

How did you establish the rule?

rainbowstardrops · 01/08/2023 08:24

Is pissy pants your cousin or his wife?

I still don't understand why people don't just communicate effectively though 🤷🏻‍♀️

EnjoyingTheSilence · 01/08/2023 09:33

You absolutely do not have to put up with it. Lose your shit at him and tell him he either cleans up after himself or he finds a hotel

newfloorplease · 01/08/2023 09:38

Who is your cousin, the disgusting husband or the wife @thisisasurvivor ?

PriamFarrl · 01/08/2023 09:42

And this is why no one stays with me for more than a couple of days. I wouldn’t let my own mother stay for two weeks.

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thisisasurvivor · 01/08/2023 10:30

newfloorplease · 01/08/2023 09:38

Who is your cousin, the disgusting husband or the wife @thisisasurvivor ?

The man is the relative

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Original poster
thisisasurvivor · 01/08/2023 10:31

MaggieFS · 31/07/2023 22:12

They are cousins so it's ok to treat your home like this?

Do her a favour and tell him to do one, it sounds like she's too intimidated. You don't have to be.

Yes agree !!

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amusedbush · 01/08/2023 10:50

If Grubby McPissySocks is "faaaaamily" and feels comfortable enough to rub his arse cheeks on your couch, you should feel comfortable enough to tell him to go home. You say you just can't but really, you can. He's gross and shows no respect for you or your belongings.

Granted, I don't invite house guests and I can only tolerate (most of) my family for the length of a meal but TWO WEEKS? Nope, nope, nope.

newfloorplease · 01/08/2023 11:24

Because the man is a relative it makes it easier.
Take him aside and tell him you won't be putting up with his behaviour any longer.
It's disgusting behaviour and actually letting your family down.
He either changes his behaviour or you will ask them to leave.

MaggieFS · 01/08/2023 12:01

newfloorplease · 01/08/2023 11:24

Because the man is a relative it makes it easier.
Take him aside and tell him you won't be putting up with his behaviour any longer.
It's disgusting behaviour and actually letting your family down.
He either changes his behaviour or you will ask them to leave.

I agree with this.

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