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Is there truth in when someone says something when they're drunk? friend texted me whilst drunk.

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juyeti · 27/07/2023 23:44

Friend is away for a couple of days for a stag do. He doesn't normally drink so guessing not much would render him quite drunk. Last night I received a text at 1am but didn't see it till this morning. It was written terribly with a lot of typos and repeated letters in words so took me a few moments to understand what it said. The coherent version...without some random stuff at the beginning..

"Juyetii, poppy. I miss you. I wish you were here with me. Its so fucking beautiful. So so beautiful. Is it too late to tell you how I feel. You're the one. Let's go back to the beginning. I'm just wasting time. I know it might be complicated but it doesn't matter. it will be okay. I'm too fucking scared to tell you. I wish you feel the same.

I haven't received anything from him yet nor have I replied. I don't know what to make it of it really. Im pretty sure he was drunk when he sent it. Does he actually mean it if he was drunk? Do I bring it up / ignore it?! I've been thinking about it all day!

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HopityHope · 30/07/2023 11:16

Beautiful update!

I really hope you get to be you and happy with him and not dictated to by what you should do.

KingsHeath53 · 30/07/2023 11:26

Also OP, from a religious perspective my read would be Allah put this man in your life for a reason x

BettyBoops · 30/07/2023 11:27

This is possibly the loveliest thread I've ever read 🥰 I'm so happy for you op and wish you both many years of love & happiness 💕

Letterposter · 30/07/2023 11:32

That is such a beautiful update! I am literally beaming so happy for you.

i had the religion/ family struggle, for years after even but honestly it is just about perspective and bottom line, simply being a good person. It’s taken my family a very long time but now they adore my partner as much as I do.

I have cousins who’ve had arranged marriages, one in particular who’s had two and both have ended in divorce and she now has a small child and lives with her parents. Years earlier, there was a non Muslim guy who adored her and I often wonder if her life would be much happier had she just listened to her heart but she has her beautiful boy and I just hope she finds the courage to find someone for herself

my other friend was very practicing for years, up until she hit 38. Hadn’t had sex, lived a very sheltered life but with no marriage on the horizon for her she decided to travel on her own and ended up having sex with someone she loved. She is now in her 40s and They didn’t end up together but she says herself she did everything ‘right’ and now wants to live her life for herself.

bringing together two cultures is hard enough, then throw in religion and family. Now that is even harder but I really do believe that love does indeed conquer all, atleast it did in my case.

I’ll check back in from time to time op. Wish you all the best. X

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 30/07/2023 11:55

You sound amazing, OP, and so does he, in that he understands you. It's wonderful that he is foremost a good friend. As to the religion bit, I did what I thought was expected of me by my parents and the church and the marriage was a disaster (abusive). If he says he is agnostic it means he is prepared to be tolerant and open to learning, hopefully. Follow your heart, and remember that G-d is Love ❤️ But yes, you sound very sensible. I am thrilled for you both.

Slimyeti · 30/07/2023 12:22

Are you sure an (also drunk) "Friend" didn't borrow his phone?

AutumnCrow · 30/07/2023 12:41

Slimyeti · 30/07/2023 12:22

Are you sure an (also drunk) "Friend" didn't borrow his phone?

I think she’s fairly sure, yes.

DancingFerret · 30/07/2023 12:42

Slimyeti · 30/07/2023 12:22

Are you sure an (also drunk) "Friend" didn't borrow his phone?

Take the trouble to read the thread and you'll have an answer.

HarrietPoole · 30/07/2023 12:48

graceinspace999 · 28/07/2023 14:13

I wonder if he doesn’t usually drink because it gives him problems? A heavy drinker? Alcoholic?

Drunk texting would be a red flag or a warning for me.

Doesn’t Mumsnet usually warn against drunken men?

I don’t know though….it would be lovely if it worked out but personally I’d proceed with caution…

Oh, FFS. Typical MN to leap to the abusive alcoholic conclusion in a single bound.

KingsHeath53 · 30/07/2023 12:56

@graceinspace999 he was at a stag do!!!

MrsPerfect12 · 30/07/2023 13:22

Love this! I hope your family will be accepting but if they're not please follow you're heart and live your life.
I appreciate it's complicated and easy for me to say but I'd hate for you not to have your happy ending.
You'll have to keep us updated on how it all progresses 🥰

marcopront · 30/07/2023 13:50

@JenWillsiam

Why so snide? Sometimes people read, write something nice and run

Alternatively some people think their opinion is so special that there is no need to think this was posted a few days ago so maybe it has moved on or maybe someone has said what I said.

BitOutOfPractice · 30/07/2023 14:07

Oh op I am so happy to read this update. I have to say you both sound lovely and i Really hope you find true happiness together.

and get those brake pads sorted! 😉

BitOutOfPractice · 30/07/2023 14:08

As for the people wading in without rtft, do yourself a favour and read it properly, it’s a real treat!

JenWillsiam · 30/07/2023 14:08

marcopront · 30/07/2023 13:50

@JenWillsiam

Why so snide? Sometimes people read, write something nice and run

Alternatively some people think their opinion is so special that there is no need to think this was posted a few days ago so maybe it has moved on or maybe someone has said what I said.

It was a nice comment. Yours was not.

Inkanta · 30/07/2023 14:15

Ahh really heartwarming💘 Have read every page. Good luck!

AWholeExtraRoom · 30/07/2023 15:06
i rule breakfast club GIF

Hey, hey, hey, HEY! 😃

CockSpadget · 30/07/2023 15:53

Beyond adorable ❤️

KingsHeath53 · 30/07/2023 16:04

@BitOutOfPractice i read the whole lot over my morning coffee and it was better than a soap opera, i was cheering at the end 😂

TribeD · 30/07/2023 16:05

@juyeti what a lovely update 🥰 wising you all the best x

VerbenaGirl · 30/07/2023 16:11

Message him back to say that it sounds like he’s having a fun time and ask for the non-drunk version of that declaration.

EarthlyNightshade · 30/07/2023 16:18

VerbenaGirl · 30/07/2023 16:11

Message him back to say that it sounds like he’s having a fun time and ask for the non-drunk version of that declaration.

Can I ask why you only read the OP and nothing more?

graceinspace999 · 30/07/2023 16:33

HarrietPoole · 30/07/2023 12:48

Oh, FFS. Typical MN to leap to the abusive alcoholic conclusion in a single bound.

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I don’t see the problem in proceeding with caution when they already know each other well and the man had to get shit-faced to make his move.

I did say I hoped it would work out for her.

But go ahead and interpret my post as you wish.

tracylamont13 · 30/07/2023 17:03

Thanks for the update. Love it.

Ladyofthelake53 · 30/07/2023 17:09

Lovely update, happily ever after would be fabulous OP x

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