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Is there truth in when someone says something when they're drunk? friend texted me whilst drunk.

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juyeti · 27/07/2023 23:44

Friend is away for a couple of days for a stag do. He doesn't normally drink so guessing not much would render him quite drunk. Last night I received a text at 1am but didn't see it till this morning. It was written terribly with a lot of typos and repeated letters in words so took me a few moments to understand what it said. The coherent version...without some random stuff at the beginning..

"Juyetii, poppy. I miss you. I wish you were here with me. Its so fucking beautiful. So so beautiful. Is it too late to tell you how I feel. You're the one. Let's go back to the beginning. I'm just wasting time. I know it might be complicated but it doesn't matter. it will be okay. I'm too fucking scared to tell you. I wish you feel the same.

I haven't received anything from him yet nor have I replied. I don't know what to make it of it really. Im pretty sure he was drunk when he sent it. Does he actually mean it if he was drunk? Do I bring it up / ignore it?! I've been thinking about it all day!

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MummyNeedsADrinkDear · 30/07/2023 03:10

Beautiful thread. Glad it has a nice outcome. Good luck to you both @juyeti

Nobodytellsmenothin · 30/07/2023 04:31
Excited Season 2 GIF by The Office

@juyeti eeek this has been a lovely read, I am soo pleased for you!

but of course I’m now here for the updates, how did yesterdays catch up go? Did you snog?

I’m like a teenage girl getting all giddy for you…I LOVE love ❤️❤️❤️

WilkinsonM · 30/07/2023 04:38

I was married to a Muslim man from another country and honestly religion never caused us an issue or played any part in why we broke up it was just his personality
I'm a full on atheist but happily went along with some traditions as did he (Christmas etc) so there was nothing to argue over in that respect. So it can work if you're generally nice and compatible people!

Ukrainebaby23 · 30/07/2023 05:28

Wow what a lovely thread, be happy with whoever makes you happy.

JustBeKinder · 30/07/2023 07:00

This is such a lovely thread and I m so excited for you, it’s put a big smile on my face this morning, good luck and hope it all works out xx ❤️

tigerbear · 30/07/2023 07:50

this is too cute! ❤️

dgirluk · 30/07/2023 08:00

juyeti · 29/07/2023 11:52

@Letterposter that's so lovely. 😊 I hope ours will have a happy ending too.

I'm meeting him this afternoon. His plane will be touch down anytime soon. Can't wait too see him!

Best of luck! Similar happened to me, but I was the one to send the message. Someone I’d been friends with for years, we were almost best friends. So close. I was so worried I would break the friendship.

7 years later we’re arrived and ecstatically happy - the best decision I ever made !

Good luck !!!!!!!

MissHavershamReturns · 30/07/2023 08:07

Great thread!

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juyeti · 30/07/2023 08:20

'm sorry I'm awful with posting! But I'm hoping my very long update will make up for that!

We finally met yesterday at a local beauty hotspot. I thought it would be awkward. It wasn't at all. I could only spare 85 mins as had to pick up DC. He was late so we only had 78 minutes! I was beside myself waiting. 😂

Finally he arrived, looking sheepish, holding a box of my favourite cinnamon sugar doughnuts in one hand and what I can only describe as a bunch of weeds in the other. Apparently his attempt at picking wild flowers nearby!

We said hello and exchanged niceties. He asked if he could hold my hand. I said I'd rather he kissed me. It was beautiful. I've said sex is off the table but not sure how I'll control myself as I had some serious fanny gallops! 😂 Tbh he didn't even expect a kiss. To give you some context, I've never dated, never had sex outside of marriage, no clubbing, don't drink, it's not something I'd do. It might not look like it but I am practicing, honest! I wear a hijab. He has never even seen my hair! For all he knows, I could be bald up there!

We had a lovely chat and I had lots of questions! Apparently, he's had feelings for me for nearly 2 years! Why didn't he say anything sooner, you fool?! Apparently I never picked up on any of his very obvious attempts to show me how he felt. I asked him for a few examples and yes, he's right. They were like big bright flashing beacons right in front of me which I was completely oblivious to!
In my defence, I didn't think he'd ever be interested in me like that so why would I interpret anything to mean otherwise.

For the couple of folks who've asked about what he meant about 'lets go back to the beginning '. He meant going back to when he first had feelings and he'd do things differently instead of 'wasting' these years.

We're basically going to take it super slow and see where it leads us. I just want to enjoy it and have fun and not talk about religion and make it all prescriptive.

I can't believe how much love this thread has got. Thank you all you lovely peeps for your kind and funny comments and especially for the courage to actually text back. If it wasn't for you guys, I'd still be sat here thinking about what to do! I will most definitely update this thread in the future. 😊

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marcopront · 30/07/2023 08:26

Ahhh that's lovely

StopStartStop · 30/07/2023 08:28

❤❤❤
Wonderful update!

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juyeti · 30/07/2023 08:28

Birdienumnumm · 29/07/2023 15:50

Oh. My bad.

however, it could have been a bit more of a detailed update.

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😂 it was the suspension, a spring or something has corroded. I knew there was something not quite right as I could hear a bit of a weird sound. And I need to change the brake pads, they're not a fail but was advised to change as are wearing down.

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OpheliaPlum · 30/07/2023 08:29

What a gorgeous update it. Enjoy this lovely romance OP. If there is a God, I think she’d want her beautiful creations to be happy.

Hiddenvoice · 30/07/2023 08:30

What a lovely update! I really wish you two all the best!

ArabeIIaScott · 30/07/2023 08:30

Bad news on the MOT. 😂

mynameisnotmichaelcaine · 30/07/2023 08:30

This is so lovely OP.

LiloP · 30/07/2023 08:33

So happy for you OP 😍😍😍thank you for updating!

ThePoshUns · 30/07/2023 08:38

Thanks for the update OP, this is all so romantic! Best wishes to you both x

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juyeti · 30/07/2023 08:40

Sothisiit · 29/07/2023 22:36

I hope this works out for you and the drunk text was the catalyst for the best romance and relationship ever.
I was in a 'complicated' relationship like this during Uni, we had the best time and respected our different beliefs, it taught me so much. Sadly traditions of arranged marriage and family pressures meant we were forced to parted ways.
The last kiss and waving off the train were one of the hardest moments, knowing my best friend was going off to marry a stranger they despised.
I think about them often with fondness and hope they found happiness, they truly deserved too.
I'm sending my best wishes that karma has connected you both up and that your future is beautiful together.
It's lovely to read about.....

This is so sad but unfortunately I have seen this many times. Cultural / family pressures that won't allow to people who love each other be together. I hope you found your happy ending with someone else.

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Willmafrockfit · 30/07/2023 08:45

change the brake pads
but dont put a brake on your relationship
so lovely

Jack80 · 30/07/2023 08:48

I would message back do you want to talk about last nights text.

AutumnCrow · 30/07/2023 08:49

Jack80 · 30/07/2023 08:48

I would message back do you want to talk about last nights text.

Why? That seems fairly unnecessary.

WilkinsonM · 30/07/2023 08:56

Jack80 · 30/07/2023 08:48

I would message back do you want to talk about last nights text.

Read the OP's posts on long threads. It will save you looking like a ninny.

Wiserandolder · 30/07/2023 08:56

I've loved reading this thread- so heartwarming- sending you wishes for boatloads of happiness Smile

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juyeti · 30/07/2023 08:59

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@Superfood
I totally get it. If you had told me even a few months ago that id be snogging my friend, I'd have laughed. I'd never ever do that! No way José. Like I said in my previous post, he wasn't even expecting a kiss. He actually said are you sure you want to do that, we really don't need to, you know. And he asked me if he could hold my hand because he knows me. I don't do that sort of thing.

But you know what, I've been straight laced all my life and I really really like him and I want to make a go of it and if that means breaking some rules then so be it. Because the alternative would be to say sorry, no can do, I'm Muslim and turn him away and the chance to be with him and I don't think I could bear to do that.

Practicing or not, noone is perfect..

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