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Is there truth in when someone says something when they're drunk? friend texted me whilst drunk.

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juyeti · 27/07/2023 23:44

Friend is away for a couple of days for a stag do. He doesn't normally drink so guessing not much would render him quite drunk. Last night I received a text at 1am but didn't see it till this morning. It was written terribly with a lot of typos and repeated letters in words so took me a few moments to understand what it said. The coherent version...without some random stuff at the beginning..

"Juyetii, poppy. I miss you. I wish you were here with me. Its so fucking beautiful. So so beautiful. Is it too late to tell you how I feel. You're the one. Let's go back to the beginning. I'm just wasting time. I know it might be complicated but it doesn't matter. it will be okay. I'm too fucking scared to tell you. I wish you feel the same.

I haven't received anything from him yet nor have I replied. I don't know what to make it of it really. Im pretty sure he was drunk when he sent it. Does he actually mean it if he was drunk? Do I bring it up / ignore it?! I've been thinking about it all day!

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LaMaG · 29/07/2023 11:45

Loving this thread ❤ whatever happens OP I'm glad you are enjoying this happy moment in your life.

PinkPondQueen · 29/07/2023 11:51

Well i'm only 2 pages in and have to say that this has just totally warmed the cockles of my heart 🩷🩷🩷

juyeti · 29/07/2023 11:52

@Letterposter that's so lovely. 😊 I hope ours will have a happy ending too.

I'm meeting him this afternoon. His plane will be touch down anytime soon. Can't wait too see him!

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LittleBear21 · 29/07/2023 11:56

juyeti · 29/07/2023 11:41

I have no idea what the proper definition of agnostic is but that's what he describes himself as. There might be a god, there might not be, that's how he sees it. He's not really spiritual but when his nan passed away a few years ago he did do a bit of reading on various stuff.

That's exactly how my DH describes agnostic and indeed he calls himself agnostic.

I'm a practicing Catholic and it absolutely can work provided you're both fully respectful of each others beliefs, and no one goes into the relationship expecting to convert the other (e.g. my husband knows what's happening on a Sunday morning and doesn't expect to be able to plan other things for our family at that time. And I don't bank on him going with me.)

I actually think it makes us more accepting generally. We're regularly making room for perspectives that are different to our own, and questioning our own beliefs; rather than just blindly doing/thinking as we always have done.

LiloP · 29/07/2023 11:57

oh exciting!

OP what did he mean in his first text with “let’s go back to the beginning”?

CorBlimeyGovnr · 29/07/2023 12:02

This is really lovely, keeping it all crossed for you OP!

beckym232 · 29/07/2023 12:12

So lovely, this has made me smile. True romance does still exist! Hope all ends well for you op

Nugg · 29/07/2023 15:26

OMG this is brilliant. Wishing you both the happiest of futures!!

Birdienumnumm · 29/07/2023 15:50

WellPlaced · 29/07/2023 05:18

RTFT 🙄
“ mot did not go well.”

😂

Oh. My bad.

however, it could have been a bit more of a detailed update.

AutumnCrow · 29/07/2023 16:09

Birdienumnumm · 29/07/2023 15:50

Oh. My bad.

however, it could have been a bit more of a detailed update.

Of all things, you're waiting on a crankshaft update? Grin

minipie · 29/07/2023 16:17

Ooooh just read OP and all the updates

I love a happy story 😍

Hope things go well when he gets back OP!

Do your kids know him? How old are they?

ThePoshUns · 29/07/2023 16:21

Oh wow what a lovely thread.

BMW6 · 29/07/2023 17:00

I'm Agnostic. God may or may not exist, I have no firm conviction either way. I certainly don't agree with any organised religion, none seem to be anything other than power grabbing misogyny.

I keep my fingers crossed for you both OP - I believe in Love ❤️

Redragtoabull · 29/07/2023 17:47

I would ignore as he was drunk, he'll see you saw the message and will bring it up eventually, then you'll know if it is bonafide

loopychick · 29/07/2023 17:48

Redragtoabull · 29/07/2023 17:47

I would ignore as he was drunk, he'll see you saw the message and will bring it up eventually, then you'll know if it is bonafide

Have you not read the whole post? 🤦🏼‍♀️

NumberTheory · 29/07/2023 17:48

Redragtoabull · 29/07/2023 17:47

I would ignore as he was drunk, he'll see you saw the message and will bring it up eventually, then you'll know if it is bonafide

You’re two days and hundreds of posts late - things have moved on a little.

AmberMcAmber · 29/07/2023 18:25

Go for it… ask him diplomatically if he remembers what he sent & did he want to test the waters?

life is too short to miss out on happiness

Confusion101 · 29/07/2023 18:27

PEOPLE NEED TO READ THE FULL THREAD BEFORE COMMENTING

exaltedwombat · 29/07/2023 18:49

Playing the 'What did he mean by that' game is invariably pointless - except perhaps if you're short of a topic for Prosecco-fuelled gossip.🤗 In which case, enjoy yourself, but for goodness sake don't act on any conclusions you might come to!
This might be a drunken booty call, it might be a heart-felt declaration of love. You won't find out by textual analysis. Ask him, or wait and see what happens.

LiloP · 29/07/2023 19:07

Read the thread people!!

Hazey19 · 29/07/2023 19:13

Aw I love this thread! Hope it all works out 🥰

Minime88888888 · 29/07/2023 19:16

This is the most wonderful, romantic thing I've ever read on here. It's made me so happy.

LAMLC2011 · 29/07/2023 19:16

Only read OPs posts just wanted to say aww I love this! Hope it works out.

Americano75 · 29/07/2023 19:19

I am so invested in this now!

Exdonkeylover · 29/07/2023 19:29

The drunk man says what the sober man thinks. Old Yugoslavian saying.

If you do fancy a drink with him, maybe raise it, but in a "made me laugh, be interesting to see you drunk" kinda of chat.