Is anyone with a large sibling age gap close to their siblings?

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Just wondering, whether it’s possible to still be close with a large age gap

Yes, very close here. There is 7 years between oldest and youngest (3 siblings). Not so much growing up maybe, because at different stages of life, but as adults it obviously becomes less noticeable. Now we all muddle in and helps with raising each other's kids, and lean on each other.

I’m 13 years older than my sister and despite the fact she now lives in Australia we are very close and speak all the time

I have a nearly 10 year and nearly 12 year age gap and my 3 adult DC are very close. My teen aunts and two uncles each have a ten year age gap and are very close as are four of my cousins.
My friend is extremely close to her sister who is 14 years younger.
I think it’s no difference than making a friend who is older or younger than you, as an adult I don’t really notice if my friend is 8 years younger etc.

I'm closer to the sibling with a 12 year gap than I am to the one with a 2 year gap

We don’t not get on but only speak a few times a year. I hated her when she was born, didn’t want her, didn’t interact with her, it changed the whole dynamic and I think that’s why I didn’t like it. My other sister have 2 years between us and are incredibly close and get on Great, she also isn’t close to our other sister. When we are together it’s fine, but just completely life experiences really, she’s a nice person, she just doesn’t feel like family as horrible as that sounds!

My mum and her sis are 14 years apart - best mates

My close friend is 16 years young than her sis - very close, speak all of the time. Her older sis does loads of childcare for her.

My best mate is 8 years older than her brother- Go on holiday together, concerts etc…

Another friend is 9 year’s older than her brother - Again, fantastic relationship.

I reckon it must be down to personalities?

I’m due a baby girl soon. DD is 13 & very excited. Hoping they’ll grow up close.

12 years older than my sister ( another sibling in the middle if us)
We were close at one time but no longer. Her choice not mine

My youngest sibling is 22 years younger than me. Its more like being an aunty, they're closer in age to my DC

16 years older than my youngest sister. Very close. Love her so much.

My sibling and I are only 5 years apart and we are close.,MY own children have a 13 year age gap and adore each other.
My partner has about 25 years between his oldest sons bling ( partner is the youngest of a big family) they just aren't a close family really. I don't think it is age that makes the difference

There was 18 years between youngest and eldest in DH's family - and they were in two "lots" as well so older ones close together and younger ones close together.

They are all close. Especially as adults. One of my SIL's is closer in age to my eldest than to me (just about). I still get on really well with her - she's lovely.

16 years between my brother and me (I'm the older one)
We are very fond of each other as I loved having a baby brother as a teen!

8 years between Dsis and me. 5 years between DB and me. We weren't at all close growing up but get on very well as adults.

10 year gap between me and sister, we're very close. Became 'equals' at 16 and 26.
13 months between my DS and they dont really speak to each other.

Yes, I'm very close to my sister even though I'm 15 yrs older then her. I was a bit pissed off when she was born as the whole household changed, but I love her now.

My sister is 17 years older than me and my eldest brother 15 years older (they were from my dad's first marriage) my 'real' brother was 4 years older than me but passed away last year unfortunately at age 41. We are all/were very close and I consider myself so lucky. My eldest siblings made life incredibly fun when I was younger and have been a huge support as the years have gone by. I babysat for their kids when I was a teenager and they now help with my young kids.

It depends what you call a big gap - there’s just over 5yrs between me and my
brother (which is small compared to some
mentioned above) and we were never close as kids as it’s a big gap at that age and we were always at different stages and had very different interests / hobbies. We’re closer as adults and would probably be closer if we didn’t live 4 hours apart!

I have three siblings. 12 years older, 9 years older and 9 years younger half sibling. I used to be fairly close with the two older siblings, but not anymore. I have very little to do with any of them. We have nothing in common. They all grew up with married parents, whereas I don't remember my parents together and was very much brought up in a single parent family who was too poorly to work and it was a real struggle. So whereas the eldest is moaning about how awful their upbringing was compared to mine, they have alienated themselves from me and the 9 year older sibling has sided with them.

I'm 12 years older than my youngest sister and we are very close. Much closer than I am with other sibling with a 3 year gap.

My children have a large age gap my eldest 2 are 18 and 16 and my younger ones are 5,4 and 18 months (also have 13 year old). and the older ones are so close to the younger ones. I also have 20 years and 24 years between me and my siblings and again we are so close they stay at mine weekly and we speak daily

Yes. My sisters are ten and 14 years older and we're very very close, even though my oldest sis moved out when I was still a toddler (she left home at 16!) and the other left when I was about 8. We holiday together, chat pretty much every day on FB messenger and I often pop round to the second oldest's house or go out for a sunday roast or whatever (the oldest lives overseas but I generally visit a couple of times a year for a week or so).

My brother is seven years oldest so closest to me in age but we're probably least close - still socialise together a fair bit and know we're 100% there for each other if needed but far less day to day interaction. That might just be a man thing tho, my dad's the same!

18 and 20 year olds welcomed a baby brother who is now 22. They're very close. They chat on the phone a lot and he visits us once a month, he always visits them. Family occasions we all get together. Three generations now.

I'm the oldest of 4 sisters and was almost 12 when the youngest was born. We were and still are the closest sibling bond growing up. By the time I was 19 and she was 7 I had my own place, she came to stay at weekends etc.
At times I've been like a surrogate mum / Auntie, giving advice, paying for things - always pay when we're out together etc, but now we're 40+ and 30 it's just like any other sibling relationship. I feel immensely protective and I think she looks up to me.

DH is 6 years older than his sister and they've always been very close.

I have DB 2 years younger and DB 10 years younger. Get on so much better with the younger DB, age gap shrinks a bit as you get older and there was no competition growing up, just adoration both ways!