If you were a Mrs....

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I've been Mrs for 30 odd years. It didn't occur to me not to be when I married, although I don't know if I'd do it again now.

I'm now a widow, still Mrs married name. Starting to think about dating. I'm not really a Mrs anymore, I'm not a Miss and maybe I shouldn't but I really don't like Ms. What am I supposed to call myself?

Tbf the title isn't used often, mostly on forms. I was just having a little wonder about what I'd do when checking into a hotel with a new man 😆

Oh I don’t know about that. Mrs, pronounced “misses” sounds like a word. Ms just sounds like some sort of buzzing! 😀 Not enough vowels! 😀😀

We need to be like the Germans (and probably other countries) after a certain age, the Mrs equivalent is the norm. No problems.

Go with lady

Isn't it the Ms equivalent? It doesn't presume a marital status.

But I agree, let's just have Ms for all women, like men are all Mr.

The French Government removed the option of ‘Mademoiselle’ from official documents years ago.

Another lifetime Miss. Absolutely zero intention of arranging my name around a relationship. Men get to keep the first title irrespective of their attachment to another human so can't see any need for women to do things differently (other than patriarchal convention).

You you exactly as you please, OP...but make your decision purely based on your personal preferences, nothing else. And have a great time booking hotel rooms too 😄

I don’t consider myself to have any particular title. I call myself by my full name (birth name with husband’s name appended) and if called upon to tick a box on a form I usually go for Ms as I don’t see why anyone need know my marital status. I’m not precious about if if I get called Mrs though.

This was a great laugh when we bought a new fridge - Lord and Lady Seven Kings.

Except for when the fridge arrived unusably damaged and we were sent a cheque that we couldn't pay in 😂

This. Why do women seemingly have to declare a marital status and men don’t.

It doesn't look like one! And has the same number of vowels as Ms.

Ms all the way here. I agree that some seem unsure whether to say Mizz or Muzz, but neither are exactly difficult and the more people use it the more accustomed we will all be to hearing and saying it. There were quite a few female teachers using it by the time my DS left school last year.

I cant stand Ms. Don't know why. I would either be Mrs or Miss.

My DGrandmother divorced her first husband 40 years ago and remained Mrs 1stHusband. She married her second husband and still remained Mrs 1stHusband as she said that's what she was known as and the same name as her children and a name didn't actually keep a marriage together so she wasn't changing it.

Loathe ms I. Keeping Mrs if I have to add title. Otherwise it just first and last name hated my maiden name so not going back to that.

I’ve been married for years but I’m very firmly a Ms having changed when my kids were born. I personally think Miss and Mrs should be dropped.

I'm a Mrs - happily married but prefer Ms as I don't see why my marital status should be evident in my every communication - however this preference seems to be mostly ignored.

So I’m almost divorced (been separated a few years) and changed to “Ms Married Name” not long after separation.
Pretty sure I’ll stay that way in order to still have the same surname as the DCs.

Before I got married I was Miss X. Now I go by Ms X 😬 Didn't take DH's surname.

Poor old DS is Master My name DH's name, which is a clunky 5 syllables.

"We need to be like the Germans (and probably other countries) after a certain age, the Mrs equivalent is the norm. No problems."

But that's Ms!

I'm a Ms despite being married and I hate being called Mrs! I didn't take my husband's name and dislike being defined by relationship status.

Ms is exactly the equivalent of Mr.

My mum is still a Mrs though she divorced years ago. I've never associated Ms with divorce. I've always felt that Ms is the grown up version of Miss, like Master is to Mr.

I like Mrs, use it to mean "adult woman in charge of things". Before I got married I really did feel like a Miss. Now, I feel like a Mrs whether I was married, divorced or widowed. I think now I'd use Mrs by this point even if I'd never married.

Haven't read the thread bc these threads are always full of negativity and dogmatism.

Same in Italy. For bureaucratic matters you are either Signore (m) or Signora (f). Simpler!

When I divorced exH I used Ms, now I am a widow of DH I remain a Mrs.

I’m widowed and still use Mrs. I was really upset when the receptionist changed my title to Ms without asking first. My GP changed it back to Mrs and brought it up in staff training. I don’t like Ms and don’t want to change back to Miss (Birth surname) because my name would be different to my children. Being widowed hurts and continues to hurt. I didn’t choose to change my marital status.

@LawnmowerBlues "Haven't read the thread bc these threads are always full of negativity and dogmatism."

Eh?

I've been a married woman for 50 years.

My first marriage ended after 28 years, because of divorce.

My second marriage of 22 years lasted until DH died in April.

There will never be anyone else and I'm happy to remain as Mrs "second husband" until my end.

I'm happy with that.🙂