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18 and pregnant?

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LEDshreddies · 10/07/2023 14:02

Hey, so I might be in a very difficult situation. I was wondering about your experiences of being pregnant at 18 or similar age?? I don't want to give too many details, but I'm 18, and I think I might be pregnant. I don't live with my parents, and my boyfriends 17 and lives with his mum. Very bad situation for this to happen (possibly) I know. I'm not actually due on my period for another 2 or 3 days, but I have a strong feeling I might be. I stupidly sort of assumed I might be infertile as my mum has pcos, I have some symptoms of that but never been told if I have or not, and we never use a condom but he normally pulls out and nothings ever happened so we got stupid and he started erm not pulling out. I almost started thinking maybe it wouldn't be so bad if I was, but now I've been having pregnancy symptoms I'm regretting everything. I don't know what he would do, I think he would stay but he would want me to get an abortion as we're obviously not in the best situation and still so young. We've been together for over 6 months which I know isn't an amazing amount of time but we are inseparable, we're together almost every day and now he's started working we spend every weekend from Friday evening when he finishes to Sunday evening when he has to go back to his for work in the morning together, and when I go to college in September we were planning for me to stay at his throughout the week as well as this is what we would do most of the time before he was working anyway. It's a very strong relationship but obviously we're still quite immature and I love that we can be our silly selves together. I know a baby would change everything, and I'm not sure I want to lose this. Thank you x

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LEDshreddies · 11/07/2023 00:30

ArcticSkewer · 11/07/2023 00:26

It's just all the drama and excitement of a thread. Very common.
Early pregnancy tests have really pushed these poor people out ... hard to build excitement of possible symptoms when you can just do a test before symptoms even appear.

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What?

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ASGIRC · 11/07/2023 01:30

ArcticSkewer · 11/07/2023 00:26

It's just all the drama and excitement of a thread. Very common.
Early pregnancy tests have really pushed these poor people out ... hard to build excitement of possible symptoms when you can just do a test before symptoms even appear.

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Thats... really insensitive and weird.

Truth is, if youre worried about something, you will think every single thing might be a symptom.

Years ago, there was a norovirus outbreak at work. I escaped, but for 2 days I thought I felt nauseous, because I was so worried I might be ill .

Thats whats happening to the OP.

@LEDshreddies you said its a couple of days until your period comes. No point testing during the day. Even 1st urine might not be able to tell right now.
wait until youre late and then test

ArcticSkewer · 11/07/2023 06:28

LEDshreddies · 11/07/2023 00:30

What?

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Before your time.

Now, people just do a test up to 6 days before their period.

In the past you'd get people posting for a week going on about all the pregnancy symptoms they might have (the ones that don't appear til week 6-12) so it would build the excitement... ooh could I be pregnant .... it's so unexpected but I feel x y z. Passed about 10 days of posting to get the dopamine hits before they had to disappear from the thread as noone cares once the results are in either way.

It was quite a thing back in the day. Ruined by early pregnancy tests.

Did you look into your options yet btw? You'd want to organise the early abortion pills as soon as you've confirmed the pregnancy if that's the route you are taking.

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ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 11/07/2023 13:24

LEDshreddies · 10/07/2023 23:58

I just brought cheap ones as didn't want to waste money if I wasn't

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In the gentlest way possible, if you're worried about wasting £10 or so on a test to tell you whether or not you are, I fear for how you will cope with the increasingly costly expense of raising a child. I don't mean it to be nasty, but as a parent who's child dad has no involvement and who doesn't provide any money (Child Maintenance Service are rubbish, I'm far from the only one they allow this to happen to), I fear for how you'd cope.

Sleeepdeprived · 11/07/2023 20:11

@LEDshreddies how are you getting on? Have you tested again?

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LEDshreddies · 11/07/2023 22:22

Hey, I did another test this morning and got an extremely faint line, less than the one yesterday?? I've started bleeding a little so I'm assuming it's my period. It's definitely lighter than usual and hurts nowhere near as much as it normally does but I'm just going to assume its a weird period. Thank you everyone x

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PaigeMatthews · 11/07/2023 23:32

LEDshreddies · 11/07/2023 22:22

Hey, I did another test this morning and got an extremely faint line, less than the one yesterday?? I've started bleeding a little so I'm assuming it's my period. It's definitely lighter than usual and hurts nowhere near as much as it normally does but I'm just going to assume its a weird period. Thank you everyone x

Op you now need better contraception. Go to the nearest clinic like Brook and discuss your options before having sec again. Maybe the rod?

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LEDshreddies · 11/07/2023 23:43

I've just checked and I'm barely bleeding?? My cramps are gone. So weird?? My periods on the first day are normally really painful and heavy. Should I do another test tomorrow? I'm confused

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honeypancake · 11/07/2023 23:51

Have you tested with a digital test yet? It will let you know for sure by now. You need to keep testing if you are uncertain and had a faint line on a cheap test

sjpkgp1 · 12/07/2023 00:33

It sounds like you are not sure from your tests. I would get another and be absolutely sure. The faintest of lines means you are probably pregnant.
If you are, there are decisions to make, but you have time to make them, and you should make them as soon as possible to make things easier on yourself medically and emotionally, and you can do this without anyone else being involved to judge. If you are not, then it is "life as normal" this time, but with some added understanding that it could happen anytime without attention. It is hard to be going through this, and I wish you the best xxx

Sleeepdeprived · 12/07/2023 07:33

It could be implantation bleeding, the start of an early miscarriage or just a lighter version of your period. If you have another test I’d test again and see what it says. Sorry you’re going through this OP. You must be so confused.

Sartre · 12/07/2023 07:52

I had my eldest at 17 and it’s been hard. He’s 13 now and an amazing kid but it hasn’t been easy. I’d hate him to have a child so young and go through the same struggles I have. I went to uni and have a PhD now too, bought a house a few years ago as well. I’m one of the success stories I guess but I had a lot of support from my own Mum over the years to make these things happen, I don’t know how I’d have coped without.

Honestly, even though I had DC young if you were my child I would advise you terminate. Six months probably feels like a really long term relationship at your age but you’re alive on average for almost 1000 so in the grand scheme of things, half a year is naff all. It’s unlikely to last, having a baby puts a strain on even the strongest and longest of relationships. It’s entirely your decision but it will make your life immeasurably more difficult if you choose to keep the baby. I hope for your sake that you’re not pregnant after all and you now go get contraception.

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LEDshreddies · 12/07/2023 10:58

I haven't tested again yet since I'm on my last test. The blood earlier when I went to the toilet was bright red which when I looked it up said its normally pink if it's implantation, but it was still way lighter flow than normal. Just checked again and there's basically NO blood. I'm so confused. Yesterday when what I thought my period was starting I got cramps but my last period before this was so painful I could barely walk and they are generally like this, this was just more of an uncomfortable dull feeling. So confused.

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LEDshreddies · 12/07/2023 10:59

sjpkgp1 · 12/07/2023 00:33

It sounds like you are not sure from your tests. I would get another and be absolutely sure. The faintest of lines means you are probably pregnant.
If you are, there are decisions to make, but you have time to make them, and you should make them as soon as possible to make things easier on yourself medically and emotionally, and you can do this without anyone else being involved to judge. If you are not, then it is "life as normal" this time, but with some added understanding that it could happen anytime without attention. It is hard to be going through this, and I wish you the best xxx

Thank you xx

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LEDshreddies · 12/07/2023 10:59

Sartre · 12/07/2023 07:52

I had my eldest at 17 and it’s been hard. He’s 13 now and an amazing kid but it hasn’t been easy. I’d hate him to have a child so young and go through the same struggles I have. I went to uni and have a PhD now too, bought a house a few years ago as well. I’m one of the success stories I guess but I had a lot of support from my own Mum over the years to make these things happen, I don’t know how I’d have coped without.

Honestly, even though I had DC young if you were my child I would advise you terminate. Six months probably feels like a really long term relationship at your age but you’re alive on average for almost 1000 so in the grand scheme of things, half a year is naff all. It’s unlikely to last, having a baby puts a strain on even the strongest and longest of relationships. It’s entirely your decision but it will make your life immeasurably more difficult if you choose to keep the baby. I hope for your sake that you’re not pregnant after all and you now go get contraception.

Thank you xx

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Carpediemmakeitcount · 12/07/2023 11:12

I would go to your doctor to be sure take a wee sample if you can. I bled lightly when I was pregnant with my son I thought it was a period and it lasted a couple of days. I didn't think nothing of it but I normally bleed heavily and up to 7 days. When I did realise I was pregnant I was 12 weeks pregnant at the time.

Carpediemmakeitcount · 12/07/2023 11:12

I would go to your doctor to be sure take a wee sample if you can. I bled lightly when I was pregnant with my son I thought it was a period and it lasted a couple of days. I didn't think nothing of it but I normally bleed heavily and up to 7 days. When I did realise I was pregnant I was 12 weeks pregnant at the time.

viques · 12/07/2023 12:00

I think you need to make an appointment with your local family planning clinic or gp. Discuss what has been happening, have a decent pregnancy test, decide what you want to do , one way or the other, and most importantly, educate yourself about contraception. It sounds as though you aren’t organised enough for condoms or the pill, so you need to be looking at something you don’t have to remember or plan for , like an implant or a coil.

12RedRoses · 12/07/2023 12:13

I would say you are pregnant rather than not, especially as you’ve been having unprotected sex regularly. Due to your age, if you phone a family planning clinic to your GP they’ll be able to see you and advise on testing and refer you on if you don’t want to continue the pregnancy.
Some GP’s won’t do pregnancy tests as they are the same as you can buy. Do another test today if you have the funds to do so, or you can even phone your local GUM clinic and explain and they’ll help you where to go for testing due to your age and help you with who to see.

Chellybelle · 12/07/2023 12:58

I don't think you are pregnant as you would normally get a clear positive on a test at this point. Normal implantation bleeding is usually a very small amount and is usually brown or occasionally pink, not bright red. But take a test a few days after your missed period as that will give you the most accurate result.

Tummtummytime · 12/07/2023 14:15

Can’t you pop out and get a first response today? I think by 12 dpo (is that right? Or 13?) you’ll see it clearly. Then you’ll just know and stop guessing.

Tummtummytime · 12/07/2023 14:16

When I was worried about an early pregnancy the GP just said take a home test. I don’t think it’s likely they’ll have the capacity to get you in and do a blood test at this point

Dinoswearunderpants · 12/07/2023 14:22

You need to be sensible here, any faint line means you're pregnant. If you're bleeding it could be implantation or a miscarriage (sorry to alarm you but it's the facts). Buy a decent test and see what it says. If you're pregnant and bleeding, you need to contact your early pregnancy unit and they will do bloods and then another bloods to check HCG levels.

Best of luck.

ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 12/07/2023 14:26

Dinoswearunderpants · 12/07/2023 14:22

You need to be sensible here, any faint line means you're pregnant. If you're bleeding it could be implantation or a miscarriage (sorry to alarm you but it's the facts). Buy a decent test and see what it says. If you're pregnant and bleeding, you need to contact your early pregnancy unit and they will do bloods and then another bloods to check HCG levels.

Best of luck.

This. Surely spending a tenner on a decent test is the obvious solution here, unless it's actually a troll.

Nousername4now · 12/07/2023 14:28

LEDshreddies · 11/07/2023 22:22

Hey, I did another test this morning and got an extremely faint line, less than the one yesterday?? I've started bleeding a little so I'm assuming it's my period. It's definitely lighter than usual and hurts nowhere near as much as it normally does but I'm just going to assume its a weird period. Thank you everyone x

Could be a chemical pregnancy