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18 and pregnant?

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LEDshreddies · 10/07/2023 14:02

Hey, so I might be in a very difficult situation. I was wondering about your experiences of being pregnant at 18 or similar age?? I don't want to give too many details, but I'm 18, and I think I might be pregnant. I don't live with my parents, and my boyfriends 17 and lives with his mum. Very bad situation for this to happen (possibly) I know. I'm not actually due on my period for another 2 or 3 days, but I have a strong feeling I might be. I stupidly sort of assumed I might be infertile as my mum has pcos, I have some symptoms of that but never been told if I have or not, and we never use a condom but he normally pulls out and nothings ever happened so we got stupid and he started erm not pulling out. I almost started thinking maybe it wouldn't be so bad if I was, but now I've been having pregnancy symptoms I'm regretting everything. I don't know what he would do, I think he would stay but he would want me to get an abortion as we're obviously not in the best situation and still so young. We've been together for over 6 months which I know isn't an amazing amount of time but we are inseparable, we're together almost every day and now he's started working we spend every weekend from Friday evening when he finishes to Sunday evening when he has to go back to his for work in the morning together, and when I go to college in September we were planning for me to stay at his throughout the week as well as this is what we would do most of the time before he was working anyway. It's a very strong relationship but obviously we're still quite immature and I love that we can be our silly selves together. I know a baby would change everything, and I'm not sure I want to lose this. Thank you x

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LEDshreddies · 10/07/2023 17:21

Just done one and it looks negative to me but gonna do another one tomorrow morning

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gogomoto · 10/07/2023 17:21

Wait until morning as they are more accurate before eating.

I'll be honest and think you need to assume you will be a single parent - it's takes 18 years + to raise a child and your boyfriend is only 17 himself! That said that in itself is ok if you can cope and/or the grandparents are willing to raise your child, plenty of 18 year olds have babies and are good parents.

If you were my daughter however I would be suggesting termination as it's going to be so much more difficult than waiting just a few years to mid 20's

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LEDshreddies · 10/07/2023 17:36

Don't think there's anything at all there?

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Msplace · 10/07/2023 17:39

Doesn't matter when you last had sex because you could've conceived on one of the other times. I do think it's a bit weird to contemplate having a baby at 17 and 18. I hope you have a good support network

Sleeepdeprived · 10/07/2023 17:54

@LEDshreddies i can see a line in a couple of your pictures! I’d take the other test you have and see what that says

Sleeepdeprived · 10/07/2023 17:56

It’s quite clear in this one! I’d say from this that you are pregnant

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Carpediemmakeitcount · 10/07/2023 17:56

As soon as your period starts go to your local GUM clinic.

Nottodayplease36 · 10/07/2023 17:59

I had a baby at 18, he’s about to graduate. It’s hard, very hard but being a young mum doesn’t mean you’ll be a bad mum.

Doodle987 · 10/07/2023 18:01

I had my first and only DC when I was younger than you. I won’t lie it was hard but it didn’t stop me from doing anything I had planned to. Maybe just in a different order but I bought a house by the time I was 21, finished university and have made a good career for myself. I used my DC to motivate me instead of hold me back.

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LEDshreddies · 10/07/2023 18:03

Sleeepdeprived · 10/07/2023 17:56

It’s quite clear in this one! I’d say from this that you are pregnant

Oh shit it doesn't seem very obvious in real life and I also didn't rly see anything when I posted them but I can see it on that??

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ArcticSkewer · 10/07/2023 18:04

If you want an abortion, you can get booked in asap and be in plenty of time to abort via a few pills if you want to - they even post them out in my area.
Then think about contraceptives.

Startyabastard · 10/07/2023 18:07

A pharmacist told me that the cheap tests are as affective as the expensive ones when I asked.
Just in case anyone needs to know for future reference.
I hope you get the support you need xxx

Riverbananacarrot · 10/07/2023 18:09

Also just to add it took me 17 months of trying constantly pretty much to conceive with no birth control at 26 no fertility problems so sometimes it does take time and it's not that you are infertile.

Think about what you want I know at 18 no way I would have been ready I was barely ready at 26 was with my partner 6 years married for 3.

TheModHatter · 10/07/2023 18:11

OP, sorry you are facing this without your Mum etc to lean on.

Get one of the ‘early’ pregnancy tests: the good thing is that by thinking about it now you are giving yourself a head start on decision making.

There is no doubt about it: having a baby puts a strain on a relationship. Looking back now, I am glad that I didn’t go ahead with my first pregnancy. I know many young women have made a great go of it, many MN-ers are happy they made their decision to be young mothers. But I found it so much easier to be in a stable relationship with someone who actively wanted to be a Dad as much as I wanted to be a Mum. To be financially stable (not rich, LOL, never that, but I knew we could be secure for a home, bills etc).

Your decision is yours, if you are pregnant, and will be the right one for you, and I wish you luck!

P.S If you are not pregnant, you are lucky, not infertile! And as for the pill: nothing like having a baby for making you put on weight and challenging your mental health!! Thankfully other forms of contraception are available.

Good luck and take care.

OrangeFlorange · 10/07/2023 18:11

My mum had my brother at 18 and she always said that she wished she had waited until she was older because it was so much harder for her to get on her feet.

The relationship ended within a few months of my brother being born and his dad didn't step up at all to help. In fact he didn't see my brother again until my brother was an adult.

My mum was on benefits for a while but eventually she went to college and got a job but it was definitely a struggle and something that she said she never wanted for me or my siblings.

But everyone's story will be different and everyone has different levels of support. I hope things work out for you in whatever way you want them to but if you're not pregnant I would recommend that you get some reliable contraception in place x

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LEDshreddies · 10/07/2023 18:12

Just sent this to my friend and she said she sees it also edited one to see it better and there's definitely one there but also it has been sitting there for almost an hour which I know isn't valid anymore but those pics before were within 10 mins of taking it which someone said they saw a line on?

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Seryse · 10/07/2023 18:13

Yeah I can see a very faint line too. I'd take another one. You sound very reasonable and mature for your age OP, I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you whichever that is. I hope you get the support needed. Defo get yourself on some birth control from now on if you aren't though and don't want a baby. Keep us posted, sending hugs cause I can imagine how scary this is for you.

Killingmytime · 10/07/2023 18:13

There’s def a line, no mistaking it

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LEDshreddies · 10/07/2023 18:13

Idk why the pics are so blurry on here but theyre more clear on my actual camera roll ??

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Happylady165 · 10/07/2023 18:16

I would really think about this. Having a baby puts unimaginable strain on a relationship. I’ve got sisters who had babies at 18 and they have such a hard life compared to when we had our baby at 30, after I’d developed a good career and was with my husband 10 years.

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LEDshreddies · 10/07/2023 18:18

I know it's a really bad situation and believe me I am thinking about it!! I feel sick now and not sure if it's related or just because of nerves. I am so scared he'll leave me

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viques · 10/07/2023 18:18

Take a test first thing in the morning. Then you won’t be fretting about line/no line/ still a line/ my friend says.

Then you can think about your options.

jadey1991 · 10/07/2023 18:36

Hi op i didn't just want to read and move on..

I'm sorry about your situation but I would say do what u feel is best for you and your partner.

I had my 1st baby at 17. It was a struggle but we got by. I am now 32 and pregnant with my 4th.

In those pics you sent of the test the first 2 look like faint positives. Butbre test again tomorrow

I hope all goes well. Keep me updated

IHadTheLasagne · 10/07/2023 18:36

I think I may see something...literally no point worrying about the bigger picture until you know for sure though!

Could be too early,could be a dodgy test...could be line eye!

Take care of yourself tonight OP, deep breaths and see what tomorrows test says.Hugs to you x

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LEDshreddies · 10/07/2023 18:38

jadey1991 · 10/07/2023 18:36

Hi op i didn't just want to read and move on..

I'm sorry about your situation but I would say do what u feel is best for you and your partner.

I had my 1st baby at 17. It was a struggle but we got by. I am now 32 and pregnant with my 4th.

In those pics you sent of the test the first 2 look like faint positives. Butbre test again tomorrow

I hope all goes well. Keep me updated

Awh, are you still together since 17? Or did I misunderstand? I will definitely retest tomorrow morning!

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