DS doesn't want me to say our 'good night' things anymore

[Toffeesgirl]

I've said a special way of saying goodnight to him since, well forever, and now he's 15 and very nicely said he doesn't want me to say it anymore as he's not a child!!

I, obviously, didn't let him know I was heartbroken (lighthearted) and said Ok but omg, he's growing up and I'm not ready.

I know it's perfectly healthy and he is growing up and blah, blah, blah but he's my baby boy.

Please tell me I'm not the only one

You can get a baby photo and say it to the photo.

Can you elaborate on the 'special way' you said good night?

It’s not gone, just packed away for a while. You’ll say it to his kids and he’ll smile and remember those days.

I think you're lucky to have got 15 years of it!

Not sure if you're being sarky but to answer your question, it was just that I would say the same words every night.

Agree!

I thought you were going to say he’s 7 or something.

15- you’ve done well. Let him detach a bit. It’s normal development.

Ahhh this is sad..I have a special thing (in joke) that I say to my mum every time we talk at night... I'm 31!

However, pp is right - you'll say it to his kids and he will love it.

I know but I'm not ready to stop yet 😂

I would continue to do it just to wind him up. And I'd make especially sure to say it loudly if he has a friend over.

"Goodnight Diddy dumkins!"

Everyone can identify with them growing up etc and it being sad. I think I'd have phased it out before now though.. I feel a bit sad for him that you made him ask!

I didn't make him ask, if I haven't said it in the past, he's always reminded me to say it - he's just decided (and as I've said, I know it's perfectly normal) it's just made me a bit sad.

Don’t take it personally, sometimes repetition is irritating rather than comforting. I was nearly at stabbing point before I finally got DH to stop announcing he was going to “hit the hay.” Honestly, I would be tense waiting for it and fly into a brief inward rage!
So maybe your “don’t let the bedbugs bite!” ,or whatever, is having the same effect after 15 years…

My ds is 10 and he was the one who always insisted I say goodnight properly with all the right words but he doesn't bother anymore.
It is a bit sad but on the other hand it was getting quite long with all the things that kept being added and I'd ended up rushing through it 😆

You've done well getting to 15!

@AtomicBlondeRose cheers for that. I'm sobbing into my baby's head now. A lovely way of thinking though!

Bloody hormones

I get it OP. I would be sad too. Although I think you've done well for 15 years!

Ahh op mine was the same but now he's 22 and back from uni we say it again!! FYI it's the Barney family song (cringe)

Sympathies, op, don't know why posters are acting like you've done something weird...And definitely don't keep doing it to wind him up or say it to a baby photo (honestly, I wonder about some posters here sometimes).

Think of it this way instead: he's moving into a different phase of life, so you'll probably develop new bonding things together :)

Be sad for a short moment at the end of a sweet routine but new things will replace it.

Why would you think I am being sarcy @Toffeesgirl ?! There's a reason why your son doesn't want this 'special goodnight' anymore. Why are you being so snippy?

My apologies if I misunderstood.

My DS asked me to stop calling him 'Mr Snuggles' in public last year at aged 8- I was heartbroken 😂

😂

That's a really nasty suggestion.

That's OK. I just wondered what you were doing or saying that made him think 'oh that's so childish!' I understand if you'd rather not say. And yeah it IS tough when they grow up, and you feel their childhood slipping away. I do sympathise