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Anyone up? Would I be stupid to ring the police?

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LadyBird1973 · 23/06/2023 02:27

Non emergency number obviously .

My husband has gone out on a work do, had more to drink than he realises, thinks he's sober and isn't, so can't have a proper conversation where he listens to what I'm saying he should do. He's stuck mikes from his hotel, no transport and was sitting at a bus stop waiting for a bus that won't come til tomorrow and can't see why this is a problem!

Is it totally irresponsible if I called the police and asked them to help him? Would they even do it, given men do stupid shit like this all the time?

I'm stressed though. And too far to go and get him.

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Stressedafff · 23/06/2023 02:29

I’d just leave him tbh. Hell sort himself out. Try not to worry

JauntyRedShoes · 23/06/2023 02:32

Think I’d just leave him too. Otherwise call him a taxi if he can tell you where he is.

Mediumred · 23/06/2023 02:32

Umm, sorry, bur no way would the police do anything I think. I know you say there’s no transport but does Uber cover the area or would his hotel still have a night desk open who could advise on a cab firm?

PosiePerkinPootleFlump · 23/06/2023 02:33

It isn't the middle of winter. If he sits at a bus stop for a long time he will be fine. I get why you are worried about him but sounds like whilst he might have a very sore head tomorrow he will be okay

studentmidwife123 · 23/06/2023 02:35

I think you need a taxi rather than the police!

Hooooping · 23/06/2023 02:35

Has he got what3words app on his phone? If he can give you the words you can call a taxi. Or get him to share location.

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LadyBird1973 · 23/06/2023 02:44

Thanks all. I do know approximately where he is but not enough to send a cab. He's started moving now and looking at maps it seems to be in the direction of his hotel. I did try telling him to get a taxi but he was basically just talking shite and there was no reasoning with him.
It probably didn't help that I got pissed off while he was on the phone telling me he isn't drunk and knows what he's doing! Yeah cos sitting at a bus stop for an hour staring into space in the middle of the night is totally what sober people do!

I'm mad and stressed!

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Gracewithoutend · 23/06/2023 02:44

If you're worried about him, you go for him. Why should the police have to go for him?

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LadyBird1973 · 23/06/2023 02:53

Because I'm 200 miles away so I can't really go get him

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pinkunicorns54 · 23/06/2023 03:01

You have him on maps to know he's moving, surely you can send a taxi?

evtheria · 23/06/2023 03:03

I would not be ringing the police over this.

He can sit on the bench for a while and sober up enough to figure out where he is (read the bus stop schedule or sign, it will have a name) or use Google maps etc.

Frequency · 23/06/2023 03:08

If it was winter or especially cold out I'd say ring the police but in this weather, he will either sober up enough to find his way to his hotel or will wake on a bench somewhere with a very sore head in the morning.

MintJulia · 23/06/2023 03:16

Leave him to it. He's a grown man. If he wanders around until it's light or sleeps on a park bench, it might teach him not to drink so much.

He's just one more drunk. Not the police's problem

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LadyBird1973 · 23/06/2023 03:23

I'm glad you all talked me out of it. He's sounding a lot more sober now and is coherent enough to use google maps.
I will have more words tomorrow about not drinking so much when out, if he has to get himself somewhere after.

Thanks again for talking sense into me

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WandaWonder · 23/06/2023 03:32

I think the police have enough to be getting on with

Outofthepark · 23/06/2023 05:24

Frequency · 23/06/2023 03:08

If it was winter or especially cold out I'd say ring the police but in this weather, he will either sober up enough to find his way to his hotel or will wake on a bench somewhere with a very sore head in the morning.

Totally this, I really don't see what the problem is.

misssunshine4040 · 23/06/2023 05:28

LadyBird1973 · 23/06/2023 03:23

I'm glad you all talked me out of it. He's sounding a lot more sober now and is coherent enough to use google maps.
I will have more words tomorrow about not drinking so much when out, if he has to get himself somewhere after.

Thanks again for talking sense into me

Your not his mum! He's a grown man, surely he doesn't need told off and can look after himself and make his own decisions

Bs0u416d · 23/06/2023 05:36

misssunshine4040 · 23/06/2023 05:28

Your not his mum! He's a grown man, surely he doesn't need told off and can look after himself and make his own decisions

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This. You don't need to have words. Just make him a bacon sarnie. Jeez.

BMW6 · 23/06/2023 06:13

She's 200 miles away from him so making him a bacon sarnie is not an option.🙄

Beezknees · 23/06/2023 06:15

Hope he's ok. Honestly if it's a one off I wouldn't be too bothered, he'll be hungover and feel like shit anyway. If it's happening regularly then I'd be pissed off.

unlikelychump · 23/06/2023 06:20

Bloody hell aren't you over involved.

Leave him to it. Don't have words and don't call the police for this rubbish.

Unless your DH is 13???

pictoosh · 23/06/2023 06:44

He's not a lost child. Yabu.

BackAgain2023 · 23/06/2023 06:45

I think I'd have been asleep and not had a clue where my husband was at that time if he was on a night out. Did he drunk phone you and wake you up?

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 23/06/2023 06:51

No way would I be happy in the knowledge that my vulnerable husband was unconscious on a bus stop bench somewhere.
He could be attacked or mugged. He could roll off and be injured. He could choke on his own vomit.

I'm pleased he managed to get moving and head off towards the hotel.
I'm just surprised by the responses.

WandaWonder · 23/06/2023 06:52

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 23/06/2023 06:51

No way would I be happy in the knowledge that my vulnerable husband was unconscious on a bus stop bench somewhere.
He could be attacked or mugged. He could roll off and be injured. He could choke on his own vomit.

I'm pleased he managed to get moving and head off towards the hotel.
I'm just surprised by the responses.

We are speaking of a grown up making their own choices not a child

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