Anyone up? Would I be stupid to ring the police?

[LadyBird1973]

Non emergency number obviously .

My husband has gone out on a work do, had more to drink than he realises, thinks he's sober and isn't, so can't have a proper conversation where he listens to what I'm saying he should do. He's stuck mikes from his hotel, no transport and was sitting at a bus stop waiting for a bus that won't come til tomorrow and can't see why this is a problem!

Is it totally irresponsible if I called the police and asked them to help him? Would they even do it, given men do stupid shit like this all the time?

I'm stressed though. And too far to go and get him.

I know I'm a little late in replying but omg ladies you are all a bunch of sheep. All throwing unnecessary comments at this lady who cares about her husbands wellbeing. Od or man dossnt matter its someone you love , care and worry for! Wouldn't like to be married to you lot! I feel sorry for your husbands. Poor guys!

Call the police? I really don’t think so.

My boyfriend once phoned me drunk from a night out saying he was on the tram home. I could hear the announcements in the background and he was on the right tram but going in the wrong direction, wouldn’t listen to me of course. By the time he had ridden it to the end and back, he had sobered up.

Yup that would be irresponsible, what do you think they are a taxi service ?

If you know where he is and worried call him a cab.

You are seriously contemplating phoning the police cos some dick-head didn't come home??

Jesus...

Get over yourself.

And drag him out of bed when he does, in the morning to take care of the kids (if you have them).

Got to love MN. It's nothing if not predictable, with its posters who haven't bothered to read the thread/lack basic comprehension skills, but jump on anyway to put the boot in.
I'll fire up my Tardis so that I can travel back 2 nights where your comments might still be relevant

Thank you to all the posters who have taken the time to offer support and who have understood that it's horrible to be worried about your partner in the middle of the night and not know how to help them.

There are some very cold people out there - am glad that I'm not married to any of them!

It's quite helpful to read at least the first post properly. You clearly haven't. Even better if you then read the OP's further posts.

It’s not the police’s job. It’s calls like this why they are understaffed to deal with important issues.
Your husband is an adult and will sort himself out when he sobers up a bit. We’ve all been there.

Man misses bus in June cos he is pissed is NOT a police matter, it’s an inconvenience.

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Ffs. No idea why i posted that! Not even trying to post.

IF it's too far for you, his wife, to go and get him, what makes you think that the police will use one of their cars and an officer as an unpaid taxi? You've got an almighty cheek to think taxpayers money should be used in this manner.
Unbelievable!

Fuck off @LoisLane66 - does it not occur occur to you that driving 200 miles in the middle of the night would be no help to a person if they needed it there and then?
And it's not 'an almighty cheek' to think the police might do a welfare check if a person is genuinely concerned for someone's safety. Not that I actually rang them.
Dh is a taxpayer too - the outrage you display at the notion of taxpayer money, as if it has no connection to the people who are paying it!

Your use of language clearly shows your type.
I'm giving my opinion and you should be prepared for all kinds of opinion, on here and social media in general.
You and he might well be taxpayers but police cars as taxis is not what the money is for.
Your partner chose to have too much to drink and you could ring and pay for a taxi to collect him and either bring him home or take him to the nearest hotel. If police were to attend every well-oiled adult individual after receiving a call from partner or parents, they would not have time to do any real policing. I suspect that if police DID attend and ring you back to say he's hungover but ok, 10-1 you'd rail at them for not giving him a lift.

'My type'? PMSL. I think I have the patience of a saint, given the lack of reading and comprehension skills displayed by some posters on this thread!
At least read an OP's posts before coming on to put the boot in about something that happened last week. At best your opinion at this point is obsolete.

Very true! But obviously I didn’t know they were in different hotels which explains a great deal but hey ho the matter is all done and dusted now .

Adults get attacked too. I understand why she's worried and I think the police would help. They do more than we think.
If she makes a bacon sarnie, could she make one for me? I'm only a few thousand miles away.

Anyway I hope and I'm sure you'll get an embarrassed husband home. Don't shout at him. He's probably learned his lesson.

I'd have been worried too OP. Glad it all worked out ok

I understand the logic of calling the police. They do welfare checks all the time. Obviously you don't call 999 but nothing wrong with calling 111 and asking for advice. He was drunk, incoherent and in a strange place.

If the police had happened to drive past and saw him lying asleep at a bus top then they would have undoubtedly stopped to do a welfare check.

I am glad it worked out well in the end, he is lucky to have a partner who cares. I think the responses would be different if it was a man asking this question about his wife alone and incoherent at a bus stop in a strange city.