Anyone up? Would I be stupid to ring the police?

[LadyBird1973]

Non emergency number obviously .

My husband has gone out on a work do, had more to drink than he realises, thinks he's sober and isn't, so can't have a proper conversation where he listens to what I'm saying he should do. He's stuck mikes from his hotel, no transport and was sitting at a bus stop waiting for a bus that won't come til tomorrow and can't see why this is a problem!

Is it totally irresponsible if I called the police and asked them to help him? Would they even do it, given men do stupid shit like this all the time?

I'm stressed though. And too far to go and get him.

The police's job is to respond to crimes. It's not their job to rescue adults who had too much to drink and need to sober up quickly, pull on their big boy pants and work out how to get themselves home

Call a taxi or collect him yourself. A last resort would be to call the local police and ask advice.

I do wish people would read the thread before commenting.

The Police are not a taxi service ffs. Why do you think they are massively overstretched and unable to attend rapes and burglaries! Being taxis for drunken eejits. Sorry no sympathy.

He's a big boy, he can look after himself. I was a copper for 12 years. If we got a call asking me to check up on a stag do partner, it's going to the bottom of my to-do list. As the public kept telling me, I should be out catching murderers and violent criminals. Not cuddling your DH.

How if he’s at a “work do” end up separated from his colleagues on his own in the middle of nowhere? That’s what I’d want to know and leave him to sort himself out then maybe he won’t get in that situation again! How annoying are husbands when they are drunk 🤦‍♀️

Obviously I know this was resolved days ago but adults aren't chained together like a school crocodile on a night out, of course they can get separated

He wasn't at a stag do @Goodguy1976. I do hope you paid more attention to detail when you were actually a police officer. And I didn't actually call the police - I was just worried in the middle of the night and trying to think of ways to assist him.
I do think of the police as also being there to help people, naive of me perhaps.

@khooper28 they were in different hotels. But agree that drunk husbands are annoying!

Detail...you are absolutely right. My apologies.

I've seen someone lying in the road drunk before and the police just heaved him onto the pavement where he wouldn't get run over and continued about their business 😬

Forgotten birthday from friends
Am I being sensitive? I’ve recently had a birthday not a special one but even so - two friends I see on a weekly basis that I go above and beyond to help and call regularly have both forgotten my birthday.
I never expect gifts however a text message, card or phone call would have made my day.
On top of this which I guess is really upsetting me is a longtime friend from over 30 years ago had a party for her sons 21st. His birthday was a Friday party on the Saturday. As I don’t live local to them I chose to give him the card with a nice amount of money inside at the party.
After the event she made a passive aggressive remark via text that she absolutely hates it when people cannot get a card on their actual birthday. The remark came after the event, and then this week she has not sent me a birthday card at all.
I posted on socials a photo of a meal I had without mentioning my birthday she then text saying she was a shit friend for not sending me a card and she’d forgotten. I have not replied and would love a witty reply
It’s a little ironic I thought - and I’m still reeling that for my 50th she never bought any gift at all yet I did for her as it was a big hoopla for her birthday!
I can’t help but think I’m choosing the wrong people in my life that are narcissistic. I have a lot of sadness in my life recently and I would have thought friends would be supportive but I feel everyone I meet are selfish! As I said it’s not a money thing although all my friends are more wealthy than me it would of been nice to receive a text, call, or a card
Any witty replies welcome and feedback to ger text as I’m feeling very lonely in my friendships
ps if I mention about my 50th now does it sound ridiculous to bring up long after the event

@Bijoux8 you've accidentally posted on the wrong thread.

Yes they should have texted. I think the irony is not lost on your friend that having complained about late cards, she sent a late card herself. I think maybe make the level of effort for them, that they do for you.
Hope your birthday was otherwise lovely

Calling 999 for a drunk person at a bus stop... good use of police time? Stag do or no...

Again @Goodguy1976 I never intended to call 999. I said right at the start of my post non emergency number obviously.

I see. It would get triaged to effectively 'when an officer has time'. Likely they would drive by the bus stop around 1400 the next afternoon (the quiet period). If DH hadn't made it home by then, you should worry. Calling the police in the situation you describe would not protect or assist your husband and would put pressure on a service that is already close to collapse. YABU to call the police.

The police have too much to do than provide an escort service for a drunken fool.

Some years ago, in the days of phone boxes, my DH used to get blotto every works do. One time he took a left instead if a right in the fog and ended up in some industrial estate trying to find a box to call home. Eventually found one but could only remember a really old friends number and had no idea where he was. Some Sherlock work got him home. The following event I filled his wallet, coat and jacket pockets with little slips of paper saying "if lost please return to" and my phone number.... Your man will grow out of this. Mine did. :)

I once fell asleep on a bus hammered on the wrong side of London. A rough part as well (Wood green). My husband took a call from me saying that then my phone died. I got off the bus to find my cards and oyster were still on it and it had driven off. No taxis would take me. I found myself crying and thankfully a woman offered me and oyster. I then had to sit in the train station until the trains started again and no one called the police. My husband was relieved but furious when I got home.

I can't believe some of the responses on here. I don't think some women love their husbands 🤔 I certainly wouldn't want to be with my partner If he reacted that way.

Glad he's okay. Completely understand the worry. X

Yes you would. This is not a police issue. Find the local taxi company, book a cab and pay for it either in cash when they deliver him to your door or by card.

And resolve the other obvious issue of the fact that he can't be trusted to get home/has a drinking problem later

@EastCoastDamsel much as I love him, I'm not paying a taxi fare for a 200 mile lift home

If the criterion for having a drinking problem is having a few too many/getting lost on a night out, then half the country probably has one.

Hes still growing up. This was never a police matter. Get some rest yourself.

He’ll eventually come home. Sore and humiliated.

Exactly!

The police aren’t a taxi service. You are very unreasonable to even consider calling the police. There isn’t an emergency. He’s inconvenienced not in danger.