Son hurt me. With this (pic)

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My son is 16 he kept going on at me over food . I feel ill. I have food in freezer /cupboards . He does not want it. He would not leave me alone. I feel total shit. My other kids are ill as well. I told him to leave me alone.

He then went to his room. He still kept messaging me over food. I'm the end I went to his room and said stop we are ill you need to stop your 16 your old enough to sort yourself food.

He told me to get out . I did I closed the door. He then came out a throw a bottle at me. It don't seem like much but it really hurt . He's been aggressive in the past. And really nasty . But he's never physically touched me.

I can't take this anymore. I told him tp leave he's gone I have no idea where i think he will contact out of hours social services.

OP might have been perfectly healthy up to and including her last pregnancy, for all you know.

It's the first rule of misogyny again: the boy's violence is the OP's fault because <checks notes> she had too many kids.

No he has never Been involved with social services. I told him how to do it reason being is I have nothing to hide. I told him he had every right to call them. And I told him he can look them up via the local council. So now every time he throws a tantrum he rings them

Teenaged Boys get REALLY hungry.
Is there no ready edibles in the house?
brown bread, peanut butter, bananas?

It’s a ridiculous thing to be calling social services over something so trivial.

Always keep a good supply of easily prepared food in the house-

( Foster family down road where we lived once advised this -Very experienced people)

Totally agree, 100% this. All those spouting it’s your responsibility to look after him/you’re his parent crap, have clearly never experienced what the OP is going through. She does not have to put up with his violence just because she’s his parent.

yes thank you! I didn’t see this initial reply but you’ve worded it perfectly. To be clear yes the abuser men were vile and abominable, but their mum allowed the men to stay on and abuse her eldest son.

The reason I had emphasis on what the mother allowed was because I was explaining why he had resentment against her and therefore focusing on her part.

This kind of neglect/abuse at the hands of mums “new boyfriend” happens a lot to children and it’s shocking. My aunt was a single parent and she didn’t have men around for this reason. She said she’d rather die than have a man be cruel to her child (although of course not all stepdads are bad.! )

It’s a ridiculous thing to be calling social services over something so trivial.

Being assaulted by someone considerably larger and stronger than yourself is not fucking trivial.

Also, OP clearly stated in her opening post that she has food in the house he could have made if he wanted to.

You lack understanding of the extent to which a man can completely control a woman through intimidation, violence, and coercion.

Maybe. The way op words it in her post of 14.21 would suggest it is more recent. She is getting shortness of breath and hasn’t taken steps to get it investigated.

Op, did you post something the other day? About a son with ADHD who hasn’t been given any medication? Your wording and responses sound incredibly similar.

Ive seen it all now.

I think you've done the right thing, OP.

OP does he have a trusted adult he respects? Grandparents for example?

Are you for real? The answer to OP's problem is peanut butter?

If it's the thread I'm on, the lad is 12ish.

My son has not been exposed to any domestic violence.

If he's neurodiverse and hunger is a meltdown trigger, it might help. That's making a lot of assumptions though.

Your life must be proper shit if you think having a bottle thrown at you by someone who is six foot four using 'all his might' is trivial.

But the OP doesn't want to have that as her life.

And it's attitudes like that that explain why some children grow up so entitled. He may technically be a child but hes 16 so SS won't help.
He's bloody old enough to know better. I don't let my 3 year old throw things at me. If he did at 16 I'd hit the roof.
And he's not on the streets. He's probably at his mate's moaning about how unreasonable his mum is (you weren't).

It's kind of funny 😅 I have 2 freezers of almost fall food . I have the basics in the fridge, and lots of pastas, tin stuff. There's plenty to eat . I even have peanut butter.

He never even looked in the freezer/kitchen he came straight to me from his room . He basically wanted some sort of take away.

And it's attitudes like that that explain why some children grow up so entitled. He may technically be a child but hes 16 so SS won't help.

This isn't correct. At 16 SS have a legal responsibility to ensure he has somewhere safe to stay. They also have to support him with finances if OP is unwilling/unable and ensure he has access to the appropriate support.

https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/child-protection-system/children-the-law#:~:text=Once%20a%20young%20person%20reaches,child%20until%20they%20reach%2018.

Agree with you.
No wonder there are so many disturbed kids out there-

People seek to abandon children THEY created as if it’s as easy as abandoning an animal .

Parenting is hard work sometimes, some parents squabble with their children as if both are children.

Abandoning a 16 yr old makes him prime target for County Lines &c.