Son hurt me. With this (pic)

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My son is 16 he kept going on at me over food . I feel ill. I have food in freezer /cupboards . He does not want it. He would not leave me alone. I feel total shit. My other kids are ill as well. I told him to leave me alone.

He then went to his room. He still kept messaging me over food. I'm the end I went to his room and said stop we are ill you need to stop your 16 your old enough to sort yourself food.

He told me to get out . I did I closed the door. He then came out a throw a bottle at me. It don't seem like much but it really hurt . He's been aggressive in the past. And really nasty . But he's never physically touched me.

I can't take this anymore. I told him tp leave he's gone I have no idea where i think he will contact out of hours social services.

Last time I looked you become an adult at 18 in this country. I'm curious as to how this happened overnight so one day he was ok and the next he was trashing the house and chucks bottles. Why was this unchecked?

I’m with you. What a frightening situation to be in as a mother! I’d be terrified.

With other children in the house too! What about them?

I'm sorry but I wouldn't want my 16 year old marrying his girlfriend let alone at 15, what about having a life.

foster care doesnt end at 16
and i think he has additional needs?

Golden read Op's comments then read your last post.
Noone should have to put up with the fear of ongoing violence in their own home. Physically her son is a lot taller and stronger than his mother and he admits he knows what he is doing is wrong.
OP has a duty of care to her other kids as well as her own safety.

Just in case this has not been mentioned before:

Parents of under-16-year-olds are legally responsible for making sure their child has somewhere safe to stay. Once a young person reaches 16 they can leave home, or their parents can ask them to move out. However parents are still legally responsible for their child until they reach 18.17 May 2023
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This thread is making me sick, shit talkers who have no fucking clue what they are on about. A 16 year old 6 foot 4 strong man is not a fucking baby who needs his mummy to make him a sandwich. This thread is vile.

i am sorry you need to take some responsibility op

do you have any relatives who could help?

Op - you’re understandably at breaking point and if I were your friend, I’d be supporting you and giving you the hugest hug. I hope the pain ends in some gain, that he realises the consequences of his actions.

What is people's obsession with this. Legally they're a child. If you have a problem with that, take it up with parliament. At 16 they would be undertaking an apprenticeship with the army, not going into combat.

This is so stupid and the law really needs to change around this.

Some of the replies on here are fucking disgraceful. OP, why don't you contact Social Services and forewarn them that you will not be having him back.
This 'boy' is 6"4. Some disgusting replies, no wonder male entitlement is getting worse and not better in 2023. He is the size of an adult male and far stronger than a female of the same age would be before anyone starts with the "I'd say exactly the same if he was a girl" bullshit.

He is being assessed for ADHD, I wonder if he is also autistic. You need to make a referral to social services, preferably disabled social worker who may be a bit more up to date with how to parent a child with adhd. You should have an carer assessment also. Is there any youth working team in your borough - I suspect they may be helpful also. You could tell his school, they may trigger this referral for you.

Are the bleeding hearts on here actually reading the comments that the OP has written? Some responses are horrendous and kicking the OP when she has asked for help.

Just remember some of your dc may be like this one day, no one knows for sure.

FFS. Yet another one who hasn't read all of OP's comments. This isn't a one off incident.

Yeah, it tells me his behaviour is escalating...

some 13 year old boys are fully grown

100%

Thank you for getting it.

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