How old when you had your first child?

[Brightstar29]

I’m 30 and every other day I’m seeing a pregnancy or birth announcement on social media, often from people younger than me.

i’m in a relatively new relationship, both doing masters level uni courses which finish next year, both on the same page about wanting kids, don’t currently live together but have talked about it and it’s in the pipeline for within the next year. Despite this I’m still feeling the anxiety and urge to have a baby. I was with my ex until 28 and had 3 miscarriages, I’ve had all the tests to find out why and will get extra support in another pregnancy, but it’s intensified the urge and heightened the anxiety for me.

I had my first at 27

Ypu're going to get a hugely varied range of numbers hwre

There's no right age for babies. Sounds like you have a good career ahead so work on that and worry about babies in a couple of years

We are all different

I had mine at 39 but spent my 20s faffing around in crappy jobs, wasting money and not meeting the right man. I didn't start adulting until mid 30s

I think it’s just with the many pregnancy announcements I’m seeing from people around my age or younger it’s making me anxious particularly as I know have had problems in the past. I’ve spent my 20s getting my career on track, travelling but also was in the wrong relationship.

My first at 16, then in my 20's and now expecting again and I'm 34.

Id say definitely wait till you've finished your uni course but what you could do in the mean time is get in touch with the recurrent miscarriage clinic (or whatever it's called in your area) Maybe you have to go through your GP.

I'm not sure what Tommy's is. Is it a private miscarriage/ fertility clinic? Are you going to be seen by them? If not I'd contact your local recurrent miscarriage clinic so that you are ok their radar when you start trying to conceive.

From the age of 28, I've never not known someone to be pregnant. Maybe I didn't always know that someone was pregnant, but there was always one.

34 now, and due my own first.

I completely get this. I get a bit tired of Instagram and Facebook to be honest - partly for this reason. It seems constant. But what you don’t see is the hundreds of people not pregnant because either they don’t want to be or can’t. People can hardly post about that. Hope this helps even a little bit. Some people may look at you and think wow she’s got a great career and has been to some amazing places.

21,23,24 and 27.

Ist grandchild aged 42 - DD had her 1st at the same age.

First at 35 and 2nd at 37

You still have lots of time on your side OP. I was 30 when I had DD1 and I was the youngest in my antenatal group. Most were 35 to 38, a couple of women that have now become good friends were in their early 40s when they had their first child.

So, I would finish your course and then reassess.

40
Started IVF and management post grad on same day! ☺️

32

36. After 14 years of marriage including almost 4 TTC. That was 30 years ago and I was definitely the oldest first time mum of the ward which would be unlikely today. DS was the one and only precious gift.

19 and 24 with my 2nd

28

28 then 33,36

19. When I look back (I'm now 59) I think omg I was still a child! But I don't regret it,as it's meant that I've been able to be a relatively young grandmother. I've now got a lovely DGD who's nearly 17. 😊