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Why don't some people age?

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Heytheredeliah · 07/06/2023 21:08

I often notice people who do not age very much at all.

They still look 20 at the age of 30. Why don't they age?

I don't smoke, drink around 2 glasses of wine a year, eat ok, exercise, worn factor 50+ on my face everyday for years, but I can still me my face and skin aging. I don't know what is causing it.

Does anyone know any tips to stop aging or slow if down?

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AnnaZofia · 11/06/2023 17:56

It's genetics, I'm afraid, plus exposure (Or not) to sunlight.
I never use moisturisers (I mean to but forget and end up throwing them out after a few years) and I've got really good skin for my age (nearly 60) despite having smoked for a big part of my adult life. Others slather themselves in products and it makes sod all difference.
I've avoided sunlight because I hate being hot, which probably helped.

bryceQ · 11/06/2023 18:12

I think for us mere mortals it's 70% genetic and 30% lifestyle such as limit sun exposure, eat well, etc but I think if you have a lot of money, you have access to amazing facial treatments and supplements, Iv drips, special diets and generally a way of fighting aging.

I have quite a few facial massages, usually two per month and I'm glowing after them, if I had these every few days my skin would be amazing.

IDontWantToBeAPie · 11/06/2023 22:15

Genetics. Plain and simple.

Good genes and a lack of sun exposure/SPF use will keep you young for decades.

Dinosaurhearmeroar · 18/06/2023 18:16

I have to agree - my colleague is same age as me (34) and smokes like a chimney. Her skin is pretty much unlined and she often gets mistaken for a 6th former (we’re teachers!). It’s not botox - I have that and recognise the signs in others 😂. Just luck I guess.

nopuppiesallowed · 18/06/2023 18:30

Posture, posture and posture! It doesn't get rid of the wrinkles, but from a distance it makes you look younger. I have always been told I look a lot younger than I am but only use cheap face cream (cetraben). No face cream would deal with the vertical lip lines that I absolutely hate, so am watching this thread with interest.

MrsKnows · 19/06/2023 07:35

hear you! Although it’s true that good genes and good luck are major factors, taking care of your skin, diet and exercise routine can help.

Being overweight can add years - when one sees a slender person, they can often wear more youthful, flattering clothes (and I don’t mean mutton dressed up as lamb!) But losing weight too quickly or being underweight, isn’t an attractive, youthful look on older bodies, either! So if weight’s an issue for you, lose a few pounds but STOP when your saggy skin makes you look and feel worse! Conversely, GAIN a few if you look shrivelled and wizened!

Moisturising DOES help! The trouble is, the good ones can be expensive £20-40 a jar or more. Unless you have the money, you don’t need to spend more and if you don’t have the money, you can spend less. The trick is to use moisturisers that tell you the percentage of people they work for and see if they work for you - if one whole pot makes no difference, try a different brand! You WILL find one that plumps, firms & tightens the skin, reducing fine lines over time - but it may not be the first one you try! (And you may need one for night and one for daytime)

Moisturising DOES work! You should be moisturising your whole body - especially crepey skin around the neck, chest, arms and inner thighs - the calves, feet, buttocks and outer thighs are easier to remember/reach!

As for diet, TRY to keep processed food to a minimum and whether you gorge on refined carbs or eat organic, certain nutritional supplements will help - I’m guessing you’re female, so collagen and well woman supplements will usually have an impact on your skin and hair. I tried several different types/brands of collagen until I found one that made a visible difference, instead of an emotional difference - not that I have anything against the feel good factor, it’s just that I felt even better when I was using creams and supplements that worked for me and I could see it just by looking in the mirror or people who hadn’t seen me for weeks or months were commenting on how I looked.

Another great tip is exercise - toning and stretching - not exhausting high impact cardio. Cardio is often counterproductive as we age - focus on toning skin and muscles, strengthening your body and becoming more supple - youth is toned, strong and supple - aged is saggy and weak.

if you need energy, try vitamin B7 (biotin) with chromium piccolinate; adjust the time of day you take it to suit your energy needs - once it starts working, it will keep you awake at night, so take it before midday or you won’t be able to sleep! Vitamin D combined with vitamin K acts like a hormone for every cell in your body. You can take general supplements but focus on high quality, pure products without fillers and bulking agents.

Try to ignore anyone who tells you all the nutrients you need come from food - in 1970, the nutritional value of food was almost 50% higher than what it is today - simply based on the poor quality of our food now, due to over-farming and chemicals in fertilisers, depleted soil and hormones added to animal feed etc.

The average doctor’s training spends only a few weeks on nutrition - that’s why they simply say ‘eat a balanced diet and exercise’ but can’t advise you on what will really help. For that, you need a specialist. Also, doctors are trained and marketed to by drug companies; their primary focus isn’t going to be ‘look good - feel great!’ Their business is sickness and disease.

You sound as if you’re on the right track already and a little bit of tweaking will really help slow down the aging - we’re all living longer so it’s good to take care of yourself so that you feel good in your body!

Biggest tip for great skin? Don’t stress and get 7-9 hours sleep every night! Good luck!

isitshe · 19/06/2023 13:57

Heytheredeliah · 07/06/2023 21:15

Well obviously I know that the passing of time causes aging but I seem to be aging quicker and I don't know how to slow it down. I really want my 20 year old skin back.

@Heytheredeliah I realise you may not come back to this thread from nearly 2 weeks ago but you haven't said what age you are.
Until quite recently I looked a good bit younger than I was, but perimenopause is starting and I can really see the aging process accelerating. I really was getting away with it.
As per your examples in your OP, I still looked like I was in my early 20s when I was hitting 30. Most of the people you're talking about won't continue to 'get away with it' as they get into their 30s and 40s. It's just the way it is.

BMrs · 19/06/2023 14:15

Use tretinoin. It reverses the signs of skin aging. Been using around 2 years and get so many compliments about my skin and am always told I look younger. I've got a before and after pic and my skin has improved massively. You can get a monthly prescription and bottle from dematica.co.uk or if you're travelling to turkey or Spain pick up the 0.025% tubes in the pharmacy dirt cheap. Join face room groups for advice

HappyMe6 · 15/11/2023 16:33

I wouldn’t take much notice of social media photos good lighting expensive make up filters, we all age it’s natural. Have you actually gone up close to your tv and looked closely at some of the presenters skin, ( it makes me feel a whole lo5 better about mine and I was born in the 50s. 🤣🤣🤣 I’m not being disrespectful it’s the truth, much as I try to keep my skin looking as good as it can drinking water keeping out sun, eating healthy no work done. Let’s face it we are all aging just get on with your life and do what makes you happy is my motto. Life is too short

TravelPlug · 15/11/2023 16:59

Staying at around the same weight helps, and having a flattering hair colour for your skin (for example, a tanned 20 year old might be able to carry off a white blonde in a way that isn’t so flattering at 45 when a caramel colour might sit better against more tired skin)

It’s all in other people’s eyes though, people always tell me that I haven’t aged or haven’t changed a bit, but I know I certainly have!

I use tretonin at night and a really nice brightening serum during the day, and also don’t wear foundation anymore as I find that more make up makes me look older - it’s hard to look “fresh” with foundation on these days. The same with eyeliner and eyeshadow what looked smoky at a younger age just looks harsh now, so a less more look is less aging I think.

Plus light Botox twice a year, HRT and no alcohol.

Deathraystare · 16/11/2023 15:50

I was watching that series set in Africa - family move there and look after animals. Steven Tomkinson/Tomlinson and Amanda whats her face who I normally cannot stand. Can't remember when it was first on tv but her mum is played by Hayley Mills. No idea how old she is but she looks fantastic!

AffIt · 16/11/2023 15:54

Genes and good quality sleep, mostly.

Sartre · 16/11/2023 16:00

Genetics play a part I guess.

My Gran has 4 sisters and they all look much older than her, even the two who are younger than her. Difference between them is the fact they all smoked, drank and didn’t eat very well. She’s never smoked or drank and she eats a healthy pescatarian diet. Hard to say that’s genetic, it seems fairly clear it’s lifestyle choices.

Sartre · 16/11/2023 16:01

Oh and I also think people who wear more make up look a lot older. My Gran has never worn it and looks great, her sisters wear a lot and look much older as I say.

CeciledeVolangesdeNouveau · 16/11/2023 16:07

I can’t share a secret because I’ve treated my body like absolute shit for a decade or more and I’ve been mistaken for a teenager at 31 (and it wasn’t flattery at least last time, my DP who is 21 mistook me for a university fresher). The only ironic exception is that I’ve always worn factor 50+ and not only do I have a tumour from sun damage, I’m starting to get red skin, probably down to genetics and spending a lot of time outdoors. I think the “secret” for me is to have a chubby face, tiny chest and probably my quite young-sounding voice helps :S

bombastix · 16/11/2023 16:10

The secret of anti ageing is simply not to have children. Nothing else will do in your face more than the sleepless nights and bone tiredness.

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