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Why don't some people age?

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Heytheredeliah · 07/06/2023 21:08

I often notice people who do not age very much at all.

They still look 20 at the age of 30. Why don't they age?

I don't smoke, drink around 2 glasses of wine a year, eat ok, exercise, worn factor 50+ on my face everyday for years, but I can still me my face and skin aging. I don't know what is causing it.

Does anyone know any tips to stop aging or slow if down?

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catslovelife · 10/06/2023 08:34

I think the problem is people assume 30 year olds will look middle aged, when actually they won't look too different than they did in their early 20s.

BUT I think there are some things that age people - having children, smoking, drinking etc.

ItsHardknocklife · 10/06/2023 08:57

Well I'm 36 but I still get asked for Id and people always think I'm only 24-25 i can't tell you why just good genes I suppose! I drink plenty of water and always use factor 50 sun cream on my face even in winter.

FavouriteDogMug · 10/06/2023 16:27

I think some people age but look good for their age, wrinkles in the right place, no jowls, hair a nice shade of salt and pepper or white.

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 10/06/2023 19:30

Genetics and good nutrients and how you look after yourself? My family wasn't as fortunate as me, my mum and my aunties had grey hair and wrinkles at my age. I don't have any, due to better sunscreen, supplement and whatever.

Stressfordays · 10/06/2023 19:38

I regularly get IDd and I'm in my mid 30s. Its just genetics, the women on my Mums side of the family all age well.

People saying its lack of stress, eating well etc. Are just not true. I have 3 kids, I'm a nurse, I went through a very traumatic divorce, I smoke, drink and eat crap. Still look about 12 🤣

AlecTrevelyan006 · 10/06/2023 20:14

80% genetics
20% lifestyle - exercise, diet etc

Bingo10 · 10/06/2023 20:50

Dawn has regular botox as she has said on her insta

Bingo10 · 10/06/2023 21:01

A lot of people have regular botox and fillers

lemonchiffonpie · 11/06/2023 01:39

AlecTrevelyan006 · 10/06/2023 20:14

80% genetics
20% lifestyle - exercise, diet etc

I think you'll find you have got the percentages reversed.

What we call "ageing", and the diseases and disorders associated with ageing, has been found to be 20% genetics and 80% lifestyle - I see no reason why the skin, the body's largest organ, should be immune from this.

catslovelife · 11/06/2023 04:34

Being ID'd doesn't mean much. People who work in jobs where they have to ID people are told to ID everyone who looks under 25, as there are regular spot checks. I used to ID people who were much older to be on the safe side.

Smallonesaremorejuicy · 11/06/2023 05:17

Genetics for sure . My grandmother used to sunbathe covered in baby oil ,has never used face cream in her life & says water drinking is for dogs ! But somehow looks 50 even though she is in her seventies.

pepperminticecream · 11/06/2023 05:36

LadyAstor · 07/06/2023 21:15

Everybody ages - apart from Heather Graham - god knows what she's doing but we're the same age and I look like her mother!

I googled her after reading your comment and read a few interviews with her where she says that she sleeps 9-12 hours per night, doesn't drink alcohol, she doesn't eat sugar or white flour, she does yoga and pilates for hours each day, spends one full day per week in bed relaxing and she doesn't have children. So that will do it!

troubg · 11/06/2023 05:38

What's the difference between a wrinkle & lines? I thought they were the same things

ShandaLear · 11/06/2023 06:27

Genetics, exercise, eating well, sleeping well, and living your best life, though I think the vast majority of people look their age plus or minus 3 years, and no amount of Botox, filler, diet or exercise can change that, not really. Surely the aim should be to look and feel healthy and great at any age. For example, Nicole Scherzinger is 45. She looks 45 and she looks AMAZING. Contrast that with Amanda Holden and Carol Vorderman, who have always strived to look youthful. They look great but now they look like they’ve bathed in Botox and filler, and there comes a point where they don’t look young - they look like someone desperate to look young.

Yetisrus · 11/06/2023 07:31

Genetics has a lot to do with it. I'm lucky that all my years of partying hard haven't aged me but that's because my parents passed down great genes. We all look younger than we are.

Kennykenkencat · 11/06/2023 07:56

I always looked very young. Was shouted at in a pub by one of the school teachers at a local boarding school who mistook me for one of their pupils. (I was nearly 30)

Always used Boots No 7 religiously morning noon and night. Till they changed the recipe and have spent many years and some horrendous allergic reactions (ending up in A&E) trying to find a new cream. Discovered Tretinoin.
Always use sun screen and a big hat

Haven’t eaten meat for decades, never smoked, don’t drink.

Didnt age with my 1st pregnancy but dramatically aged with my 2nd as my pregnancy was 9 months of feeling really really ill
Lockdown caused more harm than good in my family and I aged again

I am in my 60s and starting to go a little grey.

Don’t have any wrinkles but I do have a saggy jaw line.

I can point to times when I have aged. Usually times of stress but otherwise I wouldn’t have aged.

Always wonder what I would have looked like if Boots hadn’t joined the put Hylauronic Acid in everything revolution and left their cream alone as I swear I never aged whilst i was using their cream

itwillworkoutintheend · 11/06/2023 09:03

Mainly genetics. Also think that having a positive disposition (not being anxious and fretting) helps and plenty of sleep. My mum still doesn't have grey hairs (maybe a tiny few) and she's in her mid 80s.

I've not eaten terribly healthy always, drink alcohol and eat sweets. Don't think creams help. Of course some people do use Botox and fillers and they clearly help them. I've never done drugs (I do think those who do drugs regularly seem to look older; definitely affects their teeth).

Blinky21 · 11/06/2023 09:23

I am often told I don't age by other people, though I can definitely see that I have. I'm mid 40s, in my case it's genetics, my mum looks incredibly young for her age, and not having children!

irishfeminist · 11/06/2023 09:33

Genes. My mum and gran had great skin which I've inherited. I've never smoked or sunbathed. It does catch up with you though, it was menopause for me. At 50 I still have good skin with hardly a line but my jawline is softening, eyelids drooping, mouth turning down a little. I've made my peace with it and try to focus on being healthy and strong and fit. I hate to think of 29 year olds having Botox.

pontipinemum · 11/06/2023 11:30

Until recently I would get very strange looks when I told people I was married. One acquaintance said "it sounds so strange every time you say you're married you look like you're at uni"
Having a baby has aged me 🤣

Mostly I think it comes down to genetics. But also what you wear and what people perceive as older/ younger clothes. I don't dress like a 20yr old from 2023 but I do dress similar to how I did in my 20s circa 2015. Women in their 30s don't look like women in their 30s in 1960 or even on the TV

ChittyBangabang · 11/06/2023 11:31

LadyAstor · 07/06/2023 21:15

Everybody ages - apart from Heather Graham - god knows what she's doing but we're the same age and I look like her mother!

Oh, that's was funny though

Anothercrappyusername · 11/06/2023 11:40

I think genes for some people, can make some people look good for their age and just generally tak8ng care of yourself.
Also over last 20 or 30 years people dye their hair and they dress ‘ younger’ , so it’s more difficult to age someone.
Looking at pictures of my Nan in her 40s with her grey hair and clothes, she looks a good 20 years older than she was.
I also don’t think the media has caught up with this change either, they present you with what a 50 year old looks like in their view and when you do meet a 50 year old that doesn’t look that way, they look amazingly youthful.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 11/06/2023 11:46

At least partly genes. My DM still had (albeit somewhat faded) golden hair at 80, and fell out with a neighbour who accused her of lying when she said she didn’t dye it. She still wasn’t properly grey, let alone white, when she died at 97.

She also had very un-lined skin, but that was largely down to being very fair and burning easily, so keeping out of the sun.

ssd · 11/06/2023 12:05

I bet you look fine op

9outof10cats · 11/06/2023 14:18

I would say aging is determined by genetics and lifestyle.

My sister (56), is 2 years older than me. Completely grey, wrinkly, and looks 10 years older than her true age. Has always been a heavy smoker, bad diet, never exercised, and drinks alcohol quite a lot.

She has had a really stressful career all her life - which I think has contributed to her unhealthy lifestyle and premature aging.

I have some grey hair, but mostly my natural colour still, and some eye wrinkles. Most people think I am 10 years younger than my true age. Exercised consistently since my 20s, good diet, have a good skincare regime (always protect skin in the sun and never sunbathe), and rarely drink alcohol, but still smoke.

I have had stressful periods in my life, when my mental health was not that great, but have mainly lived a fairly stress-free life (out of choice).