Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

OP posts:
PriamFarrl · 04/06/2023 07:07

EmeraldFox · 04/06/2023 07:02

Or they have a sole parent at home, working full time, trying to keep the family afloat. Then an absent parent, which may be a reason why a child is misbehaving.

Exactly. Or the parent is seriously ill and it’s actually their 17 year old sister that is caring for them. Or their parents are always stoned and drunk. Or a parent is violent.

I do get it. I get annoyed that a small number of children disrupt everything for everyone else. It’s very unfair, but sending children off to roam the street because they tell you to fuck off once it too much.

noblegiraffe · 04/06/2023 08:08

because they tell you to fuck off once it too much.

If we're talking about a single strike for disrupting a lesson then I suspect Florenz would like you kicked out of school for far less. Talking to your mate while the teacher is teaching disrupts the lesson.

MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 08:25

If a kid tells me to fuck off, they do get removed.
Far more disruptive is the constant pointless wittering about how "it's not fair" or the dicking about because they don't have a pen or their mate was a dick at break or the head on the desk refusing...
... still can't exclude them for any of that though.

Tegrate · 04/06/2023 09:30

MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 08:25

If a kid tells me to fuck off, they do get removed.
Far more disruptive is the constant pointless wittering about how "it's not fair" or the dicking about because they don't have a pen or their mate was a dick at break or the head on the desk refusing...
... still can't exclude them for any of that though.

Would you want that power?

MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 09:41

It's irrelevant whether I'd want that power. Schools don't have it, and even if they did, there is very little alternative provision that we could access.
The poster who thinks we should just chuck them out is deluded.
What I would like is smaller class sizes to enable me to spend more time with individuals, more planning time so I can prepare better lessons, more support for the students who need it, a more flexible curriculum. None of which are possible.

noblegiraffe · 04/06/2023 09:44

The poster who thinks we should just chuck them out is deluded.

That poster doesn't want them put in alternative provision, that poster wants them put on the streets.

MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 09:48

noblegiraffe · 04/06/2023 09:44

The poster who thinks we should just chuck them out is deluded.

That poster doesn't want them put in alternative provision, that poster wants them put on the streets.

Ah yes. Then we get complaints from
the locals and sometimes the police turn up.
That's fun.
And in no way takes anyone's time up from the core business of teaching 🤦🏼‍♀️

PriamFarrl · 04/06/2023 13:31

MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 09:41

It's irrelevant whether I'd want that power. Schools don't have it, and even if they did, there is very little alternative provision that we could access.
The poster who thinks we should just chuck them out is deluded.
What I would like is smaller class sizes to enable me to spend more time with individuals, more planning time so I can prepare better lessons, more support for the students who need it, a more flexible curriculum. None of which are possible.

None of which are possible without some serious investment….

Questionsforyou · 04/06/2023 15:05

Florenz · 03/06/2023 23:11

They can go home. Their parents had them, their parents brought them up, let them deal with the consequences.

You can't withdraw education from a child!

Florenz · 04/06/2023 15:57

Questionsforyou · 04/06/2023 15:05

You can't withdraw education from a child!

Of course you can. If they aren't willing to be educated, what is the point?

MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 16:02

Florenz · 04/06/2023 15:57

Of course you can. If they aren't willing to be educated, what is the point?

That would be illegal exclusion

noblegiraffe · 04/06/2023 16:28

Florenz · 04/06/2023 15:57

Of course you can. If they aren't willing to be educated, what is the point?

There are many children you would have written off who we have nonetheless managed to educate.

What benefit is there to the country to have large groups of children uneducated and on the streets?

Florenz · 04/06/2023 16:49

noblegiraffe · 04/06/2023 16:28

There are many children you would have written off who we have nonetheless managed to educate.

What benefit is there to the country to have large groups of children uneducated and on the streets?

There wouldn't be many at all. Once they started to see that there were consequences to misbehaving at school, the vast majority of them would fall into line.

MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 16:58

The consequence is that you don't have to go to school? I don't think that ends with them "falling into line"

SerendipityJane · 04/06/2023 17:08

MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 16:02

That would be illegal exclusion

Laws can be changed.

OP posts:
MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 17:14

SerendipityJane · 04/06/2023 17:08

Laws can be changed.

Of course. But probably not by me or by you.
And there's no will to do that - schools are heavily penalised for exclusions already.
No one is going to want disaffected teens roaming about with nothing to do because they're not in school.

EarthlyNightshade · 04/06/2023 17:15

MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 16:58

The consequence is that you don't have to go to school? I don't think that ends with them "falling into line"

I reckon my kids would pick this option if they could. Luckily they have to go to school and they have parents who value education. Lots of parents don't, not really, so if more kids were being excluded and lots of kids "on the streets", I think we'd be a while rowing back from that.

Florenz · 04/06/2023 17:16

But there are disaffected groups of teens wandering around with nothing to do because they're not in school. They're just old enough to not be required to be in school anymore.

MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 17:18

EarthlyNightshade · 04/06/2023 17:15

I reckon my kids would pick this option if they could. Luckily they have to go to school and they have parents who value education. Lots of parents don't, not really, so if more kids were being excluded and lots of kids "on the streets", I think we'd be a while rowing back from that.

Exactly.
Of my year 10 class, 5 would vanish overnight to the farm. Another 3 would stay home playing computer games.

It would make my job easier, but that's not an acceptable situation unless we're going back to the days of only educating a portion of the population.

littleripper · 04/06/2023 17:19

I know a lot of teachers. All of them have been striking. All of them say pay is not the issue. The job is impossible and utterly destroys you

MrsHamlet · 04/06/2023 17:19

Florenz · 04/06/2023 17:16

But there are disaffected groups of teens wandering around with nothing to do because they're not in school. They're just old enough to not be required to be in school anymore.

Luckily, they're not my problem. I can think of two who I taught last year who are in the roaming pack this year. Both got a pass in my subject, which gives them a chance. If we'd just binned them off, they'd be in a much worse position.

noblegiraffe · 04/06/2023 17:21

Florenz · 04/06/2023 16:49

There wouldn't be many at all. Once they started to see that there were consequences to misbehaving at school, the vast majority of them would fall into line.

Because why? They want to go to school? They want to do the work?

I've mentioned before the huge amount of work that goes on in schools into getting kids to do the work. Parents experienced it over lockdown. Large swathes of kids do not want to go to school. Many that do want to go to school do not want to do the work.

And not just the ones that you would call 'bad kids'.

Adults generally don't want to work either, that's why we pay them to do it.

CaesarIdo · 04/06/2023 17:29

It's practically illegal for children to be shown how to be respectful, and to properly implement health and safety is untenable due to chronically low pay and staffing levels, so no one wants to do the job.

Samlewis96 · 07/07/2023 16:21

Tegrate · 31/05/2023 22:57

Please tell me you are not now and will never be in charge of influencing our children’s futures - sure solve one problem whilst simultaneously creating a much bigger one. That’s the problem with popularism - one dimensional thinking. What do you think will happen to the excluded kids, their parents won’t be the only ones dealing with the consequences- we all will!

But what about the kids that want to learn? Whyshould they lose out on teaching due to badly behaved kids?

lieselotte · 07/07/2023 16:31

I wonder how teachers managed to deal with us back in the day. They seemed to keep us in line without petty detentions every five minutes. (I am not old enough for corporal punishment to have been the "answer" by the way!)

Large swathes of kids do not want to go to school. Many that do want to go to school do not want to do the work but it was ever thus