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It's my 2nd wedding anniversary and I just want to cry

105 replies

bloodywhitecat · 22/05/2023 08:47

There will be cards, no gifts, no hastily grabbed bunch of roses from the petrol station. No celebratory dinner tonight, no cuddles or kisses. We didn't get to celebrate our first anniversary either as DH died 15 months ago.

Our wedding day was such a happy day even though it was in lockdown and we knew he had terminal cancer (we didn't know he'd have a stroke just 6 months later which would put paid to any further cancer treatment). I am going to take myself out for a good long walk in a bit because I know our anniversary is a date that is only significant to us but it would be lovely if someone else could acknowledge it too.

OP posts:
Kpo58 · 22/05/2023 08:50

I don't know what to say. My thoughts are with you.

💐💐💐

barbarahunter · 22/05/2023 08:50
Flowers
Retire50 · 22/05/2023 08:52

Your true and lasting love for your husband is a joy to read. It’s something not everyone gets to experience and although your time was short together on this earth its impact is eternal. Enjoy your walk feel your husbands presence with you as he will never leave.

GrumpyPanda · 22/05/2023 08:53

Hugs.

BigMacExtraPickles · 22/05/2023 08:53

Didn't want to read and run. Happy Anniversary to you darling. Remember him for the man you met, loved and married. Not what that cruel disease took from him and you. My thoughts are with you 🌹 xx

LividHouse · 22/05/2023 08:53

That’s heartbreaking. Nothing can ever make it better, but do try to do something special to mark it. Is there a beauty spot special to the two of you or something? Somewhere you can go to remember him? Did he have family you can text to talk about him?

Sending love.

Weatherwax13 · 22/05/2023 08:55

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can completely empathise with that need to have it acknowledged. I'll thinking of you as you remember your husband xx

MrsDrSpencerReid · 22/05/2023 08:56

I am so so sorry. This must be an incredibly difficult day.

Happy anniversary. Im sure your husband will be right there beside you on your walk ❤️

SmirnoffIceIsNice · 22/05/2023 08:58

I'm glad you got to marry your love, and commit to him. It's so very sad you got even less time together than you expected.

Of course you should celebrate the anniversary of your marriage, in whatever way feels right for you today. Celebrate your love for your DH, and the wonderful memories you have of him.

I hope you find peace on your walk, and some reasons to smile today when you remember him. 💐

BreakfastClub80 · 22/05/2023 08:59

Thinking of you, mark the day in the right way for you. 💐

Lolandwoody · 22/05/2023 09:00

I’m so sorry. Happy anniversary to you, sending you love ❤️

onthefence23 · 22/05/2023 09:02

Happy anniversary to you both ❤️🥰 so sorry to hear your DH was taken so soon, he sounds fab. Maybe you could share some happy anecdotes here so we can celebrate your anniversary and the positives from your relationship and marriage. 💐

MariaDingbat · 22/05/2023 09:05

💐

caringcarer · 22/05/2023 09:06

Everyday you got to spend time together was a gift. Sorry he has passed. Your love for your DH shines through your post OP.

Soproudoflionesses · 22/05/2023 09:06

Sending love to you op xx

Judgyjudgy · 22/05/2023 09:09

💞

Themermaidspool · 22/05/2023 09:14

I remember those last 2 months. I remember how strong and kind and loving you were. I remember your husband and the way you describe him. Everytime i see your user name i know the advice will be good, said with kindness and with best interest at heart. Thats a gift you have given not just to your wonderful husband but to the wider world. You are extraordinary. Take care today. Buy flowers. Sit in a coffee shop and watch the world. Cry a bit and know he is loved and you are too. Xx

Henbags · 22/05/2023 09:16

Happy anniversary to you both, and whilst he may not be here now, I hope you can cherish the wonderful memories you did have together. Sending love x

Cratos · 22/05/2023 09:16

I am very sorry. The time you had together was very precious 🌷

Bloomtime · 22/05/2023 09:18

Happy Anniversary to you and your DH. I'm so sorry 💔 life is very unfair. X

AnneLovesGilbert · 22/05/2023 09:19

I can’t imagine your pain but love that strong is a gift, you clearly cherished and adored each other and that’s something that’ll be part of you forever. Be gentle with yourself today 💐💐💐

Nongatron · 22/05/2023 09:24

I remember your previous posts. You are an extraordinary woman with such a big heart. I’m so so sorry about your dh. You obviously adored each other. Sending you love x

Bluevelvetsofa · 22/05/2023 09:25

I often think of you @bloodywhitecat and your love for your DH and his for you.

I hope your anniversary will eventually bring you more happy memories than sad ones, but now it’s a day to do just what you want, whatever that is.

shiningstar2 · 22/05/2023 09:26

Sorry for your loss op. 💐

YoucancallmeKAREN · 22/05/2023 09:27

Celebrate all those lovely days you had together as man and wife. Flowers