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Ex has a surprise for me tomorrow, what could it be?

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BigWheels · 12/05/2023 17:45

Ex had just left after spending a few hours with our son. On his way out he told us he has a surprise for us tomorrow morning and he will be coming to pick us up at 6.15am. He wasnt giving much away and I hate surprises so I'm desperate to know. Does anyone have any ideas?

Only information I have is that we have to leave at 6.15, its a long car journey and we can have breakfast once we get there.

I've known the guy for 10 years and he has never organised anything like this before. He's a hopeless gift giver so I'm more than a bit apprehensive. Not my birthday for another 2 months and our sons birthday was in February so nothing to celebrate.

I have previously expressed interest in a hot air balloon trip and because of the early start and long car journey I'm thinking maybe its that? But son is still too young for the trip and weather isn't looking great so I have my doubts about the hot air balloon theory. What could it be?

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Toomanylatenightprogs · 13/05/2023 12:57

I’m really glad it was something nice and you had a great flight.
I can understand the responses of many, remember many exes are just that because they’re nasty, violent, threatening, manipulative. It’s really good that you don’t have any of that to deal with.

Womencanlift · 13/05/2023 13:02

Some of the responses on this thread have been absolutely pathetic and interesting to note that the posters that were so negative last night haven’t returned after the update

I am glad you had a lovely time OP and it shows that a lot of co-parenting relationships can be positive, regardless what posters in MN try to tell people

ThinWomansBrain · 13/05/2023 13:05

that was nice of him - 6am though? I'd have needed to know what it was.
did you put the sparkly dress on?😂

SchoolTripDrama · 13/05/2023 13:09

Hot air balloon? Nope! I'd be fuming. Knowing what I do about Hot Air Balloons there's no way I get in one. I'd be going HOME!

AllOfThemWitches · 13/05/2023 13:11

Glad you had a nice time and it's lovely to hear that you get along so well, really amazing for your son.

ThatFraggle · 13/05/2023 13:14

ArcticSkewer · 13/05/2023 12:16

Some men just don't like to give up 'ownership' even though they've got a new family.

They are the ones who would have wife collections if they could. This is the nearest to it. She's still at his beck and call and under his 'protection'.

Whatever suits them

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This.

A gift card (on actual Mother's Day, not 2 months later) would have kept him out of being a part of the experience.

BadNomad · 13/05/2023 13:17

And the fact that he said "be ready for 6:15" and she said "ok!" and just went along with whatever he wanted her to do.

SweetSakura · 13/05/2023 13:19

ArcticSkewer · 13/05/2023 11:53

And made sure he was part of it!

Wouldn't most people just give the gift card?

Enmeshed dynamics but up to them. More like a main and second wife situation, where the second wife is set up in a different house and the man moves between them.

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Agreed. Where are the boundaries. It's not a healthy dynamic

Fimilo · 13/05/2023 13:23

Sounds like uz have a wonderful co parenting relationship. Hope you enjoyed your hot air balloon trip

drumandthebass · 13/05/2023 13:39

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 13/05/2023 10:40

I'm waiting for a new thread to appear saying my husband has left me home with our baby all day while he takes his ex out for a surprise day out.

This

Crumpleton · 13/05/2023 13:56

All 3 of us are happier when we make an effort to get along and life is a lot easier.

@BigWheels
Can I just say well done for having this attitude.

Really hope you enjoyed your balloon ride, what a wonderful start to your day.

LovePoppy · 13/05/2023 14:01

BigWheels · 13/05/2023 10:09

It was a trip in a hot air balloon for me as a very belated mothers days present. Son and ex went and had breakfast and a play in the park while I was up in the air.

Next time I will trust my instincts and not coming to mumsnet looking for ideas. Theres no need to try and make something negative out of a nice surprise.

I’m so happy for you! I hope it was everything you dreamed it would be!!

inamarina · 13/05/2023 14:07

What a lovely and thoughtful surprise!

Copasetic · 13/05/2023 14:09

That is amazing! It sounds like you are both doing a great job!

BurgerRelish · 13/05/2023 14:12

Lot of bitter twisted people on here. They are almost certainly jealous.

Well done OP.

Mirabai · 13/05/2023 14:31

BurgerRelish · 13/05/2023 14:12

Lot of bitter twisted people on here. They are almost certainly jealous.

Well done OP.

Why would anyone be jealous that an ex with new wife and baby told her to get out of bed at 6.15? I would just tell him to do one.

littlefireseverywhere · 13/05/2023 14:33

Wonderful, sounds amazing!

Mulhollandmagoo · 13/05/2023 14:38

BigWheels · 13/05/2023 10:09

It was a trip in a hot air balloon for me as a very belated mothers days present. Son and ex went and had breakfast and a play in the park while I was up in the air.

Next time I will trust my instincts and not coming to mumsnet looking for ideas. Theres no need to try and make something negative out of a nice surprise.

That is really sweet!!! I would love a hot air balloon ride! Hope you had a lovely time

ClairDeLaLune · 13/05/2023 14:44

Wow that’s lovely OP. What a credit to the 2 of you that you are on such good terms and making things so nice for your son. It’s great that you can trust him to do something nice and not be suspicious of him.

Pluvia · 13/05/2023 14:49

Gosh, it must have been freezing!

skyeisthelimit · 13/05/2023 14:57

Ignore all the negative comments, it must be great to have such a good relationship with your ex.

I'm glad it was a lovely treat for you

fryanddry · 13/05/2023 15:09

Honestly if it was my ex, I would be worried he was going to unalive me , so i wouldnt be going..

Do you guys have a good co parenting relationship? Does he want to get back with you?
I think he should tell you what's going on and just make it a surprise for your child

Pegsandsunshine · 13/05/2023 15:15

fryanddry · 13/05/2023 15:09

Honestly if it was my ex, I would be worried he was going to unalive me , so i wouldnt be going..

Do you guys have a good co parenting relationship? Does he want to get back with you?
I think he should tell you what's going on and just make it a surprise for your child

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PinkiOcelot · 13/05/2023 15:19

Awwww. That’s so nice.

fryanddry · 13/05/2023 15:19

Pegsandsunshine · 13/05/2023 15:15

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I already did, what I said still stands ..

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