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Ex has a surprise for me tomorrow, what could it be?

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BigWheels · 12/05/2023 17:45

Ex had just left after spending a few hours with our son. On his way out he told us he has a surprise for us tomorrow morning and he will be coming to pick us up at 6.15am. He wasnt giving much away and I hate surprises so I'm desperate to know. Does anyone have any ideas?

Only information I have is that we have to leave at 6.15, its a long car journey and we can have breakfast once we get there.

I've known the guy for 10 years and he has never organised anything like this before. He's a hopeless gift giver so I'm more than a bit apprehensive. Not my birthday for another 2 months and our sons birthday was in February so nothing to celebrate.

I have previously expressed interest in a hot air balloon trip and because of the early start and long car journey I'm thinking maybe its that? But son is still too young for the trip and weather isn't looking great so I have my doubts about the hot air balloon theory. What could it be?

OP posts:
T1Dmama · 14/05/2023 20:23

Oh how wonderful that you all get on so well. If only all ex’s were like this kids would be a lot less mixed up!
Mumsnet can indeed be a very negative place at times. Some women just love to hate their ex’s and can’t see how or why anyone would want to be civil.
Me and my hubby split last year and are currently civil, I hope it stays that way.

MyStarBoy · 14/05/2023 20:32

What an absolutely wonderful surprise and a memory that will last a life-time.
Brilliant also for your DS to see his dad leading by such a good example 😊💐

Sleepytiredyawn · 14/05/2023 20:43

I’ve skipped to the end on this to check out the ending and I actually think this is lovely that he’s done this for you. You clearly have a good relationship still for him to plan this and for his current partner to also be happy with it too. Not every ex couple has to hate each other.

TinaYouFatLard · 14/05/2023 20:58

Not RTFT but my parents divorced when I was very young. They always made a massive effort to get along and my dad and step-mum and step-siblings would always join us for Christmas evening/tea and we were always together on birthdays and special occasions. It was the best it could be and I’m really grateful to them all for putting us first in a real, tangible way.

How lovely for your son to be able to give you such a gift. He wouldn’t have been able to do this without his dad on board.

moortownplumber · 14/05/2023 21:02

Probably wants to borrow money

NotAnotherBathBomb · 14/05/2023 21:27

Mirabai · 14/05/2023 13:30

You get to eat your cream tea with a person of your choice. Vouchers don’t usually have set dates.

The difference here is cream teas are a dime a dozen. I don't imagine that there are many places where you can get hot air balloon rides. Considering that it was also several hours drive away, I can see why he organised it so that he could take her.

For all we know, OP doesn't drive, and it could be much harder to find a friend willing to drive several hours to accompany OP on something that I'd consider to be quite a niche interest (I could think of nothing worse)

JenWillsiam · 14/05/2023 21:27

BigWheels · 13/05/2023 10:09

It was a trip in a hot air balloon for me as a very belated mothers days present. Son and ex went and had breakfast and a play in the park while I was up in the air.

Next time I will trust my instincts and not coming to mumsnet looking for ideas. Theres no need to try and make something negative out of a nice surprise.

I love this. Good on you all for being brilliant.

cookie4640 · 14/05/2023 21:45

Fabulous! What was the landing like?? We used to balloon as kids, I miss it so much. I hope you enjoyed every second of it xx

Jillybloop393 · 15/05/2023 02:42

He's taking you on a special trip, and is going to propose to you!

Rosieposey91 · 15/05/2023 05:34

OP sounds rather weird.

if I was his new wife I would not be happy with this situation.

there is getting on and then there is surprising your ex !

fair enough take the child but the fact you are speaking as if still in a relationship, you are in the minority of how most people would react to this.

good for you though if it makes you happy, it’s your life

Rosieposey91 · 15/05/2023 05:36

Hot air balloon on your own?

Herbiebanannas · 15/05/2023 05:43

It is such a shame that there is so much negativity and disbelief on this thread.

well done OP for maintaining an good relationship with the father of your child.

Maybe if some posters focused on the father aspect rather than the ex aspect they would understand. It’s a real shame that so many women seem to tie the two things together and aren’t able to maintain a healthy relationship for the child’s sake.

The OP, the father, and the fathers new wife all have my greatest respect.

ArcticSkewer · 15/05/2023 05:50

Rosieposey91 · 15/05/2023 05:36

Hot air balloon on your own?

Apparently so, but don't worry, plenty of posters think the op probably can't drive and has no friends to go with anyway.

CRISPRSuperHuman · 15/05/2023 06:37

That's a sad situation. Wouldn't be going anywhere with an ex. Wouldn't be that trauma bonded to keep talking to him or accepting 'surprises' like we were still in a relationship. I don't even leave my kids see him, he's a bad influence in basic human being terms. He'll never be more than a sperm donor lol coz he can't handle anymore than that. Are you sure he's not got something more sinister planned.... You can know someone their whole life and still only know the bit they allow you to see...

tiredhadenough · 15/05/2023 06:44

Listen to the Jim Jeffries episode of parenting hell. He goes on holiday with his ex and new partner and all the children.

Some of you people would really be getting your knickers in your twist about that!!

ArcticSkewer · 15/05/2023 07:04

tiredhadenough · 15/05/2023 06:44

Listen to the Jim Jeffries episode of parenting hell. He goes on holiday with his ex and new partner and all the children.

Some of you people would really be getting your knickers in your twist about that!!

Gosh, did he just turn up and tell his ex to be ready at 6am for a big surprise then whisk her off to the airport to meet his new partner for the holiday? What a dick

Chels98 · 15/05/2023 07:29

I would think he was going to kill me….🫤🤷🏼‍♀️

Heyhoitsme · 15/05/2023 07:55

We're all waiting for the outcome.

ChrisPPancake · 15/05/2023 08:06

Heyhoitsme · 15/05/2023 07:55

We're all waiting for the outcome.

The outcome that the op posted on Saturday? Or to something else?

TheYearOfSmallThings · 15/05/2023 08:06

The OP already updated - it was a very nice balloon ride.

tiredhadenough · 15/05/2023 08:46

Heyhoitsme · 15/05/2023 07:55

We're all waiting for the outcome.

There's a filter button you can use to see just the OP's post! May be useful in future

AtChoService · 15/05/2023 09:15

tiredhadenough · 15/05/2023 08:46

There's a filter button you can use to see just the OP's post! May be useful in future

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Not on every platform.

Jonei · 15/05/2023 09:23

AtChoService · 15/05/2023 09:15

Not on every platform.

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There is on MN though...

Liorae · 15/05/2023 09:46

CRISPRSuperHuman · 15/05/2023 06:37

That's a sad situation. Wouldn't be going anywhere with an ex. Wouldn't be that trauma bonded to keep talking to him or accepting 'surprises' like we were still in a relationship. I don't even leave my kids see him, he's a bad influence in basic human being terms. He'll never be more than a sperm donor lol coz he can't handle anymore than that. Are you sure he's not got something more sinister planned.... You can know someone their whole life and still only know the bit they allow you to see...

Not everyone makes such poor life choices that they have to live in fear of their ex. Amicable adult ex partner friendships are possible and positive.

AtChoService · 15/05/2023 09:50

Jonei · 15/05/2023 09:23

There is on MN though...

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No, there isn't. By platform I meant MN desktop, MN app, the app on different browsers and OS.

I have an android phone and use the app and can't see the voting function, the 'see all' of the OP posts, a decent search function etc etc etc.

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