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Ex has a surprise for me tomorrow, what could it be?

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BigWheels · 12/05/2023 17:45

Ex had just left after spending a few hours with our son. On his way out he told us he has a surprise for us tomorrow morning and he will be coming to pick us up at 6.15am. He wasnt giving much away and I hate surprises so I'm desperate to know. Does anyone have any ideas?

Only information I have is that we have to leave at 6.15, its a long car journey and we can have breakfast once we get there.

I've known the guy for 10 years and he has never organised anything like this before. He's a hopeless gift giver so I'm more than a bit apprehensive. Not my birthday for another 2 months and our sons birthday was in February so nothing to celebrate.

I have previously expressed interest in a hot air balloon trip and because of the early start and long car journey I'm thinking maybe its that? But son is still too young for the trip and weather isn't looking great so I have my doubts about the hot air balloon theory. What could it be?

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ThatFraggle · 15/05/2023 09:52

Liorae · 15/05/2023 09:46

Not everyone makes such poor life choices that they have to live in fear of their ex. Amicable adult ex partner friendships are possible and positive.

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Stop victim blaming.

It's not only people who "made poor choices" who end up with a horrific ex.

Some people can be lovely and charming for years until the mask slips.

ThatFraggle · 15/05/2023 09:54

AtChoService · 15/05/2023 09:50

No, there isn't. By platform I meant MN desktop, MN app, the app on different browsers and OS.

I have an android phone and use the app and can't see the voting function, the 'see all' of the OP posts, a decent search function etc etc etc.

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I'm on android and it is the same for me. OP posts are a different colour, so if I don't feel like reading the whole thread I will just scroll and look for those.

Jonei · 15/05/2023 11:29

Fair enough. I'm on android too, although I just access it through Google and all of those functions are there.

Mouldyfoodhelp · 15/05/2023 11:31

ArcticSkewer · 15/05/2023 05:50

Apparently so, but don't worry, plenty of posters think the op probably can't drive and has no friends to go with anyway.

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Nice subtle dig there, but the possibilities are as likely as any that imagine the OPs ex HAS to be an arsehole with ulterior motives

rosesandbees · 15/05/2023 11:55

How fabulous! I hope you thoroughly enjoyed it. So glad to hear that you have an Ex that cares and you are both teaching your son care and respect.

Womencanlift · 15/05/2023 13:15

So much projection on this thread

And people that are happy to continue with acrimonious relationships just to point score rather than what is good for their children.

On Saturday the OPs son got some 121 time with his dad having breakfast after seeing his dad do something nice for his mum. That memory is a lot healthier than parents arguing and being dicks to each other

Mirabai · 15/05/2023 13:27

Womencanlift · 15/05/2023 13:15

So much projection on this thread

And people that are happy to continue with acrimonious relationships just to point score rather than what is good for their children.

On Saturday the OPs son got some 121 time with his dad having breakfast after seeing his dad do something nice for his mum. That memory is a lot healthier than parents arguing and being dicks to each other

It’s not 5.30 am start for a balloon ride or acrimony is it?

There’s a balanced middle way.

Liorae · 15/05/2023 13:41

Mirabai · 15/05/2023 13:27

It’s not 5.30 am start for a balloon ride or acrimony is it?

There’s a balanced middle way.

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Not on Mumsnet.

Womencanlift · 15/05/2023 14:23

Mirabai · 15/05/2023 13:27

It’s not 5.30 am start for a balloon ride or acrimony is it?

There’s a balanced middle way.

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Absolutely it’s a balance but some posters have been accusing him of all sorts while all he is trying to do is a nice thing for the woman who is mother to his son

If people read something else into that then that’s on them and it’s a shame that they have such a negative view of the world

adriftinadenofvipers · 15/05/2023 16:55

CRISPRSuperHuman · 15/05/2023 06:37

That's a sad situation. Wouldn't be going anywhere with an ex. Wouldn't be that trauma bonded to keep talking to him or accepting 'surprises' like we were still in a relationship. I don't even leave my kids see him, he's a bad influence in basic human being terms. He'll never be more than a sperm donor lol coz he can't handle anymore than that. Are you sure he's not got something more sinister planned.... You can know someone their whole life and still only know the bit they allow you to see...

That is seriously projecting!!!

blackbeardsballsack · 15/05/2023 17:15

I don't get why the ex and the son had to go on the long journey if they weren't even doing the activity? Surely it would make more sense for him to have DS for the day and give you the voucher. Or give you the voucher for you and DS to do it together.

Notamum12345577 · 15/05/2023 18:30

Womencanlift · 15/05/2023 13:15

So much projection on this thread

And people that are happy to continue with acrimonious relationships just to point score rather than what is good for their children.

On Saturday the OPs son got some 121 time with his dad having breakfast after seeing his dad do something nice for his mum. That memory is a lot healthier than parents arguing and being dicks to each other

👍👍

Notamum12345577 · 15/05/2023 18:33

Herbiebanannas · 15/05/2023 05:43

It is such a shame that there is so much negativity and disbelief on this thread.

well done OP for maintaining an good relationship with the father of your child.

Maybe if some posters focused on the father aspect rather than the ex aspect they would understand. It’s a real shame that so many women seem to tie the two things together and aren’t able to maintain a healthy relationship for the child’s sake.

The OP, the father, and the fathers new wife all have my greatest respect.

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Emmelina · 15/05/2023 18:57

Just read your update, what a lovely thing to do. Not all exes have to be at war! He’s also teaching your little one it’s nice to do nice things.

ThatFraggle · 15/05/2023 19:31

blackbeardsballsack · 15/05/2023 17:15

I don't get why the ex and the son had to go on the long journey if they weren't even doing the activity? Surely it would make more sense for him to have DS for the day and give you the voucher. Or give you the voucher for you and DS to do it together.

Exactly.

BurgerRelish · 16/05/2023 12:20

Demi Moore and Bruce Willis have a similar close relationship even though he remarried. Is that wrong too?

BurgerRelish · 16/05/2023 12:22

blackbeardsballsack · 15/05/2023 17:15

I don't get why the ex and the son had to go on the long journey if they weren't even doing the activity? Surely it would make more sense for him to have DS for the day and give you the voucher. Or give you the voucher for you and DS to do it together.

It's called being a kind mature person

Stewball01 · 27/05/2023 10:54

You may be surprised but not all divorces end in hatred. I share my flat with my ex. We often go to eat together. The kids weren't traumatised by it. We just fell out of love and our interests changed.
Stop this negativity. The poor girl obviously has a decent rationship with her ex. Good for you.

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