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Ex has a surprise for me tomorrow, what could it be?

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BigWheels · 12/05/2023 17:45

Ex had just left after spending a few hours with our son. On his way out he told us he has a surprise for us tomorrow morning and he will be coming to pick us up at 6.15am. He wasnt giving much away and I hate surprises so I'm desperate to know. Does anyone have any ideas?

Only information I have is that we have to leave at 6.15, its a long car journey and we can have breakfast once we get there.

I've known the guy for 10 years and he has never organised anything like this before. He's a hopeless gift giver so I'm more than a bit apprehensive. Not my birthday for another 2 months and our sons birthday was in February so nothing to celebrate.

I have previously expressed interest in a hot air balloon trip and because of the early start and long car journey I'm thinking maybe its that? But son is still too young for the trip and weather isn't looking great so I have my doubts about the hot air balloon theory. What could it be?

OP posts:
Silvers11 · 13/05/2023 11:34

Glad it was what you were hoping for and I hope you really enjoyed it. Sounds like you and your ex are doing a great job of co-parenting. My Sister and her
Ex-OH managed to do similarly well

Jonei · 13/05/2023 11:36

That's lovely op. And amazing that you both still work as part of a team. He sounds like a great ex.

NotAnotherBathBomb · 13/05/2023 11:36

BigWheels · 13/05/2023 10:09

It was a trip in a hot air balloon for me as a very belated mothers days present. Son and ex went and had breakfast and a play in the park while I was up in the air.

Next time I will trust my instincts and not coming to mumsnet looking for ideas. Theres no need to try and make something negative out of a nice surprise.

Sounds lovely, glad you and your ex have a nice relationship. Your son will be better for it

CherryCokeFanatic · 13/05/2023 11:48

His wife must be a saint because MN would suggest vast majority would not be happy with their husband taking ex for special days out and spending money on them etc

Hobbi · 13/05/2023 11:49

CherryCokeFanatic · 13/05/2023 11:48

His wife must be a saint because MN would suggest vast majority would not be happy with their husband taking ex for special days out and spending money on them etc

He didn't. He got her a special Mother's Day treat from their son.

Pipsquiggle · 13/05/2023 11:52

What a lovely update. TBH I was thinking it would be somewhere like Peppa pig world 😂.

Sounds like you are nailing co-parenting with your ex. Which is a huge credit to you both.

ArcticSkewer · 13/05/2023 11:53

Hobbi · 13/05/2023 11:49

He didn't. He got her a special Mother's Day treat from their son.

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And made sure he was part of it!

Wouldn't most people just give the gift card?

Enmeshed dynamics but up to them. More like a main and second wife situation, where the second wife is set up in a different house and the man moves between them.

Willmafrockfit · 13/05/2023 11:54

he drove her there
he had breakfast while they op was up in the air.

Willmafrockfit · 13/05/2023 11:54

@ArcticSkewer
you are looking for negatives

eatdrinkandbemerry · 13/05/2023 11:55

He wouldn't be dictating anything to me and I wouldn't be getting up that early for anything 🤣

Willmafrockfit · 13/05/2023 11:56

eatdrinkandbemerry · 13/05/2023 11:55

He wouldn't be dictating anything to me and I wouldn't be getting up that early for anything 🤣

then you would miss out!

CheshireCat1 · 13/05/2023 12:02

I think it’s great for you and even better for your son that you have a good relationship with your ex and his family. Good on you both. I’m sure that you’ll enjoy the surprise whatever it is.

CheshireCat1 · 13/05/2023 12:03

Oops, just read the update, glad you all enjoyed it.

Allthecheeseplease · 13/05/2023 12:05

Agree with the comments saying it's so negative here, espeically for anyone who has an amicable relationship with their ex. What a wonderful day for you! The amount of people who twist the narrative here is growing. A lot of projection.

gogohmm · 13/05/2023 12:06

How lovely. Great to hear positive ex stories. I have one too (though I did forget to send a birthday card!)

JudgeJ · 13/05/2023 12:07

BigWheels · 12/05/2023 17:45

Ex had just left after spending a few hours with our son. On his way out he told us he has a surprise for us tomorrow morning and he will be coming to pick us up at 6.15am. He wasnt giving much away and I hate surprises so I'm desperate to know. Does anyone have any ideas?

Only information I have is that we have to leave at 6.15, its a long car journey and we can have breakfast once we get there.

I've known the guy for 10 years and he has never organised anything like this before. He's a hopeless gift giver so I'm more than a bit apprehensive. Not my birthday for another 2 months and our sons birthday was in February so nothing to celebrate.

I have previously expressed interest in a hot air balloon trip and because of the early start and long car journey I'm thinking maybe its that? But son is still too young for the trip and weather isn't looking great so I have my doubts about the hot air balloon theory. What could it be?

06.15 then a long car drive is too late for a hot air balloon flight!

ThatFraggle · 13/05/2023 12:08

Willmafrockfit · 13/05/2023 11:56

then you would miss out!

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Yes, I'll be negative and say that its controlling to dictate the time and date of an experience someone you are not in a relationship with has.

He could have just given a gift card. And mother's day was two months ago.

If he wanted to see his child's happy face seeing you in the air, he could have given OP the gift card and asked "If you don't mind, I would like to take a photo of DC seeing you go up. Would you mind if I took you?"

Maybe OP would have had a more enjoyable time going with a friend. e.g. having a Saturday lie in because DC is visiting his dad, driving herself then meeting a friend for a meal afterwards.

Instead her ex put himself front and center.

JudgeJ · 13/05/2023 12:09

Whoops, didn't read to the update!

Twerpsichore · 13/05/2023 12:14

That sounds lovely, OP. Amazing that some people are still trying to twist it into something negative 😂

ArcticSkewer · 13/05/2023 12:16

Willmafrockfit · 13/05/2023 11:54

@ArcticSkewer
you are looking for negatives

Some men just don't like to give up 'ownership' even though they've got a new family.

They are the ones who would have wife collections if they could. This is the nearest to it. She's still at his beck and call and under his 'protection'.

Whatever suits them

JudgeJ · 13/05/2023 12:16

Twerpsichore · 13/05/2023 12:14

That sounds lovely, OP. Amazing that some people are still trying to twist it into something negative 😂

But that fits the MN mantra, the male is always wrong, I really pity the children being brought up by mothers who are so negative, 'Always look on the dull side of life' should be their anthem.

GrannieD · 13/05/2023 12:35

Aw that’s lovely.

Don’t get why some people have to hate their exes. I spend Xmas with mine and his fiancé and people think I’m weird for it !

LetDownYourHair · 13/05/2023 12:41

I mean sometimes the bad takes away from the good. Maybe people should try to refrain from posting negatively in the first place, seems a better place to start, no?!

LetDownYourHair · 13/05/2023 12:42

Or maybe he's trying to show his son how to be respectful towards women. Ffs.

Liorae · 13/05/2023 12:43

CherryCokeFanatic · 13/05/2023 11:48

His wife must be a saint because MN would suggest vast majority would not be happy with their husband taking ex for special days out and spending money on them etc

MN would suggest that most posters live in fear of any and all interactions between their partner/ husband and any other female on the face of the earth. In real life we accept that there are many types of relationships, and we accept that.