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Ex has a surprise for me tomorrow, what could it be?

343 replies

BigWheels · 12/05/2023 17:45

Ex had just left after spending a few hours with our son. On his way out he told us he has a surprise for us tomorrow morning and he will be coming to pick us up at 6.15am. He wasnt giving much away and I hate surprises so I'm desperate to know. Does anyone have any ideas?

Only information I have is that we have to leave at 6.15, its a long car journey and we can have breakfast once we get there.

I've known the guy for 10 years and he has never organised anything like this before. He's a hopeless gift giver so I'm more than a bit apprehensive. Not my birthday for another 2 months and our sons birthday was in February so nothing to celebrate.

I have previously expressed interest in a hot air balloon trip and because of the early start and long car journey I'm thinking maybe its that? But son is still too young for the trip and weather isn't looking great so I have my doubts about the hot air balloon theory. What could it be?

OP posts:
TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/05/2023 18:11

He is going to drive you to Liverpool for a day out, culminating in front row seats at the Eurovision, sitting between Dana and Dana International.

Lengokengo · 12/05/2023 18:11

He’s going to clean your gutters and regroup your bathroom

Reallyareyousure · 12/05/2023 18:13

Wow. How nice that you have a good relationship for your child's sake. Many more could learn from that. Ignore the people who say it's odd. It's just putting your child first.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/05/2023 18:14

He’s going to clean your gutters and regrout your bathroom

That is exactly the kind of surprise I would love.

MuffinToSeeHere · 12/05/2023 18:15

Houseupdate · 12/05/2023 17:46

Why are you letting your ex dictate what you are doing tomorrow?

Agreed. It's very fucking weird that you're being so passive and just going along with it surely the normal response to an ex saying this is no.

Zeonlywayisup · 12/05/2023 18:16

I think he’s got a puppy for sure

lilmishap · 12/05/2023 18:18

I think he's gonna drop the bomb that he doesn't want to be your ex anymore and will you marry him.
Or murder.

TheChosenTwo · 12/05/2023 18:19

I’d be going bloody nowhere. He’s an ex, he doesn’t get to dictate what you do and when ffs. If he wants to take his son out somewhere then he can.

Leeds2 · 12/05/2023 18:20

How old is DS? I am guessing it is something age appropriate for him.

CombatBarbie · 12/05/2023 18:21

What cities, theme parks are you within time wise?

MuffinToSeeHere · 12/05/2023 18:23

Reallyareyousure · 12/05/2023 18:13

Wow. How nice that you have a good relationship for your child's sake. Many more could learn from that. Ignore the people who say it's odd. It's just putting your child first.

Of course it's odd. If it was about their child then why couldn't he tell the op about it? What if she'd had plans for tomorrow? It's very very odd to just randomly expect your ex to be up and ready to be picked up for 6.15am on a weekend with no other information.

He doesn't sound like a good coparent putting his child first at all. He sounds like a controlling ex who think if he says jump the ops response should be how high.

CountMushroom · 12/05/2023 18:26

I wouldn’t be going anywhere unless I knew what the trip was. It seems a bit mad. If it’s a child’s treat, why bring you? And what if you had plans of your own? Is it a day he usually has your son?

Hairpinleg · 12/05/2023 18:27

I don't do surprises. Nor do I get up at 6 am on a Saturday. So he'd be telling me what it's about, or I wouldn't be going.

CadburyDream · 12/05/2023 18:28

Reallyareyousure · 12/05/2023 18:13

Wow. How nice that you have a good relationship for your child's sake. Many more could learn from that. Ignore the people who say it's odd. It's just putting your child first.

It's not odd to have a good relationship no one is saying that. What is odd is that he has a surprise for the child and op leaving at 6am surprised for child yes ok but op too is odd, if it was a pet/theme park then why wouldn't he discuss it with the op? A surprise for both is odd.

ArcticSkewer · 12/05/2023 18:30

I'd be betting murder but perhaps I watch too many true crime documentaries

LightlySearedontheRealityGrill · 12/05/2023 18:30

Context is required. Is he a nutjob, in which case I wouldnt be getting in a car with him at 6am and driving anywhere.

tailinthejam · 12/05/2023 18:32

Take plenty of money with you. If it's where I think you might be going, you're going to need it.
cough.. Harry Potter Studio Tour... cough

PrestonHood121 · 12/05/2023 18:32

is there a new half sibling for you to meet?

IKnowItsNotMine · 12/05/2023 18:33

Why is he an ex OP ?
Is it his high prey drive ?

Beezknees · 12/05/2023 18:33

Some people have good relationships with their exes. If it was my ex he would probably be planning to kidnap me 😂 some men are actually nice and reasonable though.

Hobbi · 12/05/2023 18:36

Place holding.

iknowimcoming · 12/05/2023 18:44

What are you supposed to wear though? Hiking boots or a nice dress? I don't get how he can not tell you anything Confused

doodlejump1980 · 12/05/2023 18:47

Is he going to turf your garden?

SiobahnRoy · 12/05/2023 18:48

He’s going to introduce you to his new wife

PhoenixArisen · 12/05/2023 18:50

Is he trying to get back at you or with you?