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Ex has a surprise for me tomorrow, what could it be?

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BigWheels · 12/05/2023 17:45

Ex had just left after spending a few hours with our son. On his way out he told us he has a surprise for us tomorrow morning and he will be coming to pick us up at 6.15am. He wasnt giving much away and I hate surprises so I'm desperate to know. Does anyone have any ideas?

Only information I have is that we have to leave at 6.15, its a long car journey and we can have breakfast once we get there.

I've known the guy for 10 years and he has never organised anything like this before. He's a hopeless gift giver so I'm more than a bit apprehensive. Not my birthday for another 2 months and our sons birthday was in February so nothing to celebrate.

I have previously expressed interest in a hot air balloon trip and because of the early start and long car journey I'm thinking maybe its that? But son is still too young for the trip and weather isn't looking great so I have my doubts about the hot air balloon theory. What could it be?

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BonnieGlasses · 12/05/2023 18:51

6.15 in the morning? On a Saturday?!
I'd say LTB but you already have.

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BigWheels · 12/05/2023 19:34

I've already met the wife and the baby so there will be no early morning drama in that respect or an elopment.

Its really sad to see the amount of responses from people who are struggling to understand why he would want to do something nice for me. All 3 of us are happier when we make an effort to get along and life is a lot easier. The guy is obviouly trying to do a nice thing for us and even if it goes tits up, he has good intentions. I'm not going to refuse to go along with it and throw it back in his face when I have no reason to think he will do us any harm.

I never thought about Eurovision. I really hope its that but I think its unlikely. I'll make sure to pack a sparkly outfit and face paint just in case.

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BigWheels · 12/05/2023 19:36

BonnieGlasses · 12/05/2023 18:51

6.15 in the morning? On a Saturday?!
I'd say LTB but you already have.

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MuffinToSeeHere · 12/05/2023 19:44

Its really sad to see the amount of responses from people who are struggling to understand why he would want to do something nice for me.

He can do something nice for you though whilst actually cluing you into the plan and giving you more than a few hours notice. He might genuinely be a nice guy, only you know that but he doesn't sound like he is that considerate of your feelings or opinions.

BillyNoM8s · 12/05/2023 19:49

BigWheels · 12/05/2023 19:34

I've already met the wife and the baby so there will be no early morning drama in that respect or an elopment.

Its really sad to see the amount of responses from people who are struggling to understand why he would want to do something nice for me. All 3 of us are happier when we make an effort to get along and life is a lot easier. The guy is obviouly trying to do a nice thing for us and even if it goes tits up, he has good intentions. I'm not going to refuse to go along with it and throw it back in his face when I have no reason to think he will do us any harm.

I never thought about Eurovision. I really hope its that but I think its unlikely. I'll make sure to pack a sparkly outfit and face paint just in case.

It's rather unusual for exes to be surprising each other with early morning days out. Especially when they've got a wife and baby. You can't be surprised that people are surprised.

Gcsunnyside23 · 12/05/2023 20:02

Its weird everyone thinks it odd. It's actually possible for exs to get on great and canmanage to still be mates. Hope you enjoy your surprise

BaggyJumpersandLeggings · 12/05/2023 20:04

Bless him. I have no idea op,
Please do let us know what it was though 😊
Hope you have a nice time xxx

CombatBarbie · 12/05/2023 20:05

MuffinToSeeHere · 12/05/2023 18:15

Agreed. It's very fucking weird that you're being so passive and just going along with it surely the normal response to an ex saying this is no.

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And what's wrong with having an amicable relationship??

User565394 · 12/05/2023 20:06

If he's taking you out somewhere then at least he's not arriving with a puppy

MuffinToSeeHere · 12/05/2023 20:09

CombatBarbie · 12/05/2023 20:05

And what's wrong with having an amicable relationship??

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There's absolutely nothing wrong with having an amicable relationship especially when you have a child together but that relies upon both parties involved being adults and communicating with each other. An amicable relationship doesn't involve your ex telling you what to do, not asking your opinion or considering if you have plans.

Comfortingpigeon · 12/05/2023 20:09

Wow. Theres 'getting on' and then theres surprise days out as a family 🤨

I can NOT imagine going anywhere with my ex, even though we try to be amicable for DD.

GoodnightJude1 · 12/05/2023 20:14

I get on really well with my Exh….better than I ever did when we were married! If he asked me to be ready with DC for a day out at 6am on a Saturday I’d laugh in his face though!

But….I do hope that whatever you’re doing/wherever you’re going will be a lovely surprise!

Is his wife joining you?

Sparkletastic · 12/05/2023 20:22

It's a pet of some sort.

Or a medieval battle re-enactment.

One of the two.

ImaniThePrefect · 12/05/2023 20:25

What does his wife think to this?

LadyGardenersQuestionTime · 12/05/2023 20:41

XDH told me he had a surprise gift for me: i hoped it might be a particular item we had bought together that I loved but he kept despite not liking it at all.

When he arrived he had some rhubarb from the garden of the house he and his wife were about to move in to. It was August, the rhubarb was flabby anyway and had endured several hours in the car with him.

So it might be a visit to a rhubarb farm, as that seems to be an xdh thing.

NailsHairNipsHeels · 12/05/2023 20:45

Op you must know that according to MN all separated parents should hate each other, only contact each other my email and only about child care issues which must be appointed through the court and just never be deviated from etc etc
There's a severe lack of understanding that ex partners can be friends and actually have a good relationship

I hope it's something that's worth getting up so early for. It would have to be pretty amazing to warrant me getting out of bed that early!

MarnieCres · 12/05/2023 20:57

Gcsunnyside23 · 12/05/2023 20:02

Its weird everyone thinks it odd. It's actually possible for exs to get on great and canmanage to still be mates. Hope you enjoy your surprise

I agree.
We are all different.

I have a colleague who did a work exchange to Australia for a year, taking her DC’s from a failed marriage with her. Her ExDH, his wife and new family went too, also for a year.

I must also say, that would have been my worst nightmare😱😂

Namechange192727171 · 12/05/2023 20:59

Threesome?

CombatBarbie · 12/05/2023 21:02

MuffinToSeeHere · 12/05/2023 20:09

There's absolutely nothing wrong with having an amicable relationship especially when you have a child together but that relies upon both parties involved being adults and communicating with each other. An amicable relationship doesn't involve your ex telling you what to do, not asking your opinion or considering if you have plans.

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Of give over..... We don't know the details.... He'd maybe asked innocently what they had planned this weekend. He's not "telling her" well he is but not in a controlling way the way I'm reading it.

CountMushroom · 12/05/2023 21:03

Gcsunnyside23 · 12/05/2023 20:02

Its weird everyone thinks it odd. It's actually possible for exs to get on great and canmanage to still be mates. Hope you enjoy your surprise

No one’s surprised exes get on well, just noting that it’s quite weird the OP is obediently getting up at the crack of dawn for a mystery tour without exhibiting the remotest curiosity about it. Most former couples I know are on excellent terms. I don’t know anyone who would meekly be ready to leave extremely early on a weekday morning with no inkling of where they were going, regardless of who’s instigating the plan, even if only to know how to dress.

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 12/05/2023 21:12

LadyGardenersQuestionTime · 12/05/2023 20:41

XDH told me he had a surprise gift for me: i hoped it might be a particular item we had bought together that I loved but he kept despite not liking it at all.

When he arrived he had some rhubarb from the garden of the house he and his wife were about to move in to. It was August, the rhubarb was flabby anyway and had endured several hours in the car with him.

So it might be a visit to a rhubarb farm, as that seems to be an xdh thing.

I'd be happy with that. I love rhubarb.

pontipinemum · 12/05/2023 21:13

The beach!

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 12/05/2023 21:14

Is his wife and baby going to. I wouldn't be happy if I was her

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 12/05/2023 21:31

Sheepsheepeverywhere · 12/05/2023 17:50

He has bought your dc a dpuppy.
.

Yep.

determinedtomakethiswork · 12/05/2023 21:35

I really hope he's not planning to get your dc a pet.

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