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Drinking when 2 year old is in bed

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IcedCoffee1 · 05/05/2023 22:00

DP is on holiday with friends so it’s just me and DS. I have had 3 glasses of wine tonight and I feel “happy” but not drunk if you know what I mean. DH rang earlier and was shocked that I have drunk 3 glasses of wine. I would certainly be capable to react if anything were to go wrong, emergency etc. He’s made me feel like a really bad mum. Just thought I’d get some opinions. If I am in the wrong I won’t do it again.

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Nimbostratus100 · 05/05/2023 22:02

YABU

AdamRyan · 05/05/2023 22:02

I say crack on. He is being a nob. He's off with his mates. I bet if the roles were reversed he'd have a few beers or whatever

LividHouse · 05/05/2023 22:02

I wouldn’t be capable of much after three glasses.

Solo I never have more than one. I’d want to drive or be able to concentrate in an emergency.

Disclaimer: I know lots of people think that’s silly.

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Passmethewine23 · 05/05/2023 22:03

YABU for questioning yourself!

as long as you’re not drunk you’re absolutely fine (and within your right) to have a few glasses of wine!

enjoy and ignore him!

Wishitsnows · 05/05/2023 22:04

It’s fine, relax and have a nice evening

Emmamoo89 · 05/05/2023 22:06

It's fine! X

Thewitcherswolf · 05/05/2023 22:06

Do you have options in case of an emergency? Like could you call a taxi if needed to go a&e at 3am?
I think 3 glasses is pushing the limit a little because it will be starting to affect your reactions and things. But only just. If it’s only once in a while and you’re stopping at the happy tipsy stage then I don’t think it’s a massive problem provided you could call a taxi if need be in your area. If you live rurally then uou need to keep your options open better.

Skybluepinky · 05/05/2023 22:09

I agree totally irresponsible.

Clymene · 05/05/2023 22:10

It's fine. Tell your husband to stop patrolling you.

DollyTrolly · 05/05/2023 22:10

It's fine.

Singleandproud · 05/05/2023 22:10

As a single parent I don't drink when in sole care of DD, the few times I have has coincided with her having a stomach bug which really wasn't pleasant to deal with even though I wasn't properly drunk. I also don't like the idea of not being able to drive to hospital if I needed to.

It's too late now anyway, what's done is done but I would stick to one in future.

Bagofsocks · 05/05/2023 22:12

It's absolutely fine,stop worrying!

JandalsAlways · 05/05/2023 22:14

Depends on what you can handle, you said you felt fine so I don't see the big deal

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IcedCoffee1 · 05/05/2023 22:15

Thanks everyone. Feel a bit more reassured. I don’t drive myself but I’m able to phone a taxi if needed. Hospital is only a 5 minute drive if that away.

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AllOrNothingSituation · 05/05/2023 22:15

It's fine I'm a.single parent so that would mean never drinking, oh and I dont drive

WimpoleHat · 05/05/2023 22:15

It’s a bit rich to criticise if he’s off with his mates! I think it’s fine - as long as you’re confident that you could cope in an emergency. So a couple of drinks is fine, but getting drunk isn’t. Presumably you and your DH usually drink together when he is at home? Same applies in that scenario too!

Anaemiafog · 05/05/2023 22:16

Your choice but I never have. DS has severe allergies and goes into anaphylaxis. Those precious minutes saved driving him to A&E rather than wait for an ambulance have saved his life more than once.

Bemyclementine · 05/05/2023 22:17

Single parent here, dc are with me every night unless I arrange fir them to stay at my parents, so I can go out (twice in te oast 12 months...)

Yes, I do drink wine when they're in bed. I don't get drunk.

Reugny · 05/05/2023 22:19

It's fine especially if you have some neighbours around you.

People tend to be more helpful with ill children than adults.

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IcedCoffee1 · 05/05/2023 22:20

@Reugny Yes I have neighbours around me and my parents live 5 minutes away too

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ThreeRingCircus · 05/05/2023 22:26

Personally, I think 3 glasses is too much. I don't have more than 2 glasses when on my own with DDs. I just wouldn't trust my reactions to be quick enough if there was an emergency and wouldn't feel comfortable carrying them up and down the stairs for example if that was needed for any reason.

MeinKraft · 05/05/2023 22:27

You and half the country OP.

Thequeenofwishfulthinking · 05/05/2023 22:27

Double standards here I think. Suggest that you go away with friends soon and he can choose to stay sober! I wouldn’t second guess or justify yourself. You are fine. You would have stopped drinking if you felt drunk and let’s face it everyone’s tolerance levels are different.
I would be virtually sober after 3 glasses of wine. As a single mum to three I occasionally have a couple of friends round for wine and snacks. I didn’t realise this could be perceived as irresponsible.
Don’t listen to anyone you don’t know calling you irresponsible. It’s pathetic.

Noicant · 05/05/2023 22:37

I’d struggle to wake up at night if Dd needed me after 3 glasses tbh. Would find the morning difficult too so I wouldn’t for that reason.

WookieMama · 05/05/2023 22:45

YANBU at all!