How many times would you consider getting married?

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Is there a line you’d draw? Like if your second marriage failed would you just think fuck it or would you actually consider having a third marriage?

My grandma was married once, when they broke up she said she’d never get married again and she didn’t. She still had another parent and had more children.

Never. I’ve been living with my DP for 15 years. He’s a nice enough bloke but I can’t ever see me tying myself down to one person for the rest of my life.

Im living the life I want. I do what I want, when I want. That’s good enough for me.

@ToParadise she clearly meant they were being dramatic by marrying so often 🙄

Yes, her parents! Doesn’t mean they think everyone with 3 marriages is dramatic. They haven’t said that, not yet anyway. 😂 chill out.

I'm on my first marriage and hoping to keep it that way but this is DH's second marriage.
He's always said that god forbid this didn't work out, he'd never marry again.

Once had been enough for me. When I got divorced 23 years ago,I swore that I would never marry again. After being in a LTR for 4.5 years with what turned out to be a complete loser,it has only strengthenrd my resolve.

Once

When I'm divorced, I'm done. Never again

Once. I believe marriage is best for children but mine are older now so if DH died I'd not bother again. Might have a boyfriend but would probably just get another dog or two.

First marriage ended after less than a year as physical and mental abuse.Said never do it again. Then met my now husband and actually know what love is and how it is to be treat well. We have 4 wonderful kids and I can never see myself marrying again should anything happen him god forbid.

I'm in a long marriage (20 years so far). I hope we never split up, but if we do I'd be open to getting married again. I like being married. Maybe twice would be my limit if that one ended as well - it's hard to know.

Once, never again. Got a dog instead, get much more sense out of him

Just the once will do me fine.

19 years and going well.

Husband #1 I was with for 3 years before we married - 6 months later it was over
Husband #2 I was with for 9 years before we married - 14 months later it was over.

Been with DP for 20 years....we're never getting married.

I’ve been married over 20 years together nearly 30, since we were in school.
Who knows what the future will bring?

My aunt by marriage has been married 3 times. Firstly to my uncle when they were in their early 20s, he died suddenly in his late 40s. A few years later when her youngest left home she married a really nice man a bit older than her. She had passed on most of her assets to her children before the marriage. Her new husband died of cancer within 10 years.

She is now in her mid 70s and has third husband who is also totally lovely but he developed cancer.

Three marriages probably isn’t anyone’s goal but three happy marriages to three really good men is still quite an accomplishment.

There's a bit of conflating of marriages and relationships on here.

I'd never (again) stay in an unhappy relationship, and when single I'd never rule out a future relationship with the right person. So there's no maximum number of long term relationships for me (currently on number 4 in my 50s).

I'm pretty ambivalent about marriage - maybe, if it will benefit me in some way.

On my 2nd and never would again. If you see me on here asking about eloping or what every give me a kick up the arse and remind me of this. I am adamant i don’t even want another partner, I’d like to potter about on my own putting my DC first and enjoy a relaxed and peaceful life

I've never been remotely interested in marraige. I'm 47 now so I doubt that'll change so if I did I obviously wouldn't have rushed into it. This is gonna sound proper cheesy but it's true nonetheless as the song says "When I fall in love it will be forever or ill never fall in love"

I’ve been married once and in a long term relationship for 17 years.

Zero. Never been married, never want to.

At this stage it would add nothing to my life. I have a 15 year old, I don't want any more children and I certainly don't want anyone else to have a claim on my housing association property.

I have been happily married for 25 years. If my husband died I wouldn't marry again. Probably not living with someone either. I have a severely autistic son and bringing someone else into my home would feel like I am putting them above my son, even if at that time my son is only returning home for visits.

Not a 3rd. 1st husband was a cheater, divorced after 14 years. 2nd was a violent, abusive bastard. Divorced after 3years. Won’t bother again.

Been married 20+ years but husband is seriously ill so not expected to live more than a couple of years. It's not been a happy marriage so maybe that clouds my opinion, but I don't envisage looking for another partner or husband. I don't want to tie myself to anyone and I find I'm less tolerant of other people's habits the older I get.

When I divorced my first husband after 16 years together I said I'd never get married again. I've now been with DH for longer than that. I hope we'll be together forever, but if anything happens to him I won't rule out another marriage. I've told DH that I expect him to marry again if I die while he's still young enough.

My main worry, at my age, would be being a magnet for men wanting someone to look after them.

I said “ Till death us do part” and I meant it. I might marry again if I was widowed. Absolutely would not consider it if DH and I separated for any other reason.

Once

Interesting thread. My bf would like to marry me but it would be his third which doesn't sit well with me. Widowed first then an accidental pregnancy with a nasty cow who he stayed with for 15 yrs. I can't get over the thought of his family turning up to Yet Another of his weddings but would also love to commit to him publicly in front of our tribes. It would be second time for me after H of 20+ years fucked off with another and was a total selfish twunt I now realise.