How many times would you consider getting married?

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Is there a line you’d draw? Like if your second marriage failed would you just think fuck it or would you actually consider having a third marriage?

My grandma was married once, when they broke up she said she’d never get married again and she didn’t. She still had another parent and had more children.

Infinite times...

Been married twice (divorced and widowed). I've learned never to say never, to anything. I have a friend who's on her third marriage, she's a bit embarrassed about it but so what? It's true that the third ceremony was just the two of them, the registrar and their kids, and I think that's the way to go.

Once, I would happily have another relationship but wouldn't marry again

My current husband is my second. My first husband and I thankfully ended things before having children. If something happens, I might date seriously, but I won’t marry again. I wouldn’t do anything that would jeopardize the inheritance for our mutual child.

I was married once and widowed before our 4th anniversary (not a wealthy widow, I should add). In the intervening nearly 20 years I have done my own thing.
I would only marry again if he were SERIOUSLY rich - preferably no children and possibly with a heart condition :-)

It’s our second marriage for both dh and I. We are very happy.
If anything happened to dh then I don’t think I’d marry or even live with another man.
I absolutely would not have had children to more than one man under any circumstances. I’m very grateful my ex h never had any more children either. I think that’s more of an issue than being married twice.

I wouldnt get married again

In my teens we had a neighbour who married another neighbour when her husband died. (Neighbour in this story meaning maybe 100 houses of people).

His family wouldn’t come to the wedding as it was her fourth husband (one gone at war, the other three nursed by her throughout their illnesses) and they disapproved.

He was on his third marriage.

They seemed very happy together for the time they had.

Once. For me, wedding vows are more than a legal thing, it's a moral thing. If we got divorced, how could I make those promises to another man, knowing I'd broken the same promises to a previous man? And if DH died, my vows (for me) meant till I die, so I would still consider myself married. I know that's not how everyone sees it and that's okay, but for me, marriage should be a one and done, kind of deal.

Only once. That’s enough!

Maybe would consider a second, although it seems a bit pointless if you've already been married before. Definitely not a third

I'm getting married again, same guy as first time 😂

I’ve only been married once, but when Dh and I got married (after the actual wedding but, I said, bloody hell, you can never divorce me because I’m not going through that again). Been married for 15 years and mid 40s now.

I can’t foresee Dh and I not staying married for quite a long while, but if we didn’t, I couldn’t imagine wanting to remarry until I’d been with someone probably at least 7-10 years, which wouldn’t leave much time for a 3rd attempt really. 😂

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Same here; same reason!

Just the once, for me. Married for 30 years. If anything happened to dh, I wouldn’t be looking for another relationship, let alone marriage. If you’re still looking for the relationship you want, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in giving marriage another shot, or several!

Same. I had a lovely marriage. Over six years into being widowed now. Very busy with the children, used to doing all the grown up stuff myself and don’t like the idea of someone coming along to ‘help’. Once the children have left home (which is still a good while off but I’ll only be very early 50s by then) I can’t imagine wanting to compromise ever again!!

Well.I have been married for 18 years now if we got divorced or God forbid I was widowed I would probably not want to get married again that said my grandma was widowed in her 30,s and married again 22 years later to my lovely ( step) Grandad and they had a very happy 25 years together so who know 🤷

Once. I've been with dh all my adult life. Couldn't be bothered with dating again, he's already cheated on me when we were young, it destroyed a part of me completely so, would never ever bother with men again. Give me pets and I'll be happy.

This. I'll never live with another partner

I’m married for the 2nd time (and it’s now 25+years) after a very brief 1st.

if for whatever reason I found myself no longer married, I’d remain that way. I don’t think I’d even live with another man!

2 I think. I was widowed seven years into my (only) marriage and if I had met someone else I might have considered getting married again. If that failed I wouldn't do it again - a relationship yes, but wouldn't bother with marriage.

Currently been married for the 4th time 8 years this summer!
First was when I believed abusive dp had changed. Regretted it within a fortnight and divorced exactly a year later.
Second one he pressured me into it. I told him I didn't love him enough but we had dc (he lied about using condoms and I got pregnant). Lasted 3 years. Third dp he was a total man child and I convinced myself I didn't mind... Lasted 2 years.
Met current dh 10 years ago. Have high standards now poor man!
Not passing the blame but grew up with a skewed idea on relationships as dm had more men than Elizabeth Taylor..
Def staying married to this one. Unless he has other ideas!

me personally? Once. I’ve been happily married for 20+ years (not without bumps in the road, same as every other long term relationship). In the event of divorce or widowhood I’d probably have other relationships but I wouldn’t remarry. I doubt I’d even live with someone again actually, even though my experience of marriage and cohabitation has been positive.

Once,I am a widow,had a relationship after my husband died,big mistake.Realised my husband was the only man I could ever love.Happily single,love the freedom it gives me.

I'm on marriage 2. It's easy to say only once while your first marriage is going well.