How many times would you consider getting married?

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Is there a line you’d draw? Like if your second marriage failed would you just think fuck it or would you actually consider having a third marriage?

My grandma was married once, when they broke up she said she’d never get married again and she didn’t. She still had another parent and had more children.

So many miserable, pinched people on here. I feel sorry for you all!

A lot of these replies are based on where you are in life.
Like a lot of the replies, I can't imagine marrying again (I've been married to DH for 20+ years, 1st marriage for both of us) but if things hadn't worked out for whatever reason, and we'd split up 10-15 years ago, maybe I'd have felt differently. I think this definitely would have been the case if we'd split up before having children.

Once. DH was the love of my life, and he died young, 31 years ago. I still grieve him, and know that no-one could ever replace him.

I feel exactly the same - married 20 years.

Do you never worry about being financially vulnerable if you separated? Not that I know your situation etc

Zero

What makes you say that? I’ve not the read the full thread and I started it 😅

If you’re lucky enough to escape marriage once be grateful and stay away from temptation!!

My mother has been married 3 times and my dad 4 times. Me? Once is enough. I'm not dramatic like my parents.

Once. I am divorced. Never again do I want to go through the divorce process where someone else controls what happens re children and financial matters.

I am with a lovely man now. But I will never marry him. I don't see it as needed. We won't live together for a long time and by the time we do,we will both have assets we want to go to our separate children, not each other.

I guess if I needed financial protection by having more children I would be more open to a second marriage. But there will be no more children.
It makes more sense to protect our own assets for our own children.

I hope to only be married once. I can't see myself ever getting divorced. If I was widowed, I couldn't see myself loving another man as much as I love my husband, but it's a long life to live alone. If I ever did get with someone else I don't think I'd marry them. But no one knows what the future holds.

Zero times. Perfectly happy to be committed without a marriage, we don't need it.

Been married once. Never again.

Once.

Just getting divorced from my first husband. He was abusive and I cannot imagine ever trusting another man.

Once I get back on my feet emotionally, financially, mentally, I will never ever risk any of those elements in my life again.

Once for me but been with my oh for quite a few years . If we married I'd be his 3rd .😮

Where are all the miserable, pinched people you speak of? Most replies from those saying they would not marry again are from people who have been happily married once and are content to leave it that way, or from those who are very happy to be out of unsatisfactory relationships and wouldn’t want to jeopardise their current tranquility! Your sorrow is entirely misplaced.

In midst of divorce from abusive 1st, separated 4 years ago. Open to a new relationship but can't see any particular reason to bother with marriage next time around. Just can't see it ever happening.

So sorry @thefirstmrsrochester 😢

My friend is on her 4th marriage, seems happy enough. She was widowed once and the other two were a disaster.

I'm divorced and I'd never get married again. I own my house, have no mortgage and no man is getting half of what I have!

Just once. I'm happy in my marriage but if we ended things I don't think I could be bothered to start dating again. Maybe I'd have a FWB or something if I got an itch, but I don't think I'd want another relationship.

How many people get married thinking they are going to get divorced? Very few! No one sets out to have several marriages.

Also people on here who think because they have been married 20 years or so that is a long time and it will never happen ...I know someone married 43 years whose H dicked off and another one 30 years.

Also I'm not a believer in soul mates though and believe you can be happy with several people.

What the actual? Why is it dramatic? Why can't you just let people do what they want without judging?

The parents might be dramatic. Why are you bothered how a poster talks about their own parents? Do you know them? Are you the posters mum or dad? 🤣

Once. Never again.

I don't know anyone who's been married more than twice.