How many times would you consider getting married?

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Is there a line you’d draw? Like if your second marriage failed would you just think fuck it or would you actually consider having a third marriage?

My grandma was married once, when they broke up she said she’d never get married again and she didn’t. She still had another parent and had more children.

I’ve always liked the idea of three marriages 😂

Twice. At that point, I’d learn my lesson.

My friend that I went to school with from the age of maybe 15 couldn’t cope being single. Had one serious boyfriend of 2 years break up with her because he cheated - she then was with someone else within 2 weeks and he came on her family holiday.

She got married after a 10 year relationship, it ended in September and she had a new boyfriend by December.

I don’t know how she does it. Genuinely.

After my first I said never again. Then I met now DH and changed my mind. If anything went wrong here though (god forbid) that would be me done.

Just the once.

Been there, done that; it fell apart about a decade ago.

I won't marry again - might cohabit. I think I'd like a new partner, but nothing's worked out so far, and nothing on the horizon either

Once. My husband of 24 years fucked off 7 months ago to make himself happy. On the back of our teenage son having cancer. If a good man can do that, I’d not consider another relationship never mind marriage.

Currently 2nd and final marriage….. very happy both times…my lovely first husband died of cancer bless him , I never ever thought I’d marry again but then fell head over heels in love with the man I’ve been with and married to for 16 years now…..god forbid anything will happen to him but if it did I would most definitely never marry again……I’m in my 50’s now and would live alone for a number of reasons ( would take the occasional lover though but that’s about it).

One so far, would probably give another one a go. SIL is thrice divorced, even she thought the time was a bit daft.

Once. I only got married for the children really. No point in doing it again.

I. Divorced three times, I might go again, been with oh 10 years now

Zero and we've been together 33 years. Never felt the need.

Once for me - still married. If we divorced/he died I’d be very content on my own with the odd FWB. But frankly, in my late 40’s I’ve become the epitome of Grumpy Old Women so doubt anyone would want me either!

One youthful mistake that lasted less than 5 years and my current 35 years and still going strong marriage. So my answer is 2.

If I were to lose DH I would NEVER marry nor cohabitate again. I just couldn't be bothered to try and adjust my 'ways' or have to alter my comfy home for some new man, let alone tie my life to theirs legally.

I'm in my 60s and it's really interesting how many women in my age range say 'never again' (even after happy marriages) and how many older men say 'yes, please'. I think it just shows how much women do to keep a marriage on an even keel and how much they don't want to have to start all over.

I do know someone who always refers to her (3rd) Husband as her 'current Husband' which makes me chuckle.

This!

I didn't get married until my late 30s, still happily married, but that's it for me thank you very much.

A family member is on his 3rd marriage and they have been married 28 years and are very happy together so I don't think I'd want to put a number on it.

I hear you! 😀

I used to work with someone who talked about her next wedding and the things she ‘will’ do differently in terms of menus, flowers, dress etc, whilst still being very much in a relationship with husband number 2. She also said marriages are for 5-10 years only. 🤣 To be fair, she was always happy. 😅

Once.. maybe.

or it's just a different way from you? People could say the the same thing about you.

Once. If we divorce or DH dies before me I won't be getting married again. In fact I would never live with anyone ever again.

I'm on my second. I never expected to marry again after my first was such a disasters. I would not get married a third time if something happened to my DH our our relationship.

It is very easy for women who are ensconced in long relationships to say this when they have no idea of what it is like to live alone at 60. They think that it is like being happy to be in the house on their own when their H is out for an afternoon ime.

One, but only because I've been with DH a long time and I don't think I could be arsed to get married again if we ended or something happened to him.

I don't judge people on second marriages - I know a few people who got married young and then remarried in their early 30s which doesn't seem unreasonable.

By the third marriage I would wonder a little bit.

Anything over 3 I wonder if they're maybe just getting married FAR too soon or need to sort themselves out a bit before getting legally entwined with someone. Like, I understand that some people turn out to be awful or abusive, or people grow apart, etc etc. But by marriage 4 I would wonder whether they needed to get to know someone better before jumping into marriage, or whether they were repeating patterns of unhealthy relationships and should probably look at that a bit closer before promising to love someone else unto death (AGAIN).

...I would keep all of that to myself, mind you. None of my actual business, but nobody said I can't be a judgemental cow inside my own head!

(I know someone on her sixth marriage. Massive white dress and 'this is The One' each time. Tickles me a bit)

Once. Never doing it again. Ever. Don't want another relationship. Six years single now and happy.