Just that really. DD is 12 and has recently become much more interested in clothes and make up and styling her hair. She buys things with her own money.
My eldest DC are boys and I haven’t had to think about this before.
DD is heading into town today to meet friends for lunch. This is a very recent things for her to be allowed to do.
She just appeared from her room wearing an orange outfit - as in bright orange - which consists of tight leggings and a matching kind of cropped long sleeved top.
She has straightened her hair and is wearing eye make up - which is beautifully done I admit - which seems to include silver eyeshadow and eyeliner. She is quite obviously wearing make up.
The overall “look” puts me in mind of a young Cher, and would be appropriate for a 70’s disco of some kind, in my opinion.
I said “DD, you look like you are going to a nightclub, not into town, this is a bit much”.
DD became upset and said I don’t understand fashion. We argued about it. She has gone back into her room.
She also keeps wearing a coat that I hate. It looks synthetic and cheap and she looks cold wearing it. I bought some lovely warm coats that are fashionable, but she won’t wear them. I had offered to shop for other coats but she only wants the one I dislike.
I didn’t get on well with my DM when I was the same age. I can’t really figure out if I should be telling her not to wear this or if I should back off. She is only 12 though.
Advice from mums of DD’s - who have good relationships with them, is particularly welcome!