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What's the most stuck up place you've been to?

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UrbanMan27 · 13/04/2023 20:09

Having just recently seen a video of a young man doing a video of Farnham on TikTok saying it's Tory and stuck up etc.

I was wondering if you've come across any town that has had stuck up people and what was your thoughts on such a place?

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MrsMontyD · 14/04/2023 07:36

A train carriage going to St Ives at the beginning of the school summer holidays. It was full of posh women and their dc who were all renting houses for the whole summer, all their husbands worked in the city or similar and were joining them at the weekend with the rest of their luggage.

The competition to have the best rental or the husband with the best job etc. kept me entertained. It was like seeing some of the women who post on Mumsnet in the flesh, with the six figure earning husbands with expensive hobbies and boys called Hugo dressed like Prince George.

MrsMoastyToasty · 14/04/2023 07:41

Parts of North Bristol, particularly Henleaze, Westbury on Trym Westbury Park, Clifton and Sneyd Park.

RampantIvy · 14/04/2023 07:49

At Stocks Hotel in Sark there was a particularly stuck up family staying there. We had taken DD out of school for the week. The family, whose DC were privately educated and who had already started their school holidays were horrific snobs.

He was a much older man with a trophy wife and four children. He was OK actually, but she was insufferable. They went there every year and were friends with the owners, who were also rather snobby.

We had all been on the same flight from Manchester, and one evening in the bar I made a comment about it. She wrinkled her nose and said very disdainfully "Ew no, we don't live in Manchester" as if it was the last hellhole on earth.

Moidershewrote · 14/04/2023 07:50

French Riviera, a Mecca for snooty snoots.

Whyishewearingasombero · 14/04/2023 08:01

Happyhappyeveryday · 14/04/2023 07:01

@Whyishewearingasombero Am I wrong for not judging the newspaper ask as stuck up? Just discerning, IMO 😂Hate the tabloids for being misogynistic and plain nasty.

I totally agree - I only read a paper on a Sunday. And it's not a tabloid.

But recycling?!

Rutaceae · 14/04/2023 08:05

RedToothBrush · 13/04/2023 21:18

So that's the islands of Crewe, Winsford and bits of Northwich.

Everywhere else is posh. And in Abersoch on bank holidays.

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Stop being so daft.
Poverty exists in Cheshire living creek by jowl with wealth just as it does everywhere in this country.
Ellesmere Port, Winsford, Crewe. Blacon and Lache in Chester are some of the poorest wards in the country. And if you think everyone who can see a field from their back window is rich you’ve got another think coming. I worked form
many years in the community in Tarporley and some of the hidden poverty I saw there could rival anything that I’ve seen in Ellesmere Port.

Rutaceae · 14/04/2023 08:05

Cheek thank you autocorrect

ArcticBells · 14/04/2023 08:54

UrbanMan27 · 13/04/2023 20:54

@ArcticBells search for RobColf on there (TikTok). He says what he thinks of Farnham and Surrey in general

One man's opinion?!

Qhaecciarr · 14/04/2023 09:12

BooperKisses · 13/04/2023 20:44

A small village close to Yeovil in Somerset… spent a summer there about 30 years ago, me DH and DC aged 18 months.
A lot of new money and Range Rovers… we were frozen out of baby groups, nobody spoke to us and I cried to go home. Utterly miserable.

Which one?! Wasn't aware there was anywhere particularly posh in South Somerset (although Bruton seems to be rapidly heading that way thanks to the Times or whichever paper decreed it to be fashionable)

NewmummyJ · 14/04/2023 09:36

Hadley Wood/Cockfosters. All drive ridiculous SUVs which are all about status and nothing about the roads of greater London.

BlackFriday · 14/04/2023 09:50

How long before a corresponding "most chavvy/low-class place you've been to" thread would be deleted?
The inverted snobbery on this thread is something else.

Meandfour · 14/04/2023 09:54

RampantIvy · 14/04/2023 07:49

At Stocks Hotel in Sark there was a particularly stuck up family staying there. We had taken DD out of school for the week. The family, whose DC were privately educated and who had already started their school holidays were horrific snobs.

He was a much older man with a trophy wife and four children. He was OK actually, but she was insufferable. They went there every year and were friends with the owners, who were also rather snobby.

We had all been on the same flight from Manchester, and one evening in the bar I made a comment about it. She wrinkled her nose and said very disdainfully "Ew no, we don't live in Manchester" as if it was the last hellhole on earth.

Missing the point but can you fill a week in Sark?

Florissante · 14/04/2023 09:59

BlackFriday · 14/04/2023 09:50

How long before a corresponding "most chavvy/low-class place you've been to" thread would be deleted?
The inverted snobbery on this thread is something else.

I can just imagine the howls of outrage if such a thread were ever to see the light of day.

SweetSakura · 14/04/2023 10:07

Florissante · 14/04/2023 09:59

I can just imagine the howls of outrage if such a thread were ever to see the light of day.

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It's entirely different though.

Sneering at people with less is very different from a bit of a moan /critique of those with plenty

(And I say that as someone who grew up in the biggest house in the village etc so was on the receiving end of teasing about being posh my whole childhood)

Crikeyalmighty · 14/04/2023 10:07

To the person who mentioned bits of north Bristol- we lived in Henleaze for 18 months- I totally agree- we moved to Bath which suprisingly was way more friendly- neighbour offering cups of tea when we moved in etc, street party , people regularly chatting at gate. Yes it's quite posh here in bits- but I've not found it stuck up. I can't actually say Henleaze was stuck up- just unfriendly and keep yourself to yourself- there is actually a difference

SweetSakura · 14/04/2023 10:09

And some people who are posh (or even more often those who aspire to be) do behave in appalling or comical ways.

I worked in a shop in a very posh town during university holidays and was astonished how some people spoke to us like we were less than the dirt on their shoes.

MiniTheMinx · 14/04/2023 10:22

Florissante · 14/04/2023 09:59

I can just imagine the howls of outrage if such a thread were ever to see the light of day.

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Some people would genuinely laugh at your defense of them, they neither need it nor desire it. The sort of stuck up MC refferenced here aspire to be noticed as stuck up. Its a device to exclude and include others.

The genuinely posh couldn't give a rats arse what you think. But stuck up people care very much that you have noticed their snobbery.

RedToothBrush · 14/04/2023 10:28

Rutaceae · 14/04/2023 08:05

Stop being so daft.
Poverty exists in Cheshire living creek by jowl with wealth just as it does everywhere in this country.
Ellesmere Port, Winsford, Crewe. Blacon and Lache in Chester are some of the poorest wards in the country. And if you think everyone who can see a field from their back window is rich you’ve got another think coming. I worked form
many years in the community in Tarporley and some of the hidden poverty I saw there could rival anything that I’ve seen in Ellesmere Port.

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I am well aware. I was taking the piss somewhat... I have friends throughout Cheshire and have lived / worked a long time there. I do know it very well.

You are right Cheshire has a huge amount of hidden poverty. It's rural nature in places really disguises it. You have really affluent types living right next door to very poor - it tends to be much more mixed than people give credit for.

But it's the likes of Knutsford (which has a massive council estate which no one really thinks about) and Alderley which dominate how it's perceived. The green welly brigade aren't to be found much in Sandbach or Holmes Chapel and parts of Chester and Ellesmere are proper rough.

There's a lot of lower middle class types who are particularly struggling at the moment too, and that's really where a lot of Cheshire is at. It's a lot different to the home counties middle class in a way that's difficult to explain. Much more down to earth.

Knutsford and Alderley themselves are really quite different to each other too. The former tends to be older money and the latter new money - you get a different type of pretensious with both. Both are really satellites to Manchester and that's why they are so expensive. I actually think the most pretentious places are Hale and Bowden tbh.

Ironically Knutsford is really really nice on days when half the population has gone to Abersoch. It's noticeable. It's so much quieter during school holiday times.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 14/04/2023 10:37

As the saying goes, nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission.

Finding any place ‘stuck up’ surely suggests a bit of a chip on the shoulder.

Having said that, I must say that on a half-day visit to Salcombe, dh and I encountered one or two truly ghastly people in the car park*, and agreed that we’d never bother visiting again.

*I don’t mean anything like accent - just the sort of people who seem to think that driving a very expensive car entitles them to behave in a thoroughly arrogant, entitled fashion.

MedievalMadness · 14/04/2023 11:00

like the New Forest, I've never found Winchester stuck up but there is an air smugness as "I'm so happy I live in Winchester , aren't I lucky". I don't get it though as I've always found it dull

DB and family have lived in Winchester for over 40 years. I’ve never felt it to be snobby and we are from a lower middle class background. I’d feel quietly smug, or more likely, grateful, if I lived there. I think the city and its surrounding areas are beautiful. DB definitely feels very lucky to be living there and being lucky enough to be able to get on the property ladder at a time houses were more affordable there. I live in a grotty part of Yorkshire.

DappledThings · 14/04/2023 11:02

As the saying goes, nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission.

Finding any place ‘stuck up’ surely suggests a bit of a chip on the shoulder.
I definitely never felt inferior about the Silhillians obsessed with being NOT BIRMINGHAM. I found them hilarious in a stuck-up way that really laughing at is the only response.

Florissante · 14/04/2023 11:23

MiniTheMinx · 14/04/2023 10:22

Some people would genuinely laugh at your defense of them, they neither need it nor desire it. The sort of stuck up MC refferenced here aspire to be noticed as stuck up. Its a device to exclude and include others.

The genuinely posh couldn't give a rats arse what you think. But stuck up people care very much that you have noticed their snobbery.

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My defence of them? Noticed their snobbery? I have no idea what you're talking about.

Your post is a nice try - but a fail - at being sneery.

TheaBrandt · 14/04/2023 11:31

Bath is posh but friendly. You can have both!

Goldenbear · 14/04/2023 11:43

Lewes has the Wicker Man vibe (especially around Bonfire night) but I don't think it is stuck up, men and women wearing Guy Fawkes costumes but all you need for this is a Breton top which I am sure is the staple in any Lewes wardrobe! It is taken very seriously and it is embarrassing, I don't feel inferior but I don't want to get out of there back to the sanity of Brighton!

Goldenbear · 14/04/2023 11:45

But I do want to get out of there not 'don't'.