Do you ever get a strange feeling about someone ( or something?)

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I recently met someone, just a friend of a friend, and had a really visceral gut feeling about her and not in a good way. It made me feel so uncomfortable and I felt really awkward around her, like she might know what I was thinking. I have no idea why this happened and has never happened before, there was no obvious reason for it. She was perfect polite. However It felt like all the hairs stood up on the back of my neck and something about her really rattled me.Has anyone else ever had this experience and were they ‘right’ about their gut feeling?

You’re not a primary school head teacher are you?

Let's pray not...

@JingleBellez That’s interesting and makes my blood go a bit cold as I also felt like the feeling was about the person, rather than the item, but I’ve never seen them and they don’t live anywhere near me. Our only interaction was through Facebook messenger but, my god, did I feel an awful sense of dread about the whole situation. DH put it down to me just not wanting to travel that way, that day.

Yes, I’m expecting. I also thought perhaps it could be pregnancy hormones making me feel a little bit nuts but the dread was so visceral.

@JingleBellez I’ve just gone back on my messages and blocked their profile!

Sorry, I didn't mean to scare you.

Maybe but I doubt it, only because of who are mutual friend is and we are very close. Almost like sisters. I mean anything is possible I guess! So can’t rule it out but seems doubtful in this case. I honestly do not want to feel this way about her and was a little blindsided as know I will probably have future interactions. ☹️

@JingleBellez Haha no, it’s ok. I felt complete relief about it once I’d decided I wasn’t going. I just mean you sort of confirmed what I suspected deep down. Instinct or ‘woo’ I’m not sure what it was, but it was certainly something!

:) Enjoy your baba!

It wasn’t a Tucker Carlson quote it was in The Gift of Fear

I'm with Dr Who on fear.

DW: "Don't be afraid"
Student character: "Why not?"
DW: "It doesn't help"

Sorry last one was for @JingleBellez Gavin De Becker says its not his quote either. I think someone upthread said it was Margaret Atwood.

Well I've never met Putin, but as far back as 2013 told family members he's truly a dark soul.

And the conversation followed with various highly educated people telling me he was just a typical ex KGB character, and that ultimately he'd always be someone to be wary of, but if handled carefully by the world's politicians probably not much threat.

I feel slightly sick whenever I look at him, I think he is evil.

I wish we could, but it's the landlord's choice.

Changed name as outing but I work in a psychiatric hospital with offenders and other seriously Ill. I think it’s strong emotions you become tuned to feeling and sensing. Some people have so much anger/sadness/trauma that you can feel it. My colleagues and I call them fizzers you can feel your body kind of fizzing when they walk in.

@Perime ah ok x

Yes I get the same from Meghan markle and I’m fascinated by the extreme reactions others have and wonder if other people pick up what I do. And no I’m not racist or unkind and I know it’s a weird way to feel but honestly I think she has that vibe and a lot of people pick up on it and others don’t hence why people are so divided on her.

I've had the opposite of this, well sort of.

New boy started in DS's year. We met them by chance in the park and I sat down with the mum. I REALLY disliked her from the offset. Don't know why, couldn't tell you. However, I got over that and we became good friends. It later transpired that when we met in the park she had just come from a 12 hour stint watching over her terminally ill parent in a hospice and was in a dark place mentally. I suspect I was picking up on body language and cues relating to that rather than anything about her.

There’s a guy in my industry who works in another country and I see him maybe twice a year at events in various bits of the world. He gives me the extreme creeps, like I’ve never experienced before. Like almost panicky/adrenaline/have to get away/nauseous. He always makes a beeline for me, stands far too close, smile never reaches dead eyes. Always far too keen that we have a private meeting about something irrelevant, which I always turn into a cheery ‘oh let’s just have a quick coffee here’ (in a packed networking space, with other colleagues close/involved) or say politely sorry I’ve got to run as I’m busy with some aspect of the event. He recently invited me to another event abroad as a speaker and to be his ‘guest’ for a couple of days and I told my boss I wouldn’t be going and why. My physical reaction to the email was the same as seeing him in person, just nope. Boss was just ‘ok no problem, I totally get it.’ No idea if he actually is a wrong’un in any way but he feels so off I’m not taking any chances.

I have quite accurate perceptions of people, but it's always based on tiny bits of behaviour. The way they speak to someone or react to situations, small expressions etc.

I think a lot of people are socially conditioned to overlook these small signs as long as someone generally behaves nicely and normally, but I don't.

My husband used to say that I was quite judgemental, but has since conceded that I have accurately written off quite a few wronguns early on tiny bits of bad behaviour, whilst none of the people I like have turned out bad so far.

This has happened twice to me and I was right about both of them… although that didn’t become apparent for years. One of them was in my life quite closely (married to a family member) and it was difficult being in their company - I could never relax. They were both women. Trust your instincts. They are picking up on something subconscious.

Yes I’ve had it a couple of times, once with a new MD of the company I worked for, just felt really uneasy in his presence from the moment he was introduced. I was right he was a total sleeze-ball and was fired in the end

@thecatsthecats Maybe you are right. But I find people who write of people based on tiny bits of behaviour they do not like rarely apply the same standards to themselves.

I was brought up by an abusive SD and learned to be hyper-vigilant.
I always trust my gut feelings as they're very rarely wrong.

Oh, I don't write off everyone. Some people, yes, if I spot a piece of small but definitively nasty behaviour, sure.

But for most people it just amounts to an asterisk next to their name - e.g. Kirsty is always late, Sandra can't be relied on to pay you back, Faye will never love a boyfriend as much as her best friend, Susie always seems warm but is just being polite.

The same goes for positive interactions.

Probably bad examples because I don't want to spill secrets, but useful ways know who will behave how who can be relied on. I'm rarely let down, because I don't put myself in a situation where, for example, Sandra would owe me money.

I had these recently but I was the other person. It was nearly everytime I spoke shed tense up, or roll her eyes, or I felt she was judging me, so bizarre. Definately could tell she didn’t like me. I consider myself to me nice and friendly, I don’t try too hard but I’m fortunate to have a lot of friends and people seem to want to spend time with me so it’s not knocked me at all.