DS only wants 200 pound trainers

[Theblackdogagain]

I'm at an impasse with my son. He's 13. I've never been into label's, stupid priced clothes or sports. My son has always cared about what he wore but recently he's in a group of friends that needs Nike trainers. His last pair were fila but now apparently that's not good enough. He's had his hair cut into a trendy cut at his insistence and I'm not against him finding his style but 200 is too much for trainers when his feet are still growing, he'll play football in them and wreck them and it's more than we spend on food in 2 weeks.
I've tried showing him shoes in the sale, looking at other makes and saying he needs to use some of his Christmas money to a maximum of 100 pounds. I'm really unreasonable.
Any ideas? Any websites I can use? I did get a puma tracksuit bottom and a Nike t shirt from costco do at least he has clothes on!
I'm not giving in on over 100 for trainers, the most expensive shows I've ever had were 40 and they were biker boots that still fit me :-)

Just say no paying £200 for a pair of trainers is unsustainable and unaffordable for most families. My DS now 19 had some kids in his class who bragged about how much their trainers cost etc. We had an upper limit of about £50 and we would buy something for DS of his choosing from the local Nike outlet store. On the understanding that if he wanted anything fancier he made up the difference with Christmas or birthday money. As he got older he rarely choose this option. Now he is a student he shops at the outlet store

His cousins family have more money than sense they regularly spend £200 on trainers always wear high end expensive sports clothing and full premiership football kits, have llama hairstyles. top of the range gaming equipment and the latest iphones, have expensive holidays flying business class etc etc. They appreciate nothing, expect everything are rude to relatives etc. I don’t know how they will ever afford to pay for a lifestyle like this when they are adults.

It’s hard because it’s a tale as old as time: wanting to to fit in with your peers.

Obviously not every person on this planet(!) wants to match or follow the latest trends, I was a goth when my friends weren’t.
But, I do remember having the piss taken out of me mercilessly because my parents could only afford knock off kickers for school and they weren’t “good enough’. Until I was 16 nothing I owned shoe-wise was quite the ‘right’ brand/style.

I’ve got three boys, my oldest is 12 and wears black Adidas Runfalcon’s for home and school (he also has a pair of grey primark slip on trainers which he loves and wears if he’s not seeing friends).
He has wide feet with a narrow heel and funny joints, trying on trainers last summer was awful - thank goodness for free returns and Royal Mail collect!!

He wears the 2.0’s and his first pair in Sept were full price, but since then I get them from eBay and Vinted.
He’s currently in adult size 9 (he was a size 7 in Sept). The latest version were (are) out of my budget, so in June we had a chat and he got a choice to either use some of his birthday money to split the difference with the 3.0’s or go with 2.0’s with just my money. I got them for £23.50 and £26, both inc p&p.

I used to say. I'd be happy spending £60 (whatever) on trainers but you want more expensive ones. So you'll need to use your own money towards them

My son always had Nike trainers as he has incredibly narrow fee tand they always fitted him the best.

But we have never, ever paid £200. He always went to Sports Direct and had trainers costing somewhere between £40-80.

If he wants £200 trainers he can save up for them himself.

One of DDs mates always had expensive trainers and clothing. Couldn't figure out why her DM would spent so much.

Found out it's all fake stuff from Turkey.
So your sons mates may only have paid £20/30 for trainers

My 24 yr old working ds wouldn’t DREAM of spending £200 of his hard earned dosh on a pair of trainers or shoes, and he loves clothes. It’s very easy to want expensive shite when you think someone else should pay for it. I might possibly contribute £100 max to a pair for Christmas or Birthday, but definitely not otherwise and I wouldn’t give a flying fuck how cross he was. Especially not while I’m wearing secondhand shoes!

Sometimes it’s worth checking Amazon warehouse for trainers. People return them without boxes or have worn them outside and so they are very nearly new. All my shoes come this way and they are about half price.

My 26 year old would, it pissses me off when other people decide what is of value, and MN is especially sneering of trainers. He just doesn't spend his money elsewhere

I will only spend this amount for Christmas/ birthdays, is it an option to agree on a cheaper pair for now and the ones he really wants at Christmas ?