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Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 2023-04-06T17:28:52+00:00

Just that really...... Mine was a few years ago and I'm still [confused] whenever I think about it. My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway. We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency. When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise. When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day [confused] Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!! What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

Lovelyring · 06/04/2023 22:06

axillarytailofspence · 06/04/2023 21:26

Our baby was just a couple of weeks old. A couple of 'friends' came round to see us. After a while one of them proceeded to to cut his toenails in front of us. What the heck was that about? No words.

I saw a lady do this on a train once 🤢

Fannyinfinefettle · 06/04/2023 22:08

Friends invited round for dinner turned up with an unknown to us friend. She proceeded to moan that she couldn't eat what I'd prepared as she was vegetarian. We were having drinks in the garden, and she disappeared back into the house where about ten minutes later I found this "vegetarian" had rummaged around in my freezer and helped herself to a (very expensive!) bag of raw tiger prawns and proceeded to cook them, accompanied by a bottle of Sancerre that had been in the fridge for dinner, and she'd opened and already drunk a third of!
I asked her what the fuck she thought she was doing, and she said she was just making something she could eat as I hadn't offered to! I kicked her out there and then. Friends left too - they had a bit of form of being CFS themselves, and the relationship dwindled and died on my part afterwards.

summerfinn · 06/04/2023 22:12

My father last Christmas ate his Christmas dinner before we even started ours. My DP spent all day preparing it . Needless to say my father is a rude asshole and seen nothing wrong with the fact that my DP hadn't even sat down at the table before he wolfed down his dinner. Needless to say I steer clear of him this incident is the tip of the iceberg.

Orangetapemeasure · 06/04/2023 22:14

Very recent. Boss came over to my house. Came into the kitchen and said ‘am I not going to get a guided tour?’. I burst out laughing and said ‘you are joking?’. He says ‘no. In X a tour is standard’ (he isn’t British). I said ‘ in England it really isn’t socially acceptable to be asked to show someone your house. And it’s not tidy’. Long silence. Then I showed him round whilst kicking used underwear out of the way!!!

Sugarmicetails · 06/04/2023 22:16

Creditcrunch2243 · 06/04/2023 21:38

BIL was getting married. Sent the invite to cf relative asking to rsvp with their choice from the pre arranged menu. Cf relative crossed out the entire menu and wrote her own 3 courses that she wanted serving 😂

Love this one! 😂

Maple2023 · 06/04/2023 22:16

Softsoftsleep · 06/04/2023 19:03

An ex boyfriend of mine when I was a teenager used to go through a little pot of spare change my dad kept under the sink to scrape together the cost of a Big Mac.

Not cheeky but that's just brought back a long forgotten memory!
As a teenager I was allowed any money my dad emptied into a certain drawer. Used to add it all up for nights out
One evening he forgot and I heard the "nooooooo" as he realise he had put £50 in notes in there

Inkpotlover · 06/04/2023 22:18

Charlottewebsbabies · 06/04/2023 21:16

I got the keys off her,changed the locks and went nc with the lot of them

It's a mystery (to them) why

A few weeks later,she lost her engagement ring-a pawn slip showed up made out to (say) S Smith (not real name)

My ds's name starts with an s,so she had the utter nerve to try to contact me to tell me she had not only stolen it,but had pawned it

We will turn a blind eye to the fact the same brothers name also starts with an s and we share the same surname

People still believe my dd stole and sold her ring even though she was 9 years old at the time...

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Wow. Just wow. That is EVIL. Are you still NC?

Puzzledandpissedoff · 06/04/2023 22:18

It's nothing compared with some of these, but when younger and even more stupid I used to struggle getting rid of a neighbour who'd pop round at inconvenient times

One evening she did it when I was cooking dinner for special guests (they hadn't arrived at that point) and despite endless "got to get on" comments I thought she'd never go. Once the others had arrived it got even worse than that ... she'd sat down at the dinner table with them with her husband who she'd called up to join her as "the dinner sounded so nice"

MrsLampard · 06/04/2023 22:28

Ex flat mate invited me to join her and her friend for a meal out. I'd met her friend once. Ate and then she said it was a treat for her friend so she and I would split the bill. I said no that wasn't part of the plan and asked for my bill separately. Went to the loo, came back to them both standing by my car as she'd offered her friend a lift home. In my car. I grudgingly did this and then had to put up with a lecture on the way home about how rude I'd been. Needless to say we didn't remain flat mates for long after that

RuthTopp · 06/04/2023 22:29

When I was a teenager my dad would take clothes from my wardrobe and give them to his mate to pass to his daughter . Ok they were struggling but it used to really p iss me off.

Cece70 · 06/04/2023 22:30

When I was a teenager home alone, I heard someone breaking in next door and called the police. A policeman knocked on my door, marched straight into the kitchen and sat at the table reading my dad’s newspaper. He asked if I would make him a cup of tea and then asked if I had any biscuits to go with it!

He sat there reading and slurping tea for about 10 minutes before getting up and walking out of the house. Never said a word as he left and never mentioned the break in next door!

Bleachmycloths · 06/04/2023 22:31

I shouldn’t laugh but some of these CFs are unbelievable! A very entertaining thread.
DHs daughter (40+, fat, lazy, taker) was at our house one day with her DP. I offered to make sandwiches. She said ‘No, but if you make us a few sandwiches and wrap them up we can take them home and eat them later.’
I refused and said ‘I’m not running a cafe!’
She doesn’t like me. I don’t care lol 🤣

Red0 · 06/04/2023 22:32

I went away with work for a few days, MIL pitched up the day before to “look after” her son/my husband (30+ years old). I came back to find she had been out and bought new curtains & replaced the ones we had (less than a year old) because she preferred them. She greeted me at the door “Welcome to my humble abode!” Twat.

CountingMareep · 06/04/2023 22:34

Not sure if this qualifies as CFery exactly but it certainly got us into a very awkward situation as friend in question was unfortunate but not 100% free of blame…

Friend goes back to schooldays; she is what DM described back then as ‘eccentric’. We catch up every year or so for a natter and a reminisce. She has a lifelong condition which is well controlled with medication but always a little bit of a worry (and means she can’t ever drive); now and again she gets random symptoms which probably (I’m thinking) are more stress/mental health related but you can never be sure.

Well, she visited us over a year ago. I gave her one of the DC’s bedrooms for the weekend as DC was away. First night, she was a bit shivery, admitted to a sore throat for the last few days, reckoned it was a cold.

Following day, she started throwing up and went to bed. Third day we noticed blood on the sheets and started to panic. Fourth day we dragged her to A&E and sat with her for 6 hours, frustrated at her lack of medical support and the uselessness of her (also non-driving) partner who had no means of getting her back home (where she was, notably, less than keen to go). Fifth day, she improved a bit. By then, DC was due to return. We bit the bullet and suggested that friend should stay in a hotel next to the railway station and take the train home as soon as she felt able, which after some initial ☹️ she ended up doing.

We had to replace a mattress, dispose of bedding, bleach and sterilise the bathroom, air DC’s room (took forever to get the smell out), and then, she texted us to let us know that she had been diagnosed with…Covid. 😡 DH caught it, DC2 caught it, a ton of plans had to be shelved. All because she didn’t bother to test before coming.

Let’s just say I’m not keen to have her stay over again.

Bleachmycloths · 06/04/2023 22:34

Fannyinfinefettle · 06/04/2023 22:08

Friends invited round for dinner turned up with an unknown to us friend. She proceeded to moan that she couldn't eat what I'd prepared as she was vegetarian. We were having drinks in the garden, and she disappeared back into the house where about ten minutes later I found this "vegetarian" had rummaged around in my freezer and helped herself to a (very expensive!) bag of raw tiger prawns and proceeded to cook them, accompanied by a bottle of Sancerre that had been in the fridge for dinner, and she'd opened and already drunk a third of!
I asked her what the fuck she thought she was doing, and she said she was just making something she could eat as I hadn't offered to! I kicked her out there and then. Friends left too - they had a bit of form of being CFS themselves, and the relationship dwindled and died on my part afterwards.

So glad you kicked them out! Where do these people come from???

SpringBlossomJoy · 06/04/2023 22:35

Orangetapemeasure · 06/04/2023 22:14

Very recent. Boss came over to my house. Came into the kitchen and said ‘am I not going to get a guided tour?’. I burst out laughing and said ‘you are joking?’. He says ‘no. In X a tour is standard’ (he isn’t British). I said ‘ in England it really isn’t socially acceptable to be asked to show someone your house. And it’s not tidy’. Long silence. Then I showed him round whilst kicking used underwear out of the way!!!

Actually I think it is standard in UK but perhaps not in all classes/areas. I grew up working class in the east of England and moved to the South. I always offered people a tour but they looked at me oddly so I soon stopped. I just thought it was the normal thing to do.

Charlottewebsbabies · 06/04/2023 22:35

Inkpotlover · 06/04/2023 22:18

Wow. Just wow. That is EVIL. Are you still NC?

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Oh yes
I moved over 100 miles away and it kills her that she can't get to me
She has to be content with blackening my name and people believe I shag about (been with dp for the last 8 years) am an alki (don't drink) am a druggie (I'm shit scared of needles) am on the Dole (I work full time) dps my pimp (hahahaha) and I beat kids (I've never hit anyone in my life-my siblings don't count)
People still believe her tho...

samesame2023 · 06/04/2023 22:39

Internationalwomendayheadquarters · 06/04/2023 20:35

A tradesman once came to our house to do some work. I was breastfeeding in the corner (and on my own). He told me that it was utterly disgusting and ‘you’re not going to do that in here, are you?’. I was a first time mum home alone and I felt very vulnerable.

I really wish I had given him an earful and told him to fuck off. Instead, I meekly smiled, took myself to a different part of the house and paid him in full. I still feel angry about it now.

I’m absolutely raging for you. What a horrible twat he was 💐

iGotADilemma · 06/04/2023 22:40

SIL used to invite herself to my flat during her lunch breaks as she worked down the road. She'd show up unannounced and go through my drawers helping herself to food. Then she'd put her feet up on the sofa to watch TV whilst waiting for me to cook her lunch. This went on for a while until eventually I'd stop answering the door to her or I'd make excuses that I was out. Never once did she say thanks or think to grab some food on the way for both of us!

Red0 · 06/04/2023 22:40

‘Best friend’ used to call me while I was on maternity leave to ask me to do random things as I was “doing nothing”. Example 1: calling the RSPCA to tell them she’d seen a dead cat at the side of the motorway. Example 2: going through her social media to delete all traces of her ex

TheFormidableMrsC · 06/04/2023 22:40

@Itakecreaminmycoffee I know, it sounds utterly ridiculous. I had had cancer and had just finished treatment, I was not quite myself. I think I was just gobsmacked, it happened so quickly. I was familiar with the child so didn't have an issue with him being in the house, it was just the utter nerve of this woman. If it happened now I'd go mad. Utterly batshit behaviour.

zeldarubinstein · 06/04/2023 22:41

Years ago when I lived with ex, we were going on holiday and his mate asked if he could stay at ours for the week as he'd split up with his girlfriend and was sleeping on a mate's sofa. We said yes.

Came back, house was filthy, sticky floors, plates and my favourite mug missing (had been broken and chucked out) dog hairs everywhere...turns out he'd had his 3 young kids and his mum's dog to stay for the week as he thought we wouldnt mind. I was absolutely fuming, but set to cleaning up and just thought 'ah well live and learn, no more favours for Dave'.

Next day, retrieve my car keys from their hiding place at the back of my wardrobe behind a pile of stuff....get in the car amd the seat felt wrong...then I saw the kid's sippy cup in the footwear. Turns out his kids had been rummaging through my stuff, found the keys, and he thought he'd just use my car all week to save getting the bus. And to top it off, he had no license as he was banned from driving!

I threatened to call the police, and he said to ex to tell me he was sorry and he'd buy me a bunch of flowers, but he really didnt think I'd mind!

Bleachmycloths · 06/04/2023 22:42

Puzzledandpissedoff · 06/04/2023 22:18

It's nothing compared with some of these, but when younger and even more stupid I used to struggle getting rid of a neighbour who'd pop round at inconvenient times

One evening she did it when I was cooking dinner for special guests (they hadn't arrived at that point) and despite endless "got to get on" comments I thought she'd never go. Once the others had arrived it got even worse than that ... she'd sat down at the dinner table with them with her husband who she'd called up to join her as "the dinner sounded so nice"

🤣 Some people live in some kind of parallel universe!

Supertayto · 06/04/2023 22:44

Not as bad as bacon-gate, but getting there. I have a friend who doesn’t believe in baby wipes and prefers to rinse off her babies’ and toddlers’ bums in the sink. Fair enough, in your own sink in your own home. NOT in the sinks of public loos or MY FUCKING SINK. Leaving, and I absolutely shit you not, tiny nuggets of poop in the sink, on the bath mat and on the shower curtain. What the fuck happened and why didn’t you ask me for a multitude of cleaning products to make it right!!!?? I didn’t have her back until all her kids were toilet trained.

disneydatknee · 06/04/2023 22:51

My ex bf turned up unannounced one day and started raiding my cupboards for saucepans to take to his new gfs place as they were moving in together. He never purchased a single thing for our house when we lived together so I was baffled why he thought he had any claim to it or thought he could just rock up and help himself?!