What is the most CF behaviour someone has shown when visiting your home?

[Imamumgetmeoutofhere]

Just that really......

Mine was a few years ago and I'm still whenever I think about it.

My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway.

We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency.

When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise.

When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day

Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!!

What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

So that's a yes then 🤣

Tedious, isn’t it?

@Witchbitch20 - I got the brothel reference!

Very.

Norty @crosstalk DC! How VERY DARE YOU serve the food your mother made for your party, at your party? Have you no manners?!

As this has now reached 590 odd posts I think we have to sadly say they do!

I used to work in a furniture and fashion store. We closed at 5.30. My colleague (who was a difficult character) was working upstairs in the furniture department and was making a sofa sale at closing time.
I was the key holder that day so locked up whilst she was making the sale, thinking it wouldn’t take too much longer.

At 6pm the children of the family buying a sofa asked to be let out of the shop, they left and went over to the chippy across the road and bought chips for the whole family which they bought back and ate whilst they continued deciding what sofa to buy!!

At 6.30pm I told them I needed to leave as was meant to have finished at 6pm and had plans. They said they were leaving anyway as decided none of our sofas were right.

A few years ago one of those party political
knocked on my door it was absolutely chucking it Down and she was very elderly and soaked , I live very in a rural village .
I took pity on her and let her in !
big mistake, she was waiting to be collected
as had “done” the village.
she asked if she could use my phone, I have only a mobile and was working from home .
20 minutes later she was carrying on with plans to fly an mp in by helicopter somewhere or other , I said I needed my phone she completely ignored me .
when I finally got her out of my house she didn’t even say thank you

I agree quertygirl. Fem needs to head back to the 50's! What a horrible attitude. It was HER HOME fgs! She can feed where she likes!

When my DH died many years ago, things were very tense between my MIL and myself. Not long after the funeral, I’d gone out with the DCs (aged 2 and 1) and when I got back the house looked different. Then I worked it out, all our photos had gone from the walls. Wedding photos, family photos, pictures of the DCs…all disappeared.
Then I remembered my PIL had a key to my house, so I phoned them and asked if they’d been round…

Most of these stories are hilarious but this one is really quite sad. I'm so sorry for your loss and that you had to go through that, so soon after the funeral. It sounds heartbreaking. Not just cheeky but genuinely cruel of PIL .

Oh dont be ridiculous. They left it where you would be guaranteed to find it. Are you always this hard work?

@femfemlicious did you miss the part where the tradesman called her disgusting for feeding? Or is that ok in your world because he was a MAN and his feelings were more important than feeding a baby?

If you didn't dispense sexual services there was no chance that they confused your spare bedroom for a brothel.

Perhaps because it’s reflective of their own behaviour and they want to feel justified in it?

I’m not really ready to talk about this but once when I was at my DM’s to let someone in to do some work, the guy asked to use the loo and when I went in later (after he had left) he had put the lid down, but there was a fairly large lump on poo on the lid. On top of the closed lid. So that was fun. Shuddering now thinking of it.

I really don't like anyone using Jesus' name as a swear word or even an exclamation. I understand when non believers do it, as they have no reverence for the name, but as believers, we should. The phrase 'Jesus wept' has such Biblical depth and the thought of our Lord's deep, profound emotion being reduced to a synonym for 'wow!' makes me really uncomfortable. As I said, I could really understand a non believer using this term (many of my family and friends don't believe, so I hear Jesus' name reduced to a swear word a lot). However, to hear it coming from someone who claims to be a Christian minister is really difficult to comprehend, especially one who was criticising others for buffet Christianity (a point I do agree with). I'm sorry for something of a derail, but this just didn't sit right with me at all.

Yep Witch - they clearly WANTED to be kind, thats not CF in anyones book.

Ok they missed the mark but many people would have appreciated the gesture and would have preferred it over being offered cash in their hands.

House tours - this was definitely a thing when I was a kid, people would come over, say something about house and the response would invariably be 'ooh, would you like the full tour'... and off everyone would trot.

This definitely also happened at other peoples houses... though... no one we knew (to my knowledge) lived in a small new build. Small cottages yes, rambling weird rural properties, large period properties but no super modern ones, no...

I think people are more private now... but also I think they live in far less interesting houses too. Once you've seen one modern box in grey or rose gold, you've really seen them all.

I think she was a CF. Who asks a very ill acquaintance for free regular childcare and when she refuses, makes nasty comments to ill person’s children like it 'is better for children if their mummy's work'.

I would have felt the same.

A bottle of wine, bunch of flowers etc on arrival is a git; cash left on the table next to the bed is like a payment for services rendered - it's how you tip the maid in an American hotel, or (as you say) pay a prostitute (as I understand it, never having done this).

It's bliddy patronising to do it to a friend.

They could have said "thank you" by sending some flowers/chocolates via Interflora /M&S or something if they felt they wanted to do something more.

😂

Exactly.

I appreciate your feelings about it and I apologise for upsetting you.

I personally can't bear hearing people say "Christ!' as a swear word - it's like a physical blow to me- but hypocritical or not, I occasionally use "Jesus wept", not as a swear, but as an expression of exasperation.

I hadn't realised that it was the ill person's children she was making the remarks to - I had thought it was her own children.

I misunderstood.

Didn’t you stop her pouring at any second? This doesn’t really make any sense. At the very least you could have demanded she hand the glass back.