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Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 2023-04-06T17:28:52+00:00

Just that really...... Mine was a few years ago and I'm still [confused] whenever I think about it. My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway. We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency. When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise. When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day [confused] Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!! What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

Emotionalsupportviper · 08/04/2023 16:59

SpicedPumpkinLatte · 08/04/2023 11:45

It's not "backwards" to choose when and where you expose your body. If a woman makes a choice not to expose herself to a man, that is absolutely not a backwards point of view.

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Hear, hear.

I wouldn't have fed my babies in front of a random workman either. Family yes, friends, yes, in a very public place where there is a lot of people and which is therefore "anonymous", yes.

In a room with a man I didn't know - No. TBH, I think it is unfair on both the workman and myself. It is too intimate an activity, and too intimate a space, IMO.

But you do you.

Emotionalsupportviper · 08/04/2023 17:11

ifIwerenotanandroid · 08/04/2023 13:43

I have three tubs in reserve & one on the go. Should I specify them on the house contents insurance? Should I move the reserves to a bank deposit box?

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THREE AND A BIT TUBS!!!

I hope no villains are able to triangulate your address via this website. If I were you I'd get your post deleted asap.

Yes, yes - get them int a bank at once!

LuckyPeonies · 08/04/2023 17:16

Emotionalsupportviper · 07/04/2023 16:44

I wouldn't say all, but most.

I speak as a practising Christian (in fact, a licensed minister). I see too many people following the bits they like and ignoring the bits they don't, and then coming on all holier-than-thou because you happen not to comply with the bits that THEY think should be legal obligations, and brushing aside any remarks you might make about their own sins which you might point out to them.

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Cafeteria Christians.

purser25 · 08/04/2023 17:29

Exactly I like lurpak but won’t by it on principle as the danish standards of farming with animals are dreadful

Quinoawoman · 08/04/2023 17:34

We have chickens. When we go on holiday we pay a pet sitter who comes to feed them in the morning, but I sometimes ask a neighbour's daughter (aged about 16 at this time) who loves animals to come and let them out of the run for a few hours in the afternoon so they can free range, then shut then away. She loved looking after them.

One year she was unavailable for part of the time we were away so I asked different neighbours if they would mind doing the same just for the few days the first neighbours were also away, mainly because their 7 year old DD was friends with mine and she loved coming to see the birds. They said no problem.

Turns out the first-choice set of neighbours ended up not going away in the end, and the mum of the 16yo texted me to tell me that the other neighbours had come round, let their kids play in our garden, but NOT LET THE CHICKENS OUT OF THE RUN WHILE THEY WERE THERE!!! When I got back also discovered that they had been going round and collecting eggs even when it wasn't their days to let the hens out, meaning that the 16yo missed out even though she was letting the hens out and supervising them those days.

Allergictoironing · 08/04/2023 17:43

Emotionalsupportviper · 08/04/2023 16:53

I'm not sure how we are in CF territory here.

She asked, you said "No", she accepted your decision and tried to soften the blow for her children. Have I missed anything?

Neither of you seems to have behaved badly/

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For me the fact that she asked in the first place, knowing full well that cheekyffer was exceptionally ill, especially as her DC weren't the best behaved.

I read the last bit as she had had the dig about working mothers to cheekyffer's children while they were at a party. Plus the dig wasn't softening any blow at all - a) what "blow" to her DC that they weren't going to be babysat by a very ill neighbour, and b) how was saying that it's better for kids to have a working mother in any way "softening" anything? If she DID say it to cheekyffer's DC as I read it, why on earth would she say this unless intending to be nasty.

Bollindger · 08/04/2023 17:55

Long ago as a struggling parent, my friend and I were into drinking coffee, we purchased some good quality instant coffee, next door took to arriving about 11 if my car was there.
She would drink 3 strong cupfuls and it was costing a fortune, so we got the cheapest instant and put that in the cupboard and hid the good stuff, we would make the first coffee using the good stuff and leave her to use the cheap stuff, she stopped drinking more than a cup on visits.

hookiewookie29 · 08/04/2023 18:10

I'm a childminder. Several years ago I had a Mum visit me at short notice enquiring about childcare. She had 4 children, all in primary school. Anyway, I had a bit of a gut feeling about this family- one of the boys was a real handful- and after she'd gone I worked out that I could only have them for 2 sessions a week and not 5 as she'd requested. No contracts or details had been exchanged, no money had been paid by her, and I hadn't promised her the spaces.I didn't even know when she wanted care from,or what the children's names were,or even what the eldest child looked like as he didn't come with her.The only contact details I had for her was an email address so I emailed, telling her I couldn't care for her children as I didn't have the spaces she needed. She didn't reply.
The following Monday, I was dropping other children at school and one of the teachers said " Oh Hookie,I believe you're collecting xxxx's children tonight"
I told the teacher I wasn't- and then found out that the Mum ( who was divorced) had dropped the kids at breakfast club, told them to pass on the message that I was collecting her kids- then drove straight to the airport where she was going off on a 4 day jolly with her mates!! School tried to contact her but she wasn't picking up. In the end they got hold of Dad who was working 100 miles away and he had to get back in time to collect them from school. He even rang me to see if I'd collect them just that once, and said that she was always doing things like that.
I saw her occasionally at school after that and she couldn't even make eye contact me!

EnchentButteler · 08/04/2023 18:18

hookiewookie29 · 08/04/2023 18:10

I'm a childminder. Several years ago I had a Mum visit me at short notice enquiring about childcare. She had 4 children, all in primary school. Anyway, I had a bit of a gut feeling about this family- one of the boys was a real handful- and after she'd gone I worked out that I could only have them for 2 sessions a week and not 5 as she'd requested. No contracts or details had been exchanged, no money had been paid by her, and I hadn't promised her the spaces.I didn't even know when she wanted care from,or what the children's names were,or even what the eldest child looked like as he didn't come with her.The only contact details I had for her was an email address so I emailed, telling her I couldn't care for her children as I didn't have the spaces she needed. She didn't reply.
The following Monday, I was dropping other children at school and one of the teachers said " Oh Hookie,I believe you're collecting xxxx's children tonight"
I told the teacher I wasn't- and then found out that the Mum ( who was divorced) had dropped the kids at breakfast club, told them to pass on the message that I was collecting her kids- then drove straight to the airport where she was going off on a 4 day jolly with her mates!! School tried to contact her but she wasn't picking up. In the end they got hold of Dad who was working 100 miles away and he had to get back in time to collect them from school. He even rang me to see if I'd collect them just that once, and said that she was always doing things like that.
I saw her occasionally at school after that and she couldn't even make eye contact me!

Was she expecting you to not only do the after-school care but also have them overnight for 4 days? Despite barely knowing you and having none of their stuff? Not to mention nowhere for them to sleep!

Ishouldbeoutside · 08/04/2023 18:20

Sounds like they should have been in care. We’re you not tempted to ring SS?

AllAboutMargot · 08/04/2023 18:23

My SIL left her husband and we offered to put her up with her two dogs till she was on her feet.

She lived with us for a year - never once cooked or treated us to a meal, not even a bottle of wine!

She got a FT job without even checking if I would look after her dogs for her while she worked. They were old and incontinent and because she had them in her bedroom with her overnight, the whole house stunk every time she opened her door.

At Christmas she came in with baking tins and ingredients and made some mince pies. I thought - it's a nice thing to do - she wants to show her appreciation. Not at all - once they were cooked she packed them all up and took them with her to the house of a man she'd been seeing, to treat him to some of her home baking.

Ishouldbeoutside · 08/04/2023 18:30

The moral of the story is: ‘Don’t be a mug!!’

Cucumbersandwich75 · 08/04/2023 18:32

I would have told her to take a good look at the tap as that would be the last time she saw it. Jealous much.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 08/04/2023 18:53

Emotionalsupportviper · 08/04/2023 17:11

THREE AND A BIT TUBS!!!

I hope no villains are able to triangulate your address via this website. If I were you I'd get your post deleted asap.

Yes, yes - get them int a bank at once!

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Lurpak? What Lurpak? I thought you were talking about lard. Tubs & tubs of lard. I do a lot of frying.

whispers: ESV, will this do?

TinyKitty · 08/04/2023 18:56

Itsmebutnotme · 08/04/2023 11:46

Why the hate for Lurpak?

In my case it's because the spreadable version contains rapeseed oil and is not proper butter, the addition of oil makes it a spread. The block butter is butter but tastes inferior to better butter but if you melt it to make a caramel it is very greasy compared to some of the better ones.

President spreadable is made with butter and cream which tastes much nicer. President block butter tastes better than Lurpack.

I prefer to have less of a nice one than a lot of something like Lurpack or the Lidl copy.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 08/04/2023 19:00

A frenemy came to look at my new house, decades ago (ex-frenemy now). We went into the main bedroom, where the previous owners had painted pale blue on the walls & ceiling. It had two windows, looking out on treetops. Taken by surprise, she forgot to be a bitch. "Oh, how wonderful!" she exclaimed, "It's like being in the sky!". Then she collected herself & remembered to find something wrong: she pointed out that the carpet was a disgusting pattern. (It was.😂)

ifIwerenotanandroid · 08/04/2023 19:02

Oh , I have President block butter in the fridge as well as 😉lard. I'm gonna get raided, aren't I?

ifIwerenotanandroid · 08/04/2023 19:02

Oh !"£$$$%, I mean...

Emotionalsupportviper · 08/04/2023 19:02

Allergictoironing · 08/04/2023 17:43

For me the fact that she asked in the first place, knowing full well that cheekyffer was exceptionally ill, especially as her DC weren't the best behaved.

I read the last bit as she had had the dig about working mothers to cheekyffer's children while they were at a party. Plus the dig wasn't softening any blow at all - a) what "blow" to her DC that they weren't going to be babysat by a very ill neighbour, and b) how was saying that it's better for kids to have a working mother in any way "softening" anything? If she DID say it to cheekyffer's DC as I read it, why on earth would she say this unless intending to be nasty.

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I read the last bit as she had had the dig about working mothers to cheekyffer's children while they were at a party.

Ah - I misunderstood. I thought she was talking to her own children because they were upset she had to work.

Thank you.

Emotionalsupportviper · 08/04/2023 19:11

ifIwerenotanandroid · 08/04/2023 18:53

Lurpak? What Lurpak? I thought you were talking about lard. Tubs & tubs of lard. I do a lot of frying.

whispers: ESV, will this do?

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Yes - I think you got away with it.

LARD! OF COURSE YOU MEANT LARD! STUPID AUTOCARROT!

WHO WOULDN"T HAVE A YEAR'S SUPPLY OF LARD. I ALSO HAVE A YEAR'S SUPPLY OF LARD, AS ANYONE LOOKING AT THE SIZE OF MY *RSE CAN SEE AT A GLANCE. I LOVE LARD, ME.

That should do it Android

Emotionalsupportviper · 08/04/2023 19:13

ifIwerenotanandroid · 08/04/2023 19:02

Oh , I have President block butter in the fridge as well as 😉lard. I'm gonna get raided, aren't I?

Are those sirens 😦

ifIwerenotanandroid · 08/04/2023 19:17

Emotionalsupportviper · 08/04/2023 19:11

Yes - I think you got away with it.

LARD! OF COURSE YOU MEANT LARD! STUPID AUTOCARROT!

WHO WOULDN"T HAVE A YEAR'S SUPPLY OF LARD. I ALSO HAVE A YEAR'S SUPPLY OF LARD, AS ANYONE LOOKING AT THE SIZE OF MY *RSE CAN SEE AT A GLANCE. I LOVE LARD, ME.

That should do it Android

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Yep. High five, ESV!

Emotionalsupportviper · 08/04/2023 19:21

ifIwerenotanandroid · 08/04/2023 19:17

Yep. High five, ESV!

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hookiewookie29 · 08/04/2023 19:26

@EEnchentButteler
Goodness knows! I think she probably thought I'd hold on to them until their Dad got back much later in the evening! Social services would have been called by then!!

gettingolderbutcooler · 08/04/2023 19:55

@GoodChat
I have happily remortgaged the house for a family pack. Can't afford bread as well, of course, so I just lather it on to my tongue.