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Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 2023-04-06T17:28:52+00:00

Just that really...... Mine was a few years ago and I'm still [confused] whenever I think about it. My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway. We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency. When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise. When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day [confused] Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!! What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

TwitTwooTooYou · 07/04/2023 09:41

@SNWannabe they took my husband out for lunch leaving me with toddler, newborn and other older kids to fetch from school etc

tbf that just shows how awful your DH is. He should have said no, spoke to them about their extended stay and organised them, and himself, to help you.

ThisIsNotAmerican · 07/04/2023 09:44

Well now. Our CF visiting family are due at lunchtime and will be staying until Tuesday. Very close relatives and a full house so one of those times when we accommodate for the wider family peace.

Let me tell you on Tuesday how it went. If its anything like some previous visits all or any of the following could happen.

Taking my debit card out of my purse to go and buy some wine. No permission. Not even a discussion.

Taking some of that wine to go and visit an old school friend for a couple of hours who lives 5 miles away and then stopping overnight there (unplanned). Meanwhile we have to look after their kids. Very whingey kids.

Taking some curtains down on the day of departure to take home because it was mentioned that we might be replacing them soon.

Accidentally mixing my Christmas presents up with theirs and shoving them in their car boot as they packed to leave on 28th December.

"Borrowing" some cat food to take home in case they could not find a shop on the way home. Again, no discussion and no permission.

Suggesting, while not taking no for an answer, to pay their DH a salary for 18 months through our business so he could get a better mortgage. The suggestion was to pay £8k a month which they would save and return to us next year when the mortgage came through. Clearly the cat food pales into insignificance against that one.

KettrickenSmiled · 07/04/2023 09:45

He was a cunt anyway: a sneering, domineering, white supremacist. Probably steals people's bacon.

@GarlicGrace 😂😂😂

lovelypidgeon · 07/04/2023 09:47

Roussette · 06/04/2023 21:15

I had a friend/probably acquaintance more, she was broke and fed up, stupid me felt a bit sorry for her.
I paid for a holiday for her, us going together for a week abroad. She lived on the other side of the country so we were catching seperate flights (which I'd paid for) because she had no money (she said).

I met her at the airport (our flights arrived within an hour of each other). I'd paid for the car hire to get to the apartment. She'd bought hardly any euros with for the whole week, self catering, meals out, drinks.

What finally did it was when she was unpacking.... and she got out a bag with a skirt in it... and squealed... "do you like my skirt I bought at the airport? It was only £90!!"

I've never paid that much for a skirt myself, ever! She not a friend or an acquaintance any more! CF.

I've had a similar experience. An acquaintance (her DC were at school with mine) was bemoaning the fact that she couldn't afford to take her DC on holiday, even for a weekend away, as all her income went on rent and bills. Every time a group of us met up she said how upset she was that she'd not be able to take her DC anywhere or do anything interesting with them over the Summer. We knew that she had no family to support her etc and felt sorry for her. A friend arranged for her to have a week at a family member's static caravan on the coast, DH drove her there and back (which took a full day and £££ in petrol each time) and others clubbed together to give her vouchers for a nearby restaurant and visitor attraction (it was her birthday so they told her it was a birthday present). None of our group of friends were particularly well off. A couple of weeks after this holiday she took herself for a solo long-haul holiday whilst her DC were with their Dad, telling us all that she'd had to dip in to savings but she needed a bit of 'me time'.

QuertyGirl · 07/04/2023 09:49

@femfemlicious

She can feed her baby anywhere she dam well wants, particularly in her own home

lala2023 · 07/04/2023 09:56

@ThisIsNotAmerican well I am looking forward to the update but wish you well

BlossomOfOrange · 07/04/2023 10:02

Took some chocolate biscuits to a group play date years ago. Kids were poss 4 or 5 years and group of mums stayed. I knew one mum, host mum was new to me. When we all left host mum theatrically handed the biscuits back to me saying ‘we won’t eat them’, not for allergy reasons it turns out, and def with a strong tone of we don’t eat ‘junk’ reasons. Felt such shame at the time. Such a rude woman.

BlossomOfOrange · 07/04/2023 10:03

Sorry, that wasn’t my home, but in A home 🤷🏻‍♀️

cassandre · 07/04/2023 10:05

femfemlicious · 07/04/2023 08:29

He was rude but I really wouldn't be breastfeeding where a tradesman is working

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@femfemlicious Seriously? What a retrograde and unfeminist thing to say.

Where a mum chooses to breastfeed is up to her! And she was in her own home as another poster pointed out.

Sillybobkins · 07/04/2023 10:07

My DM and DF are comfortably well-off but take such advantage of anyone in any way they can. They put on a good front, and because they have no money worries, people seem to let them get away with it. One family in particular was milked so many times.

DM's good friend had 3 grandchildren studying at a uni in an expensive city. These grandchildren, who were self-supporting but poor, as students are, went home for the holidays and my parents asked to stay for free at this tiny student apartment. Upon leaving, my DM refused to replace anything they had used, toilet paper, food etc, would not clean or wash their bedding or leave money for electricity and water. The kids didn't make a fuss when they came home (respected old family friends, must have had wires crossed etc).

They did this a few times to various members of this family. They used a beach house and trashed it, then stayed at the daughter's house (owner of the beach house) for nearly a week and sat there, not helping with cooking, cleaning, did not buy food and waited to be entertained by this poor mum of 4 who had just had 20 guests for Christmas the week prior.

The only reason I know about any of these things is that DM boasted to me about it. I tried to tell this family but they just couldn't understand or accept it.

Now LC with my parents (similar behaviour towards us but we chucked em out)

Itakecreaminmycoffee · 07/04/2023 10:09

Teacoaster · 07/04/2023 00:01

An electrician brought a random woman round whilst doing a job at my house for a few days for some "fun" and at my expense (I was paying for his time). I wasn't home when this happened but I caught his behaviour on cameras I had installed around my property. I wrote about it on Mumsnet at the time and I was deemed the unreasonable one because I filmed his behaviour rather than calling him out straightaway and risk having no electricity to my house if he decided not to come back.

And yes, I called him out once the job had completed but I was still the one in the wrong because Mumsnet said I was.

Moral of the story, don't tell Mumsnet about cheeky fuckery 🙃

I remember this! Unbelievably cheeky!

femfemlicious · 07/04/2023 10:09

cassandre · 07/04/2023 10:05

@femfemlicious Seriously? What a retrograde and unfeminist thing to say.

Where a mum chooses to breastfeed is up to her! And she was in her own home as another poster pointed out.

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I'm allowed to have my own opinion. I would not breastfeed in front of a tradesman if I can breastfeed elsewhere!.

Zebracat · 07/04/2023 10:10

Mine was friends who moved abroad. They live cheaply and well in a country with issues with poverty and oppression, but good weather. They came back for a visit and were staying with relatives in my town. It isn’t the nicest town, but they were so rude , without any thought that they were accepting hospitality, they ripped the town apart and were quite clear that only idiots would live here.
They then went to house sit for friends in a nearby “better town” and asked me round for coffee. One was complaining that the house was dirty and boil washing some soiled pants she’d found in the hosts bedroom. I usually don’t understand MN outrage when someone tidies or whatever, but that was definitely a step too far. We aren’t friends anymore.

femfemlicious · 07/04/2023 10:11

QuertyGirl · 07/04/2023 09:49

@femfemlicious

She can feed her baby anywhere she dam well wants, particularly in her own home

Girl power!🙌🏾...do you!

custardbear · 07/04/2023 10:11

Teacoaster · 07/04/2023 00:01

An electrician brought a random woman round whilst doing a job at my house for a few days for some "fun" and at my expense (I was paying for his time). I wasn't home when this happened but I caught his behaviour on cameras I had installed around my property. I wrote about it on Mumsnet at the time and I was deemed the unreasonable one because I filmed his behaviour rather than calling him out straightaway and risk having no electricity to my house if he decided not to come back.

And yes, I called him out once the job had completed but I was still the one in the wrong because Mumsnet said I was.

Moral of the story, don't tell Mumsnet about cheeky fuckery 🙃

I remember this!! It was sooo cheeky!! Sorry people thought you were BU but they were absolutely outrageous!

Snoopsnoggysnog · 07/04/2023 10:11

RheneasAndSkarloey · 06/04/2023 19:44

My MIL was babysitting once shortly before Christmas. We had been sent a lovely John Lewis hamper by a relative (not MIL). While we were out (all of 3 hours) MIL fancied some chocolate, opened our untouched Christmas hamper, dug through it to find chocolates, opened the box, and ate them.

I was horrified, I tell you. Horrified.

She was at your house for 3 hours babysitting did you not leave her any food?

some people on this thread are just coming across as mean and petty.

cassandre · 07/04/2023 10:12

@femfemlicious, the point is that she was entirely within her rights to breastfeed and the tradesman was completely out of line in asking her to stop!

ElsieMc · 07/04/2023 10:14

We had neighbours who were pretty well off, he a senior staff member at the local secondary and she was Principal of the local college. He used to knock on our door to "borrow" a selection of goodies such as orange juice, eggs, milk etc. We never got them back. She needed to "borrow" a dress for her dd to go to a birthday party in. She came and picked one of my dd's from Next. Never saw that again either. She then asked me to "give" her my dd's brownie uniform as she had moved on but I ignored her on this occasion. Worst of all was her asking my friend for her dd's ballet outfit because she no longer attended. Because she had cancer. I won't tell you what her response was, but it was one well overdue.

Our ndn's son was a violent, abusive child who my dh caught throwing bricks at some of the younger kids locally. She sided with our ndn and then cold shouldered us. What a sad loss that was.

custardbear · 07/04/2023 10:23

Ex-friend was coming over for NYE as me and DH were staying home as young baby. She then asked if her friends could come too (we didn't know them) and we could make a Nice evening. I said ok I'll do some food and host if they could bring some drinks. Friend turned up with friends and they brought a bottle of vodka. The couple were very nice, left the next day and left what was left of the vodka, even though I'd told them to take it, they said oh no keep it, thanks for food and hosting etc ... off they all went. 'Friend' turned up later asking for the vodka for herself as they were her friends and she wanted it ... she was a massive CF about loads of different things, mostly about money or stuff she wanted from people

Antiquiteas · 07/04/2023 10:37

femfemlicious · 07/04/2023 10:11

Girl power!🙌🏾...do you!

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Interesting choice of name for a poster who holds backwards views about women such as these.

Littlemissprosecco · 07/04/2023 10:43

Mil came back from a trip once and announced, “I’ve brought you my laundry” as she dumped a large bag of clothes on my hallway floor!

custardbear · 07/04/2023 10:43

@SkyandSurf - you've not watched The Night Agent then 😱

sueelleker · 07/04/2023 10:47

lala2023 · 07/04/2023 09:56

@ThisIsNotAmerican well I am looking forward to the update but wish you well

To start with, keep your debit card with you at all times.

MissMarplesbag · 07/04/2023 10:48