Page 11 | What is the most CF behaviour someone has shown when visiting your home?

Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 2023-04-06T17:28:52+00:00

Just that really...... Mine was a few years ago and I'm still [confused] whenever I think about it. My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway. We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency. When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise. When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day [confused] Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!! What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

SkyandSurf · 07/04/2023 08:02

nicetoseetgesunsout · 07/04/2023 07:33

Elderly woman I'd never met knocked my door and asked to have a look around my house as she'd lived in when she was a student nurse about 50yrs before.
I thought it was a bit cheeky but also quite sweet.
I did let her in and show her around... it was actually interesting as she explained to me that the house had been completely reconfigured since she lived in it as it had been a HMO for student nurses.
Cheeky? Im not sure but I wouldn't do that as I'd feel that it was.

Oh I'd think that was lovely if someone did that to me. I don't think that's cheeky at all. If you weren't comfortable you could have said no.

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Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 07/04/2023 08:02

Cherryblossomtreesforever · 07/04/2023 07:26

I think I had the same "friend" as you, OP! 😩

Only if you live in a south coast, visitor resort town 😂😂

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WobblyInvertebrate · 07/04/2023 08:03

Somebodiesmother · 06/04/2023 19:00

Some of you need to grow backbones.

That would be nice. I'd like that.

Can you give me some tips on how I do that?

DidleyDogO · 07/04/2023 08:05

NC for this as it’s quite outing. Old school mum friend was invited over with family for a party. 10 adults and 10 kids. Each families provided one course, stater, main for adults, spag bol for kids, dessert and CF asked to bring cheese. CF was an awful cook and amazingly tight so I guessed she’d be safe given cheese. She asked exactly what to bring so I suggested she being a few different cheeses and some posh crackers, enough for 10 adults. I really wasn’t surprised when she arrived and the 2 boxes or crackers had already been opened and some taken out. (Surely now there’s not actually enough crackers for 10 adults.). CF got very, very drunk so she and her family left after dessert. Kids were all coated and booted in the hallway saying goodbye when I saw CF hubby nip back into the kitchen and stuff the cheese into his pockets. They’d eaten everyone else’s contributions and taken the cheese home with them! Next day, out with a friend (who is the most generous person and amazing cook), we we’re having a good giggle about CF cheese incident, when CF text me and asked for the crackers back as we’d not eaten them with the cheese. Needless to say for the next few years, whenever we had gatherings, she was always asked to bring cheese.

femfemlicious · 07/04/2023 08:07

scoobydoo1971 · 06/04/2023 20:26

I broke my toes, and that led to OI brittle bones diagnosis. I was left with fractures that would not heal and still won't heal, and it was painful to sleep so lots of tossing and turning. Then boyfriend had an early work shift so I suggested he go back to his own home to get some rest as I was disturbing his sleep, and could not stay still. He protested about it but got up around 2am to pack up his stuff. Then went to my kitchen where he started loudly banging cupboards. I struggled to get up on crutches and hop towards kitchen to tell him to be quiet as he was in danger of waking my children. Found him emptying my kids snack cupboard (crisps, sweets, chocolate etc) into his bag. Around £40-50 in value as I had just restocked it. He thought it totally acceptable to relocate lots of food to his flat, and without asking. He wasn't even embarrassed when he got caught, and stomped off in a huff having been made to put it all back. I guess he thought I wouldn't notice food missing given my bed bound condition, and would blame the kids for eating too much. He was dumped in the week that followed. What a loser he was!

People are just horrible...its scary 😨

dew141 · 07/04/2023 08:08

My late grandmother was an insufferable snob who everyone had to tiptoe around. She didn't like the name my parents gave me so called me Jennifer for a YEAR.

My name begins with a J but otherwise totally different. I can't believe my parents put up with it.

Divisionoflabour89 · 07/04/2023 08:10

DidleyDogO · 07/04/2023 08:05

NC for this as it’s quite outing. Old school mum friend was invited over with family for a party. 10 adults and 10 kids. Each families provided one course, stater, main for adults, spag bol for kids, dessert and CF asked to bring cheese. CF was an awful cook and amazingly tight so I guessed she’d be safe given cheese. She asked exactly what to bring so I suggested she being a few different cheeses and some posh crackers, enough for 10 adults. I really wasn’t surprised when she arrived and the 2 boxes or crackers had already been opened and some taken out. (Surely now there’s not actually enough crackers for 10 adults.). CF got very, very drunk so she and her family left after dessert. Kids were all coated and booted in the hallway saying goodbye when I saw CF hubby nip back into the kitchen and stuff the cheese into his pockets. They’d eaten everyone else’s contributions and taken the cheese home with them! Next day, out with a friend (who is the most generous person and amazing cook), we we’re having a good giggle about CF cheese incident, when CF text me and asked for the crackers back as we’d not eaten them with the cheese. Needless to say for the next few years, whenever we had gatherings, she was always asked to bring cheese.

Dear God, the meanness of some people is astounding isn’t it? 😮😀. And it’s usually the people who can afford to be a bit generous too!

Deedippy · 07/04/2023 08:12

There was a thread last year which was the worse CF behaviour ever. Basically ops husband distant family had decided to stay as they lived in a popular beach side town. They contributed nothing, ate all their food, drank all their drink and didn't lift a finger and didn't seem to be leaving. With the encouragement of other mumsnet posters she went out and got some steaks and then gave them the receipt and called it their last night meal or something along those lines. Was the best thread I have ever watched unfold on my! Should be in classics if it's not

IAteAllTheTomatoes · 07/04/2023 08:14

I live in a built up area in a city where neighbours only really know each other to see.

During early lock down I was walking down to the shops when an elderly lady sitting in her garden calls me over & ask if I was going to the shops and could I pick up a few things for her as if she went "she might catch covid and could be dead in the morning".

Anyway, because it was early covid & she appeared sincere & genuinely worried, I said ok, she hands me a list & off I go. Total shop €98 (including for cigarettes). When I return she asks me for the receipt and then asks me if she gives me a €100 do I have the €2 change. I had no cash on me so said I would call on the way back with the €2. When I return she's gone inside & doesn't answer.

Every time I see her afterwards afterwards she has an excuse and it's "dear, if I had know you would be passing I would have had your money ready etc".

I write off the €98.

Months later, I'm passing and she's outside again with her son. He says hello, we get chatting and he asks if I ever did her shopping her. I said yes, and he just says "how much does she owe you & immediately takes out his wallet?"

Embarrassed, I just say ah it's ok and he said "no I want to pay, she's got half the street to get her free shopping".

As he hands me the money this "sweet" old lady starts shouting "she's another scammer, she got her money, they are all just robbing you"

Rumour has it she had blagged over €1k in free shopping, until the son paid back anything he found out about. Her husband died years ago & the family business was sold, she's worth millions.

Emotionalsupportviper · 07/04/2023 08:15

ThisIsWednesday · 06/04/2023 19:36

This is far beyond CFery but does fit the bad guest category.

A few years ago my friend and I brought two male friends back to mine for drinks after the club. (Just drinks!) and a lad we didn't know jumped in with them. From the moment we got back and I'd handed out the beers, he got into a big discussion about British women's lack of religion and morals, calling women of my race whores who sleep around and have no respect, how they aren't modest and walk around with their tits out etc. When he eventually got up to use the loo we told our friends to get him the hell out. Confusion ensued. He wasn't their friend and they had assumed he was ours. Nope. Just a rando following a group and getting free drinks! He came back into the room, got another beer and made a rude comment about my pet fish (a 15 year old beloved goldfish!).

The lad was immediately escorted out by our two friends and the interloper spewed racist insults as he was shoved outside. Then we found my fish was dying. The shithead had poured bathroom bleach into the tank.

I heard that he tripped and fell a few times that night though. I assume he didn't realise that our male friends were in fact, the local gypsies and quite enjoyed tripping people up on occasion. 🤷‍♂️

This is heartbreaking.

I have fish - both tropical, and coldwater goldfish - and they are real little characters. People who say "It's just a fish." have no idea what they are talking about. They are living, breathing, feeling creatures and a lot more intelligent and aware than most people realise. Many of mine are very tame and will take food from my hand.

It breaks my heart to think how your poor fish must have suffered.

I hope that vile man "fell over" a lot!

(Just as a matter of interest, what culture was he from? Often the ones who don't like female autonomy are also anti-alcohol, but he obviously wasn't)

frustratednomad · 07/04/2023 08:18

When we lived in a very desirable holiday location a couple asked if they could come and stay for a week with their three children. They arrived empty handed, we took them out every day, fed them all three meals a day except for one evening when the couple went out for a meal leaving us to look after the children. On their last day I had to go to work but told them to help themselves to breakfast before they left, they did a full fry up, using a full pack of bacon and pack of eggs, didn't even ask my DH if he wanted any as he was upstairs working from home, they even ruined my best frying pan. Didn't even leave us a bottle of wine as thanks for their stay.

GoodChat · 07/04/2023 08:19

Rumour has it she had blagged over €1k in free shopping, until the son paid back anything he found out about. Her husband died years ago & the family business was sold, she's worth millions.

And this, I guess, is how the rich stay rich!

femfemlicious · 07/04/2023 08:23

Charlottewebsbabies · 06/04/2023 20:30

She's a narc

It's hard to explain but she has a way of telling a story that paints her as the victim-and people believe her

She's also tighter than a ducks arse-she'll buy herself the nice posh stuff but my poor long suffering dad has to have the cheap,reduced stuff-she'll think nothing of buying herself the bloody posh bacon for example but dad ends up with the cheap,nasty,reduced for quick sale soap

Honestly,I thought I was going mad-id buy stuff and it wouldn't be there two days later

The kids swore it wasn't them but nobody (I thought) had been in the house-I still feel guilty for accusing them,they are very forgiving which I don't deserve

I never did get the money or the stuff back-my narc apple-didn't-fall-far-from-the-tree brother had the neck to ring me to abuse me for not supplying his shower gel anymore-he had to buy his own as I'd cut his supply off!

He was also pissed that he had to start buying his own treats as I stopped her from nicking them

This is a man with a very well paying job,sponging from a single mum

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WOW! 😱...I just don't understand people reason....sometimes I just wish I could move toa deserted island because people are so hard to deal with. They band together and take such unreasonable stances that you wonder if you are the one who is crazy😰

IAteAllTheTomatoes · 07/04/2023 08:23

@GoodChat totally, she has the massive detached corner house at the end of the street where everyone else is in apartments or terraced houses!

I'm normally a good read of character but was genuinely shocked to be scammed. She seemed so sincere.

femfemlicious · 07/04/2023 08:29

Internationalwomendayheadquarters · 06/04/2023 20:35

A tradesman once came to our house to do some work. I was breastfeeding in the corner (and on my own). He told me that it was utterly disgusting and ‘you’re not going to do that in here, are you?’. I was a first time mum home alone and I felt very vulnerable.

I really wish I had given him an earful and told him to fuck off. Instead, I meekly smiled, took myself to a different part of the house and paid him in full. I still feel angry about it now.

He was rude but I really wouldn't be breastfeeding where a tradesman is working

Starlitestarbright · 07/04/2023 08:39

PauliesWalnuts you dont sound like a good host, part of Christmas is eating the leftovers family should be able to help themselves to drinks and leftover food.I purposely put it out for them. The lack of lamb is on your own part for not getting a big enough joint. I don't think its comparable to ops story.

custardbear · 07/04/2023 08:49

Someone I used to consider a
Friend, we were all in the same boat, students and using loans, small jobs to get by.
When we used to go out for food etc, all friends and friends/housemates of hers too, we would pay cash generally (back in the day) and she'd put the remainder on her credit card to 'pay her share' except we all used to put in a small tip ... she snaffled that into her 'payment'. Took a while to realise what she was up to!
Same 'friend' years later has form for being a bit of a bully to people she'd section out, it became my turn and I felt the cold shoulder of sone of her friends from her home when she got married/hen do etc. I didn't see her often and kind of just though I'd just not really bother with her any more. One day I got a phone call at work and she said 'fancy a coffee I'm on site' so I met her, she proceeded to pump info out of me regarding my work colleagues (whom she could contact as possible clients) and left saying oh let me know when you're free and we'll take the kids out .... I tried a few times to suggest dates and yep, never got back to me.
I've not bothered with her for a few years now ... there were more incidents but these stand out more than others at the moment

pontipinemum · 07/04/2023 08:54

At my dads funeral someone stole a bottle of vodka. The afters of the funeral was at our house and because it was summer many people were outside. She came, eat food, then stole a full bottle of vodka!

We didn't know no one knew her until later, obviously we were all grieving and I have an enormous family like huge so we all just presumed she was with someone else.

My aunt also insisted in smoking inside our house. My mum hated smoking but she was out. I said you can't smoke in here. She said your dad would let me and continued to do so. I was only 19, I think I'd stand my ground better now

Moxysright · 07/04/2023 08:56

We have family members who have no qualms telling us what jobs still need doing on our home etc. I’d never dream walking into someone’s house and saying have you not painted that door yet it looks terrible etc. Recently had a big job done on our kitchen it had needed doing for ages but we hadn’t got round to it for numerous reasons. Family member relished in pointing this out every visit. We finally had it done kitchen looks a thousand times better and all they said when they visited to see was you’ve made the room look smaller. Now if that doesn’t scream jealousy I don’t know what does!!!!

CatherinedeBourgh · 07/04/2023 09:18

GoodChat · 07/04/2023 08:19

Rumour has it she had blagged over €1k in free shopping, until the son paid back anything he found out about. Her husband died years ago & the family business was sold, she's worth millions.

And this, I guess, is how the rich stay rich!

Actually it sounds to me like she had dementia, and her family were well aware of it.

MissMaple82 · 07/04/2023 09:28

Eggseggseverywhere · 06/04/2023 18:46

When I gave birth and mil visited me she handed over an absolutely huge box of gifts... All beautifully wrapped and very lovely..
Stood taking my praise and thanks. Then fil walked in and asked if the gifts from mil's BOSS were nice...
To this day I am sure she would have continued to pass them off as from her if he hadn't appeared...
I had never even met her boss for the record...

Maybe that was a joke? Why would her boss give you a huge box of gifts?

AFriendCalledFour · 07/04/2023 09:29

Red0 · 06/04/2023 22:40

‘Best friend’ used to call me while I was on maternity leave to ask me to do random things as I was “doing nothing”. Example 1: calling the RSPCA to tell them she’d seen a dead cat at the side of the motorway. Example 2: going through her social media to delete all traces of her ex

Why did she think it would be a good idea to call the RSPCA about an already dead cat?

bluedomino · 07/04/2023 09:35

Many many years ago I shared a house with a friend. I became very ill and had to move home for my parents to look after me. When I had recovered slightly my brother took me to my house to pick up some clothes and in walked my flatmate dressed head to toe in my gym gear, including my socks, sports bra and trainers! She was holding my kitbag with my swimming towel, my costume (both wet) and goggles. I went to get my clothes only to find she had been wearing all of them, everything needed washing and was stretched as she was bigger than me. She'd been sleeping in my bed, wearing my jewellery and driving my car. When I returned she tried hard to take my boyfriend too. He refused to come over as she scared him witless. Her skin was thicker than a rhino so everything just rolled off her, including the word "NO".

Strawberrydelight78 · 07/04/2023 09:36

She probably didn't want you discussing such serious stuff in front of her child. I wouldn't be happy.

liverpoolgal82 · 07/04/2023 09:40

BabbaBooPuffinsRock
Long term friend OP wrote, not a stranger.