Autistic women assemble!

[Nepmarthiturn]

...only if and when you're not feeling antisocial and want the entire world to +%$¥ off, or course. 😉😆

A few of us were talking on another thread and thought it would be nice to have a support/ chat thread on here to share interests/ challenges/ parenting issues or whatever we feel like. A little community of autistic women on here that we can dip in and out of but will be supportive and friendly and people who actually get it.

Might also be a nice counterbalance to all of the horrific posts about autism that we find here so regularly!!

P.S. Have deliberately posted this in chat rather than in the ND Mumsnetters topic because it will hopefully reach more people who would like to join in. I didn't even realise that section existed for a long time and often miss threads there as they don't show in active and expect I'm not alone in that. However, in posting this here, we will be relying on the people with obnoxious and ignorant views about autism who so regularly post on Mumsnet, to demonstrate to us their allegedly superior empathy (ha!) and please just leave this thread alone: it's not for you. Many thanks!!

It seems to hqve put my son (6) in a coma! He's gone to bed for a nap. 😆

Funny you should say that, my DD (14) has slept most of the day today, I didn't think it was that boring She's overloaded with the stress of the repairs to the house too I think, hope it's that anyway she's had virus after virus this winter so praying it's not another cold.

Hoping to get over to see PIL tomorrow but depends how DD is, had a lazy one today watching the football on tv with DH which is just what I needed, feel like I've come back to life a bit tonight.

Both my children were yawning through it! I'm not a royalist but quite enjoyed it.

I absolutely loved the coronation - we had it on all day. I generally enjoy all the pomp and circumstance, and even watch trooping the colour every year. My mum is ex-RAF though, so it was always on when I was a child. I think it's a sort of comfort viewing for me because I always watched it with her. We were messaging each other back and forth all day yesterday.

We've been bowling this morning (which DS1 absolutely loves). It's usually really quiet on a Sunday morning, but today we had the whole place to ourselves - it was great! DH and I have just built a new picnic bench/table in the garden, which was not helped by the instructions having obviously been put through several layers of Google translate. I had planned on tackling a bit more of the weeding, but my mental energy is gone.

I didn't watch the coronation at all, I don't feel strongly either way about the royals, I did watch some of the queen's funeral and I did feel a bit teary when her death was announced, think it was more the end of an era than actually mourning her loss.

I'm so exhausted today, even physically I feel like I've run a marathon and at first I couldn't work out why, what was so different this week. The only thing I can figure is that it was all the social interaction yesterday, I had a check-up at the dentist (so chatting to him) and DD came along as she'd finished her lessons for the day. We went shopping around the town after and ended up in a little quirky shop that sells all manner of things. DD had to look at everything, every tiny little ornament, touch everything and had to smell all the shower gels/bath bombs so we were in there for ages. There was one smell in particular that was really pleasant in the shop and I couldn't figure out where it was coming from (because whatever it was I would have bought it) so I ended up smelling far too much stuff (some made me retch as it was so strong/unpleasant to me).

Anyway, the shop owners started talking to us, asking how our bank holiday was and did we watch the coronation and on and on the questions/conversation went until DD had finally selected some stuff to buy(20 minutes later). I thought I was okay at the time but once we got home (after going into a dozen other shops including doing a big food shop) I felt really tired and struggled to get much done and had to have an early night. So I'm guessing it was just too much, the combination of the unwanted and what seemed relentless chatter with the shop owner, the multiple smells and multiple shops has just drained me.

I've woken up today feeling awful, all my muscles ache and I just feel so tired, I really struggled walking the dogs this morning and am having to just have a rest day so no coding(my brain won't absorb information when I feel like this). I managed the hoovering, cat litter, washing machine, cooked some pasta for lunch later and a dozen emails (as usual all to do with DD) and I'm wiped. I could easily go back to bed and not get up until tomorrow, I won't though will just have to push through it and get a few more little admin and household jobs done before collapsing about 6 (and probably having another early night).

How is everyone else?

Much the same as you tbh camelCase, wiped out by a succession of workmen having to be here over the last 10 days (not every day, thank god) and having to make polite conversation, it exhausting isn't it?! The last one was here this morning and I'm so glad it's over now, I feel utterly drained by all the interaction plus having strangers in my home which I hate.

The whole house needs a good clean now though and I won't relax til it's done so I need to find some energy from somewhere. It sounds ridiculous but I can smell that strangers have been here, the guy who fitted the boiler last week smelled dirty/sweaty and I could smell him for about 3 days after, today's bloke smelled very strongly of fabric conditioner and I know I will still be catching a whiff of it for days to come. I find it weirdly intrusive, maybe just because it's in my home so hopefully a good clean will help! Hope you manage to find a bit of recharge time, think I'll join you in having an early night, I could happily go now

Hey everyone, just popped in to let you know moving day is tomorrow and it's really freaking me out.
I can't handle not having my things around me.
Thankfully, I set myself 8 weeks to pack and I've done it!
I don't like the fact I don't know what my bills will be and the thought of having to find and locate doctors, shops etc.

That said I am proud of how well I've been managing it all.
I haven't had time to catch up on the thread but I really hope that you are all doing ok.

Did that poster complete their marathon?
Any more good pictures - I did see your garden pics and gorgeous!!!
How did the interview go? I'm another one who gets overloaded by make up. One of my niece's does make up for a living and keeps on at me but I run and hide 🤣
I will try and pop back at some point over the weekend but it will depend on if I need to shutdown for a couple of days.
One box had to be dragged out because I had packed one of my grounding items in it and it was getting too much. I'm popping it in my handbag for tomorrow - I know I'm going to need it.
DP has been amazing and tomorrow morning,he has arranged for my friend (sister) to pick me up (with Dobby) and for us to go straight to the new house - "I will be dealing with the movers" was what he told me and my friend is staying with me all day.
I will be ok won't it?
Please, please send me positive thoughts tomorrow. But don't send them if you need them.
💕💕💕🍀🍀🍀

<<whispers>>

Helllooooo - can I join in please?

Awaiting assessment outcome but the writings on the wall I'm wall-flowering against !

Im Owl 🦉😊

Hello Owl

Hello people!

I have been quite ill so not around for a long time but hope everyone is ok.

Thread seems to have gone a bit dead. Will post some flower spam from before all the tulips died in the hope it makes some people come back. 🤣

Garden looks rubbish now as between spring and summer plants.

Half term nearly killed me.

How is everyone else doing?

Final tulips!

And now finally - so very late - a couple of peonies opening.

Hello Owl. I hope you've had an answer by now?

How was your move @Dobbyatemysocks ?

@Nepmarthiturn

Hello

Thank you for the tag.
I've now how the autism diagnosis.
Makes so much sense but I don't really want to tell anyone due to misunderstanding about it. I need to be clearer in my mind before I share I think.

@OwlsRock that makes total sense. It is a lot to process, sets everything in your life to date in a different light. It's wise (like an owl! 🦉) to take some time before you share it I think. No rush after all of these years!

Just waving hello. Nothing to say, as usual.

Hello @StopStartStop !

Glad some peeps are still here. 😊

I'm still here!
Being told off as usual.

Saying the wrong thing..........

Sorry, didn't mean that to sound like a telling off! 🫣😆 Just glad the thread isn't completely dead.

Can't win can you when you get told off for saying nothing. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ Sorry!! Not meant that way at all. 😊

How has life been treating you @TheShellBeach ?

Oh Lord! I didn't mean you!

It was on another thread yesterday.

Just guess to show that nobody understands us!
Even ourselves, IYSWIM.

It was on another thread yesterday.

Uurgh. Other threads suck. (Generally 😆)

I absolutely do!

It always makes me laugh that allegedly we are the ones with communication issues when other people seem to be incapable of actually understanding the words written in a sentence to mean what they mean per the dictionary, rather than projecting their tendency to say something different to what they mean onto us and reading non-existent subtext into what we say when we have literally said exactly what we mean, no more or less.

Bunch of weirdos frankly. 🤣