Mumsnet “norms” that annoy you most

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For me it’s the utterly obscure baby names. We’ve all seen them and I’m quite sure nobody uses them in real life. Yet on MN, it’s apparently standard.

Honourable mention to the 50% of posters whose husbands are earning upwards of £100K too.

Yes! Like it’s a whole day’s activity. It’s 10 minutes tops.

I agree. I love my MIL.

or you are 'overthinking'. Better to think than be a sheep/ be gullible/not think....🤐

Too busy working to post on Mumsnet.

Posters who go back through other people’s posting history and then gleefully return to the thread to say ‘but in 2014 you said XXX’. Oh ffs, what a saddo 🤦‍♀️ 🤦‍♀️

The posters who just answer the same question over and over again. So the OP had asked something like ‘who’s the prime minister?’ And there’s only one possible answer, yet you get 25 pages of people telling you the same thing 🥱 🥱

People who just want everyone to tell them that it’s OK to do whatever stupid thing they’ve done so they feel better about it E.g. ‘I let my 3 year old play with matches and he burned down MIL’s shed. She thinks i’m being unreasonable but boys will be boys, right?’ Then they
come up with all these responses when things aren’t going their way before storming off in a huff!

I love the mysterious ‘hobby’ mentions. Every time, I picture a man in a sort of scruffy flasher mac hunched over some stamp collecting albums.

Not for everyone. I was born in the late 60s so brought up in the 70s and 80s and this wasn't the case for my childhood. With the exception of having more freedom which was bloody awesome.

Being greedy or entitled to expect your siblings to remember your child's birthday.

Or to expect a card and bag of Haribo from kids coming to a party.

Parents in law being unreasonable for wanting to pop in to meet a new grandchild in the first month of their life.

It’s gaslighting
They are a narcissist

The baby names forum drives me round the bend.
The use of the word "chavvy" in particular.

When someone posts that they have significant mental health problems and the response is something like: have you spoken to your GP about this? Or have you considered counselling? As if they wouldn't have already tried those things multiple times and the waiting lists aren't ridiculous.

Telling women in abusive relationships to just leave like it's that simple - but then piling on the same women when they ask for financial advice because nobody should be on benefits. (In other words, financial abuse doesn't exist, and you only deserve to leave an abusive relationship if you see financially independent- otherwise your worthless).

Telling people to just get a better job or just retrain, or move to a cheaper area when they have money problems.

The medical threads where there are either people telling parents of poorly children that they are neglectful and should be forcing doctors to perform to carry tests that don't even exist - or questioning the child's need to even be in hospital.

Posters who have multiple children, yet never ever put the baby down from the breast and leave it to cry for a single second!

The inability to see our own flaws as wives/partners/mothers.

The comment 'I am a good mother' really irritates me .. how do you know you are good mother? Surely the only person that can answer that is your own DC?

The double standards ... 'my DH doesn't want to have sex with me ..'. LTB, you have needs blah blah. From the DH 'my wife doesn't want to have sex with me' ... you are a sex pest, are you doing enough housework ?

BTW ... I am a shop worker .... off to work now !

DD is 4, she's lost her school jumper with no name in it, AIBU to think the teacher should be sacked?

YANBU and report the school to ofsted.

True haha 🤣

The baby name board is ridiculous. Can’t use a normal name because the absolute horror that there might be another kid in the class with that name and it’s cruel on the child and they’ll never forgive you. So better use Cassius or Persephone instead.

I also hate the threads where posters encourage other to basically have an eating disorder because no one needs more than 800 calories a day.

😂

Oh. This again.

Hate to break it to those superscilliously viewing the site as a haven of weird people with weird views - akin with 'it's not me it's them' - but Mumsnet IS IRL. Anonymous screen handles we might have, but you are a Mumsnetter. I'm a Mumsnetter. We are real people from all walks of life.

You don't always agree with all your colleagues, friends, families. A bunch of strangers online are hardly going to be any different.

Any name that is more popular amongst working-class parents than middle-class ones will be labelled as ‘dreadful’, ‘awful’, ‘chavvy’ for that sole reason

So many wedding threads. No children wedding but breastfed baby is apparently not a child somehow. Can't get childcare, can't afford a hotel, wedding is in the middle of fucking nowhere and we don't drive.

Here's an idea! Just don't fucking go!

Expecting people struggling financially to work days and evenings and weekends. Family time/rest is for the rich, yknow?

Everyone seems to live in zone 1 London, or “rurally”.

Working in a shop is seen as an easy little job. I work in a supermarket and I can assure you it's far from easy. It's relentless, physically demanding and quite often stressful.

Actually, as a SALT - this one is pretty damned valid because it's the first thing you're going to be asked if you're trying to get on the speech therapy waiting list, it's the first thing you're going to be asked if you're trying to get a referral for neurodevelopmental assessments and it's something you can self-refer for and get that step out of the way while you're getting other ducks organised into a straight line elsewhere.

Plus if your concern is that your child's not responding to their name - pretty obvious move is to check if they can hear it!

‘HaVe YoU bEeN sNifFiNg GlUe?’

I can’t stand it.