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My child’s school have changed the name of Mother’s Day to special persons day, what do you think?

597 replies

Rainbow03 · 17/03/2023 11:50

Have we gone mad or is this appropriate?

OP posts:
Train007 · 17/03/2023 15:07

NannyElle · 17/03/2023 11:56

I would assume they have done it to include those who don't have a mother in their life for one reason or other. Don't see why it's a big deal really or why posters need to jump on it as a pro trans thing

This .

AllOfThemWitches · 17/03/2023 15:07

TonTonMacoute · 17/03/2023 14:33

Perfectly put! It's yet more erasing of a special role that women have in our society.

It's one primary school for fuck's sake. Grow up.

NumberTheory · 17/03/2023 15:11

WherezMyRulebook · 17/03/2023 14:59

What why?

I guess it's just to be inclusive to kids who don't live with their mums but are maybe in foster care. I don't think there's anything wrong that. As a mum I'm not so insecure that I can't share mother's day.

Kids who don’t live with their mum don’t necessarily have a special person instead. So it doesn’t cover every one.

Schools really don’t need to be covering it in this way at all. A short assembly on how the day came about might be appropriate some years. Activities and getting involved in having kids make cards and the like is inappropriate.

Schools are forever complaining (fairly) about how much stuff they have to cover on the National Curriculum and how few resources they have, this would be a great opportunity to for them to cut back.

LaviniasBigBloomers · 17/03/2023 15:15

This thread is wild!

Those of you 'teaching your children to be robust' are frankly talking out of your arse. There is NO level of robustness that prepares a child for the loss of a loved parent. Dear god.

LittleFingerStrength · 17/03/2023 15:19

Halfanorphan · 17/03/2023 14:40

I was in infant school when my dad died. It was six weeks before Fathers Day.

I had to make a card with everyone else and was told to make it for my granddad or an uncle. Both my granddads were dead and I had no real relationship with my uncles. I was so upset and crying but being a good child I made a card but put it in the bin on the way home because I didn’t want to upset my mother.

This is why I don’t feel it’s gone too far. I don’t even think it’s something schools should do.

I am so sorry that happened to you, proves how cruel teachers can be.

They do it now this way because it suits the political agenda of activist Teachers trying to control social norms, they will manipulate anything, as it clearly works. The agenda is to eradicate family, traditions and history.

They want to throw everything out with the bathwater and start again, conserve nothing, they deem your children as theirs - to promote their world views - that is why they call you breeders!

thirdfiddle · 17/03/2023 15:20

I think it's possible to call it mothers day and celebrate mothers while still handling it sensitively for those that don't have/live with their mum. Class teachers would know if they have any such in their class and can phrase the instructions accordingly.

LittleFingerStrength · 17/03/2023 15:20

Comedycook · 17/03/2023 14:50

It sometimes seems the opposite of woke is 'cunt

Exactly

I suggest the opposite of woke is being an adult who thinks things through and realises that life is complex. Woke is basic thinking, if though is applied at all.

ArmWrestlingWithChasNDave · 17/03/2023 15:20

You have to be a special kind of cunt to object to something designed to be kind to children who've lost their mum.

Zoopet · 17/03/2023 15:21

ZombiesForever · 17/03/2023 13:32

@Startingagainn Too many people do not really give a shit about other children, only their own child.

This.
When I was teaching, a young brother and sister lost their mother to cancer as Mother's Day was coming up.
As a staff we decided not to make Mother's Day cards as it was so recent a loss.
The children were fine with it but some parents complained.....

Nimbostratus100 · 17/03/2023 15:22

Zipps · 17/03/2023 11:55

I actually agree on this one. It stops kids living in foster families, in care, with grandparents or with two dads not feeling left out. Not everyone has a wonderful loving mother either.

why shouldn't people be left out when something doesn't apply to them? Not everything is for everyone.

My hatred of mothers day started when some stupid idiot with no sense tried to include infertile women as someone who should be thought of on mothers day. Stupid fool. Thirty years later and two sons, in the end, and I still feel rage at this imbecilic comment

ilovesooty · 17/03/2023 15:22

LittleFingerStrength · 17/03/2023 15:19

I am so sorry that happened to you, proves how cruel teachers can be.

They do it now this way because it suits the political agenda of activist Teachers trying to control social norms, they will manipulate anything, as it clearly works. The agenda is to eradicate family, traditions and history.

They want to throw everything out with the bathwater and start again, conserve nothing, they deem your children as theirs - to promote their world views - that is why they call you breeders!

It gets more and more bizarre.

Twinsmummy1812 · 17/03/2023 15:23

You can get round it buy saying you are celebrating Mothering Sunday for any special women in your lives (definition of a woman is down to the individual;))

pettysquabbles · 17/03/2023 15:24

oakleaffy · 17/03/2023 12:08

Kids deal with loss and grief all the time.
It’s part of life.

What a caring human being you are.

Mel146 · 17/03/2023 15:25

At first I was all for "mothers and others" but really there is no point. Just scrap these days because they can't be inclusive. Even if it is special person's day... For a child who lost their parent that is triggering either way. But then again, for a child who has lost their parent I think everything is triggering and that's part of the bereavement process unfortunately. I don't know, just scrap it all it's all so commercialised anyway.

Mel146 · 17/03/2023 15:26

Mothers and others if there are no children in class with recent bereavements. Otherwise, scrap it if there are.

pettysquabbles · 17/03/2023 15:27

Nightmare2022 · 17/03/2023 14:57

This is misogynistic. I am so sick of this crap.

Your life must be awful if you view everything through the lens of persecution. They do the same thing for fathers day. It's nothing to do with misogyny or the patriachy or woke, etc. It's being sensitive to the fact that several children don't have mums/dads.

LittleFingerStrength · 17/03/2023 15:27

Whenwilliberich · 17/03/2023 14:42

one dad of two dads here. Adopted child. Mother’s Day brings up a lot for our kids. Lots of big feelings.

sons school did mothers or others day. Which I thought was sweet. However they asked me did I want him to make a Mother’s Day card. Of course I don’t - who’s he making it for? The school know the full background.

for those saying it’s a religious day Mothering Sunday blah blah. It’s not a religious school - why are they doing anything at all? He was crying last night because he has been told by another child that he can’t make the cakes because he doesn’t have a mother. Fine talk about Mother’s Day, and sweet of them to make it mothers or others day, but giving it a different name clearly hasn’t caused any inclusivity.

he couldn’t tell me which child has said he can’t do it, only the children that stood up for him, so it is quite possibly a made up story, but he’s still clearly thinking about his difference before he needs to (he’s in reception).

I know people have a globalist view of the world and want it to be exactly like their own personal utopia and wipe out history.

I liked when I went abroad I got to experience their traditional foods, unique customs and learning about their history.

The UK gains a lot of tourism due to our history. I say keep the Sminal cake, hot cross buns and Mothering Sunday.

If you don't want to do that fine, please stop erasing the history of this country. As an adopter I would think you would understand that family and history should not be erased because it is inconvenient or you don't like it!

Aphrathestorm · 17/03/2023 15:29

Misogynists shittery.

ilovesooty · 17/03/2023 15:29

LittleFingerStrength · 17/03/2023 15:27

I know people have a globalist view of the world and want it to be exactly like their own personal utopia and wipe out history.

I liked when I went abroad I got to experience their traditional foods, unique customs and learning about their history.

The UK gains a lot of tourism due to our history. I say keep the Sminal cake, hot cross buns and Mothering Sunday.

If you don't want to do that fine, please stop erasing the history of this country. As an adopter I would think you would understand that family and history should not be erased because it is inconvenient or you don't like it!

Weird. Nothing to do with this situation.

Greensleevevssnotnose · 17/03/2023 15:30

We did this 50 years ago when I was a child, I can't believe it's recent. We were asked to meke a card for the person who looked after us at home. Mine was usually joint as I had two parents

FancyFanny · 17/03/2023 15:30

Children who don't have a mother in their lives are a very small minority! These children should be encouraged to recognise a female in their lives that is special to them instead- be that a foster mother, a grandmother, an auntie, a sister etc. instead- and therefore helping them to come to terms with their own unique situation, rather than pretend it's 'special person day' and potentially see the other children's actual mothers not be recognised either. It's ridiculous to think that Mothering Sunday can't be celebrated for what it is because of such a tiny minority.

Butteryflakycrust83 · 17/03/2023 15:30

Aphrathestorm · 17/03/2023 15:29

Misogynists shittery.

And what was it called when they also did this on Fathers Day last year?

Read the thread FGS.

AcornGreen · 17/03/2023 15:31

The UK gains a lot of tourism due to our history. I say keep the Sminal cake, hot cross buns and Mothering Sunday.

While we’re at it lest keep unequal pay for women and misogyny!!! Why change anything if it gets a few tourist over to gawp at us?

Rainbowsandbutterflies1990 · 17/03/2023 15:32

LittleFingerStrength · 17/03/2023 15:27

I know people have a globalist view of the world and want it to be exactly like their own personal utopia and wipe out history.

I liked when I went abroad I got to experience their traditional foods, unique customs and learning about their history.

The UK gains a lot of tourism due to our history. I say keep the Sminal cake, hot cross buns and Mothering Sunday.

If you don't want to do that fine, please stop erasing the history of this country. As an adopter I would think you would understand that family and history should not be erased because it is inconvenient or you don't like it!

U come across like ur just reaching. This is about empathy and consideration of children who don't have a mum for whatever reason. The same as fathers day. But unfortunately for people like u I'm guessing u could make anything into what u want it to fit, which is ironic as u meantion agendas before.

Stickstickstickstickstick · 17/03/2023 15:35

@LittleFingerStrength u ok hun?