My child’s school have changed the name of Mother’s Day to special persons day, what do you think?

[Rainbow03]

Have we gone mad or is this appropriate?

For me, who still has a mother (albeit one who wished I was a cot death statistic) I find the change to special person difficult. I wouldn't have picked my mother for obvious reasons but the fall out would have been horrific.

I think not doing anything for either mothers day is the best solution for everyone personally.

@LittleFingerStrength why are you carrying on with this? What has this thread triggered in you? I’m sure it will be water off a duck’s back but with every posting, you reveal a little more of your unpleasant personality. Are you honestly this lacking in empathy? Why begrudge traumatised/trauma-experienced children a break from having their ‘otherness’ rubbed in their faces?

@EmmatheStageRat

This but I was going to be more blunt 🤨

YABU Mothers and others is a much better term!

But "Fathers and others" sounds rubbish.

Its a load of codswallop.

Completely cancels out the mother in mothers day. It would be funny if it was a Monty Python scene but unfortunatly its not.

Dads and Lads
Paw and More (US)

I read the OP and then commented. Hardly the crime of the century.

My son’s father died when he was 7 months old. The school made appropriate changes when he was little for Father’s Day, making a very clear ‘who is special in your life and let’s make them a card’. It was done with empathy and tact.

I honestly don’t think we need to change things like this, children are going to see it everywhere. The most important thing is they feel they have someone to talk to if it is upsetting or they feel left out.

Not a single person here has talked about cancelling Mother's Day. You're just making up your own truth.

It's a conversation about a school naming an activity slightly differently because doing so means no one gets hurt when it doing so likely means someone will.

You don't deal with your own trauma by trying to make life as equally shit for Lite kids.

Fathers and others does sound rubbish but in my experience, schools don't do as much for Fathers Day (may be because DC are in church schools or may be because more children have absent or difficult father relationships)

It takes a special kind of heartless bastard to not give a shit about the feelings of children whose mother has died.

It feels like mumsnet is becoming an extension of the Mail comments section sometimes. Someone will be along to call bereaved children woke snowflakes in a minute.

So the

Don't know what happened to that post. It should have said,

So the children who don't have someone they feel they can talk to.............

I think it’s a nice idea for those kids without mums.

Surely teachers can just tell the kids they can make the card for a special person if they would like, without changing its name. Kids aren’t daft. TV ads, shops are full of Mothers Day cards and presents, everywhere else it will still be Mothrrs Fay

It's not the same as sitting there with all your classmates making cards for their mum.

It's name has been changed anyway, the original name was Mothering Sunday, Mother's Day was a more recent import from America and it isn't celebrated on the 4th Sunday of lent. Everyone just bows down to the greeting card companies and bingo the name is changed.

Its Batshit

A friend growing up lived with her DF. Her DM walked out when they were young . He raised 4 girls alone. ( from age 3m, 2yr, 3yr 5yr)
On MD they just made their DF a card to Dad on Mother's day. Even now they mark it for him as he has always been mum and dad to them all.

And how did they fee when the teachers were talking about it being Mother Day? Would they have preferred it to be Special Persons Day so the difference was less obvious? Because there are people on this thread saying it was THEM in that situation and it was shit.
Maybe your friend didn't care, was happy to stand out and defiant in praise of her Dad, which is awesome. Maybe not all of her siblings were.

I think it is very sensitive. These dates can be very hard for bereaved children. Imagine having to make a card for your mother who has passed away!

I would love getting a card made by DD, but she made one at home, I don't think should do this in schools.

Yes, god knows it's hard enough for adults whose mothers have died. I'd be happy with any solution that made it easier for a child in that situation.