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My lovely Mum 😭

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Sofiabella · 11/03/2023 19:38

I'm sick to my stomach with fear.
My mum recently found a painful lump/swelling in her armpit and has been having spells of her breast being red and hot to the touch. She went for her annual mammogram and has been called for further tests.

I just know in my heart it's inflammatory breast cancer and I am heartbroken.

I can't lose my Mum 😭😭

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doubleshotcappuccino · 11/03/2023 19:41

Just wanted to say I'm sorry this must be so stressful. Your lovely mum sounds like she's got a lovely daughter to support her too xx

Flowersintheattic57 · 11/03/2023 19:44

Tough one. Sending hugs.

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Sofiabella · 11/03/2023 19:51

Thank you both for replies.

She's my children's world too. Her tests are on Tuesday but she's pretty much convinced and her symptoms aren't good. I'm just terrified.

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ToBeOrNotToBee · 11/03/2023 19:52

Could very well be a cyst.

Try not to worry too hard, impossible I know x

Lastnamedidntstick · 11/03/2023 19:53

Generally, pain is a good thing as tumours are usually painless which is why they are hard to find.

here’s hoping it’s an infection or a cyst.

LakeTiticaca · 11/03/2023 19:56

Fingers crossed that it not as bad as it seems. Keep hopeful xx

ArianahX · 11/03/2023 19:56

Be prepared for the worst but stay positive in case it's good news.. I know how you feel as my mum is very sick, our mums are so precious x

ScentOfAMemory · 11/03/2023 20:03

Oh bless you.
Sending you and your lovely Mum strength Flowers

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Sofiabella · 11/03/2023 20:06

I had a dream about going to her house and seeing all her things and her not being there and I felt the pain even in my dream. It scares me so much to think that this could be my reality. I'm 32 and I know our parents aren't going to be around forever but I still need her. I know she's scared and trying to hide it.

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Diversion · 11/03/2023 20:22

I had similar symptoms and suspected the same as you. I was lucky and it turned out to be a very rare but large benign tumour. Hoping that your lovely Mum has good news too. Sending much strength to you both

backtoitin40s · 11/03/2023 20:35

I was in your situation last year. I'm afraid the worst case scenario became our reality. But you know what, when it happens you deal with it. Your worst nightmare becomes your new normal. It's not easy and I feel I'm living under a cloud that was not previously there, but life does go on & your perspective shifts & you truly do count the blessings you have & appreciate every single moment. I truly hope you're not faced with this but if you are, you'll be ok. Sending hugs.

LulooLemon · 11/03/2023 20:36

Sending strength OP

StaceySolomonSwash · 11/03/2023 20:43

Hugs. It's horrible waiting for a possible diagnosis. They're seeing her Tuesday, I know from experience that if they find anything they do start treatment immediately (and that treatment will vary depending on how aggressive the tumour is).

All I can say is I and some friends (that I made during treatment) are now in remission. One positive note is that tumours don't cause pain so that could be something minor. Please don't cross bridges until you get to them. Thinking of you and your mum.

catsnore · 11/03/2023 20:55

The waiting is horrible- you have my sympathy. But even in a worse case scenario there is still hope. I know a lot of people who have had breast cancer and are still with us. My own mum has beaten it twice. Don't assume the worst will happen xxx

monicagellerbing · 11/03/2023 20:57

My mum had breast cancer, its extremely treatable OP. Please try not to worry. My dad actually died on Monday. Your mum is here.

NeonHalo · 11/03/2023 21:01

So sorry OP. My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer this week (totally different symptoms to your mum by the way!) and I’m desperate with worry about it. She is the heart of our family and the thought of losing her is horrendous.

I do hope all works out okay for your mum and it’s something easily treatable. Sending a hand hold x

Ollifer · 11/03/2023 21:02

I was 21 when I lost my mum, but she lived with breast cancer for 16 years. It may not even be that so I would try to not think about that yet. But even if it is it doesn't mean the end. Hope you are okay.

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Sofiabella · 11/03/2023 21:06

You're all so amazing ❤️ total strangers taking the time to try and comfort me means the absolute world x

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1983Louise · 11/03/2023 21:29

Hopefully this will help you, I was diagnosed with stage one breast cancer and had a mastectomy one week before my granddaughter was born. Fast forward 3.5years and I'm living my best life, I'm 60 in July and really living my best life. Breast cancer isn't a death sentence now xx

HeyBwoss · 11/03/2023 21:39

Hey OP, my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2021. We were so scared, but she had a couple of ops, chemo and radiotherapy and she's ok now. She had treatment quickly, even when she had covid they still continued her radiotherapy. I hope your mum is ok too, if it is breast cancer. Flowers

icysky · 11/03/2023 21:46

Huge gigantic virtual hugs

It could be a number of things. Pain generally means it’s not as serious. It is extremely treatable even if it is what you’re fearing. DP’s grandmother had this and recovered, and my aunt also had and recovered over 10 years ago now.

Oncemoreforluck · 11/03/2023 21:58

Big, big hugs for you. It’s an awful time.
I was also 32 when my DM was diagnosed with breast cancer. I’m now 56 and still have my mum, fit and healthy. So please don’t think the worse, because there is very often a positive outcome. X

slowquickstep · 11/03/2023 22:31

Lets hope you are worrying about nothing. Remember we are all rooting for you both. Flowers

Iwannabeacrocodilehunter · 11/03/2023 23:58

Sending hugs.

mrsfollowill · 12/03/2023 00:07

My mum is nearly 80 and was diagnosed with breast cancer last summer. She has multiple other health problems as well. Treatment for breast cancer is really quite advanced.
At first it was very traumatic - hers is in-operable as it is lodged in her chest wall- but that said she is having treatment that is actively shrinking her tumour so we hope to have her with us for a good while longer.
She was worried she would be 'written off' at her age but the oncology team have been amazing and she still has a really good quality of life plus she is not in pain with it.