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My lovely Mum 😭

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Sofiabella · 11/03/2023 19:38

I'm sick to my stomach with fear.
My mum recently found a painful lump/swelling in her armpit and has been having spells of her breast being red and hot to the touch. She went for her annual mammogram and has been called for further tests.

I just know in my heart it's inflammatory breast cancer and I am heartbroken.

I can't lose my Mum 😭😭

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shivermetimbers77 · 13/04/2023 08:47

Fingers crossed OP!

butterpuffed · 13/04/2023 08:59

I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2016 stage 2 . Had a lumpectomy and it had spread to the nearest lymph node when they tested . All nodes removed in a separate operation and it was only in that one node . Radiotherapy . 7 years ago and I've been fine .

I hope all these positive stories give you strength and hope. Good luck for today 😊

dickdarstardlymuttley · 13/04/2023 09:12

Thinking of you Flowers

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Sofiabella · 13/04/2023 08:20

My mum gets her CT/MRI results today. I feel so sick 😭
Praying that it hasn't spread and is as treatable as the consultant seems to think.

Lots of love and good wishes for your mum, today. I’ve been there with my mum, hers had metastasised and was aggressive, so a bit different, but she’s still here, years and years on! Living with cancer and you’d never, ever know she had it. It doesn’t affect her, she just has a monthly short treatment. It’s incredible what they can do now.

Plingston · 13/04/2023 10:18

Hope you get the news you want today. It is nerve wracking waiting for results and makes you feel so sick, but just try not to too far ahead or read too much into things because it is so emotionally draining. And things change quite frequently - you think you are on one path with one plan and then things change again based on results of various tests or how you are responding. In my experience the panic does eventually pass, even though it feels like you'll never get used to it at first.

I am in my early thirties and have an aggressive grade 3 breast cancer which is in my lymph nodes too. They still consider my cancer as curable but won't know what stage I am until after my surgery. So even if your mum ends up getting some worse results at some stage, it doesn't necessarily mean the worst. As far as I understand it, breast cancer is considered curable at every stage but 4, so better than some other cancers. When I had my CT scan they found lesions on my liver, which was terrifying. I was convinced the cancer had spread already. They had to do further scans on my liver and they turned out to be two different benign types of lesion. Nothing to do with my cancer at all. I was so convinced that it would be bad news but the strength of my feeling had no bearing on the reality of the situation. Hope that makes sense and can reassure you a little.

oachkatzl · 13/04/2023 10:25

I went through this with my Mum. Her breast cancer was stage 3, not sure what grade, and was considered curable. She had two sessions of chemotherapy and that actually shrank the tumour to nothing. But unfortunately she wasn't well enough due to other conditions to withstand the chemo and became very ill after both chemo sessions so she decided not to have any more treatment. Despite no treatment it was 3 or 4 years before the cancer metastasized.

Breast cancer is very treatable these days. I have an aunt who was diagnosed 20 years ago. She had a mastectomy and there has been no recurrence of cancer anywhere.

TidyDancer · 13/04/2023 10:31

Sending lots of love and best wishes today OP. I've had a friend go through this and it was terrifying but the treatments really are amazing, so much can be done and there is lots to feel positive about with your mum based on what you've been able to find out so far. I hope both she and you are coping as well as you can.

(My friend is three years clear now and doing well)

Justlovedogs · 13/04/2023 10:38

Only just seen your thread and read all your posts, OP.
Thinking of you and your lovely mum today. I really hope you get some positive news. Sending virtual hugs.

REP22 · 13/04/2023 10:41

Keeping everything crossed for you both. The waiting is awful.

bunnyrabbitsandbutterflies · 13/04/2023 10:57

Sending you lots of love. Such a scary time for you all Flowers

octoberfarm · 13/04/2023 11:28

Keeping everything crossed for you and your lovely Mum today, OP. Good luck Flowers

aibutohavethisusername · 13/04/2023 11:44

Thinking of you and your Mum today.

landsharkr · 13/04/2023 12:10

Hi OP, just read the full thread. Praying for you and your lovely mum today, sending hugs Flowers

Mariposista · 13/04/2023 12:11

Sending very best wishes to your mum. It sounds like they have caught it early and her cancer is treatable. If she is generally in good health too, fairly young, not a smoker or drinker, this will help.

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Sofiabella · 13/04/2023 12:28

It hasn't spread! CT and MRI both completely clear, will just need surgery and hormone tablets, no chemo or radiotherapy!! Her consultant said the words "this is not a life or death situation."

So unbelievably relieved!

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MrsRickAstley · 13/04/2023 12:29

So happy for you both, what an utter relief it must be.

pompomdaisy · 13/04/2023 12:31

I got told by doc when I had pain in my breast that pain is a good sign. It was.

Ithurtsthebackofmyeyes · 13/04/2023 12:35

Sofiabella · 13/04/2023 12:28

It hasn't spread! CT and MRI both completely clear, will just need surgery and hormone tablets, no chemo or radiotherapy!! Her consultant said the words "this is not a life or death situation."

So unbelievably relieved!

The best bloody outcome possible. Great news.

Justlovedogs · 13/04/2023 12:42

Good news indeed. So, so pleased for you both. Flowers

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Sofiabella · 13/04/2023 12:47

I'm so so grateful to every single one of you for the support and genuine compassion you've shown to a complete stranger on this thread ❤️

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Swiftbushome · 13/04/2023 12:57

OP that's bloody brilliant!! I'm so pleased for you and your mum 😊

chimayrah1 · 13/04/2023 13:03

I am sorry to jump in but I have to say this - pain generally isn't a sign of breast cancer but it is a sign of inflammatory breast cancer, which is highly aggressive but also luckily much more rate (and also tends to present more commonly in younger women between 30 and 40).

I just wouldn't want anyone reading this to come away thinking pain=not breast cancer because it could stop them seeking help.

catscatscurrantscurrants · 13/04/2023 13:14

Very very glad for you and your Mum xx

LadyOfTheCanyon · 13/04/2023 13:22

Ah OP I've been following your thread and am so very glad to hear your news. Best wishes to the pair of you. If there's a better reason for a celebration, I'd like to hear it!

REP22 · 13/04/2023 13:27

That's really encouraging news. So pleased for you and your mum. Good excuse for coffee and cake! xx

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